We are confused and rightfully so.
The ego and the brain cause us to falsely believe in a unilateral experience that is framed in seconds and moments in time.
We think that what is happening now is happening now only because of what is happening now.
Our psyche, nervous system, and all other systems of the body are overrun by external stimuli which triggers internal stimuli to become activated. As a result, our subconscious beliefs and preconceptions are in control.
Our real self observes silently, like an eagle perched on a high branch, until the psyche begins to awaken to the self.
Our childhood experiences matter. The body, as well as memory, have recorded each experience of each stage of our childhood. Each stage of our childhood was experienced by a child with a unique perspective and that perspective depended greatly upon many factors, like our age, parental influences, socioeconomic conditions, stress levels, nurturing and or the lack of nurturing.
The younger we were, the...
Codependent recovery, when done deeply will kick our ass.
As codependents, we have lost our identity and who we think we are can be enmeshed with how worthy or valuable we are to others.
OMG and SMH!!!!
Codependents make OTHER people our GOD!
We make other people our HIGHER POWER!
We obsess about taking care of people who can't take care of themselves, and often, we rant, rage, and complain the entire time we are catering to the needs of others.
We are out of control, pissed, depressed, and resentful, because we are tired, frustrated, and feel abandoned.
We do not know we are abandoning the self and WORSE--we do not know how to RESCUE the self.
WHAT A FREAKING EMOTIONAL, SPIRITUAL, NEUROLOGICAL, VIBRATIONAL, PHYSICAL, and PSYCHOLOGICAL MESS!!!!!!!!
Withdrawal is a HUGE part of CODEPENDENT RECOVERY and it is SCARY AS HELL!
We don't know how to NOT take care of other people, or how to NOT anticipate the needs of others.
We don't know how to focus on our own self-care.
We don't know...
October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and the charity I support is Safe Horizons which offers immediate resources to our brothers and sisters in need.
I wanted to share legislation that Safe Horizons has just helped pass here in New York. Due to the efforts of this amazing charity, they have passed a law that allows NYC to provide families in crisis with baby diapers and baby wipes.
This may not sound like a big deal, but for the mom or dad who has just fleed a domestic violence situation with barely the skin on their backs, diapers and baby wipes are a much-needed necessity that is easily overlooked, not to mention, they can also be expensive.
Please read about the change those at Safe Horizon and their partners of volunteers and supporters are helping to bring to the lives of those who discover themselves in chaotic and troubling dynamics.
"For parents of babies, toddlers, and very young children, there are many concerns and needs to be met for their little ones. Many...
The older I get the more humble I become, and the more I appreciate the saying, "Youth is wasted on the young."
The decades I spent chasing, begging, reacting, and pleading to be heard, understood, respected, held, nurtured, and loved are all gone.
The only thing ANY of us have that is worth worrying about is our TIME.
Time is the ONLY thing you can NEVER get back.
It is not our fault we are born asleep.
It is not our fault our mind is dualistic and both conscious and unconscious at the same time.
It is not our fault that NURTURE is primarily responsible for what beliefs, thoughts, and behaviors drive our lives.
It is not our fault our brain is designed to RECALL and REMEMBER pain.
It is not our fault we have been raised by people who are under the organic and natural spell of the wounded ego.
BUT--if we are to PUSH humanity forward, it is our responsibility to AWAKEN to the truth and then do all we can to LIVE that truth--in spite of those who still believe in the lie.
The truth sets us free but that does not mean it is easy to look at, pull apart, process, respect, work through, or heal from.
I was raised by an ex-Marine who struggled with his emotions who ingrained my siblings and I to believe crying was a form of weakness. Whether this had anything to do with his own perception of being a 'Tough Marine' or not, the ideas he brainwashed into my siblings and I have had devastating and lifelong consequences.
My father refused to ever allow himself to feel vulnerable and raw. He feared to expose himself and his true emotions because he was afraid of being seen as weak. Feeling vulnerable as an adult male hit too close to his pocket of pain and shame, the one that nearly consumed him when he was about 3 or 4 years old.
My father's mother committed suicide when he was just a young child. His father was a raging alcoholic who hid his emotions by drowning them out with six packs of beer. My father had no healthy male role models. And so, because this...