Any adult child of an alcoholic has heard, watched and believed enough B/S to last a lifetime. From excuses like, "I am not drunk. I just haven't had enough sleep lately," to "Your father isn't drunk. He's just really tired from working so hard" to a plethora of other comments, we children from denial based homes have the ability to spot a lie from one thousand yards.
On a vibrational level we knew when we were being lied to when we were four, and when someone is trying to bullsh** us now, we know it too. But the problem we adult children of alcoholics have is, we do not have the skills that allow us to deal with the lies, and the bullsh** appropriately. Many of us know we are being lied to, or deceived, but we do not know what to do about it when it is happening in the moment.
Here are a few tips I would like to share with you to help you be able to more readily take care of your inner self when you become aware that you are being abused by a liar who is essentially trying to...
Dear Ones, knowing HOW to recover will require you to know the WHAT is wrong first.
If you are under the impression that your feelings are all there is to what is happening in your life, and if you are purely going by how you feel--you may be confusing what you feel with what is going on within you on a quantum level.
Yes, your feelings are the indicators. But sometimes we ACOA's confuse pity with love, or we confuse the fear of being alone, with a mashed potato like experience of feeling or thinking we should stay in relationships.
If you are in codependent relationships--you must first learn to DETACH.
How?
1.) Research Detachment
Getting a clear understanding of what the hell detachment is--will help you gain a conceptual idea of what is wrong as well as what it means to actually be able to detach. Yes Dear Ones--Knowledge is power--so get on it!
2.) Meditation
You will hear me say over and over again, that a whacky mind that is full of B/S which is nothing but recycled mental...
Saturday January 10th, 2015 at 6:30 p.m. EST, broadcasting live with questions and answers from callers, Lisa A. Romano.
If you are the adult child of an alcoholic, or narcissist; if you have grown up feeling like you were never enough; if you fear your feelings--or have been taught that what you think does not matter--please consider calling in to ask Lisa any personal questions you might have.
This will be a live broadcast, and all are welcome to listen and call in.
Namaste!
We Are One!
Please Share Dear Ones!
Namaste Dear Ones!
I 'see' YOU, I 'hear' YOU, and I can 'feel' you!
If you are the adult child of an alcoholic, or if you are the adult child of a narcissist, of if you are unsure of your parent's emotional issue, and you believe you have been raised by dysfunctional beings, know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
However, I know--you may absolutely 'feel and believe' you are alone.
Dear One, the key to healing is found in the very aspects of our selves that we have been conditioned, programmed and brainwashed to deny, suppress, repress and be ashamed of.
Yes!
We have absorbed our parents negative, dark energies.
How?
Through the law of vibration and through consistent mirroring of dysfunction--we have been pulled out of alignment with our very core--which is divinely positive and abundant.
Now what?
All is not lost Dear One. Learning the keys to recovery is all it takes to begin learning how to become more in alignment with your core nature.
In this tele class we will be tackling the very...
If you are an Adult Child of an Alcoholic-you know how painful breaking the cycles of dysfunction can be. You know the guilt that comes when we see, feel and hear ourselves making the same mistakes in our lives, as our parents did in theirs.
Taking part in this upcoming Tele Class will not be like an Al Anon or a CODA meeting.
You will be coached by Lisa A. Romano for ten full hours and learn how to specifically confront and change your subconscious programming.
You will be surrounded by other Anonymous ACoA's who are as committed to finally healing and moving beyond the ACoA label as you are.
Please join us from March 7th to April 5th from 9 am-11 am EST (2015) on a conference call.
Plan on taking notes--recording the lessons--and learning more than you could ever imagined.
Expect for your awareness to be blown open and for your life to change!
Dear One,
The MP3 is now available that tells you exactly HOW TO HEAL your codependent patterns.
If you are the adult child of an alcoholic, codependent or love addict, and you want to change the patterns that are destroying your chances of being happy in this life experience, then this audio is for you.
Love is not nor should be a fairytale-the codependent fantasy.
What many people do not realize is that when you are emotionally abused as a child, patterns of relating to others--as well as to self are impacted in negative ways.
If you were emotionally abused as a child and treated with indifference, then you have been programmed to see self as a victim. The psychological term for this is called 'learned helplessness.'
Unfortunately those of us who were abused, tend to attract narcissistic type personalities.
It seems we emotionally abused children attract partners later on in life who fail to have the capacity to have empathy and or compassion for others. As adults we attract similar energy beings to our parents, as if we are seeking a matching glove to our childhood experiences.
Research with powerless dogs has indicated that when a being feels powerless to escape cruelty, the being will eventually 'give up' believing escape is possible. When this happens a mental switch is turned off, that disengages the mind from ever believing that choice...
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