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You're Human Darling -- Embrace It

Your Divine Innate Intelligence vs Artificial Intelligence

We need to be careful. The world is becoming more reliant on artificial intelligence and it is happening right under our noses. 

Why should you care?

Imagine this -- we have scientists and engineers working to program robots to attune themselves to humans, and yet, most of us are tuned OUT from the self. 

How is it, within each of us is innate potential, far greater than any form of artificial intelligence, and yet, so few of us know how to tap into that divine intelligence?

If you are an adult child from a less than nurturing home, you may have been 'programmed' to detach from your emotions. 

  • Your home was hostile, unpredictable and you felt unsafe
  • Your parents were addicts, narcissistic and ignored your needs
  • You were abused emotionally, mentally, physically, and or sexually
  • You were humiliated for crying
  • You were guilted for having a need
  • You were shamed publicly and embarrassed as a form of punishment
  • You...
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What to look for in relationships

Healthy Relationship Signs

If you were raised in a home where wounds were created daily and exploited often, and you are on a quest to find a healthy relationship as an adult today, you may be looking out for danger signs, without paying attention to healthy signs.
 

The Fear of Intimacy

Abused adult children can spend their lives in fear of becoming hurt inside relationship dynamics. We can fear intimacy, vulnerability and tone ourselves down. On the flip side, we can be too open too soon, and expose our deepest and most wounded parts of ourselves without building faith in the other person first.
 

Children in Adult Bodies

We are children in adult bodies and often do not realize that our fears as well as hopes are driving our emotions and behaviors. For these reason, when we are unaware we are unaware, we don't always make the most sound choices when it comes to choosing partners or friends.
 

What Does Your Healthy Relationship Look Like

 
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Narcissists & Boundaries

 

Narcissists and Boundaries

Someone who loves you, cares about you and actually wants to know how you REALLY feel, welcomes open communication. Someone who is mature, has your back and can experience you as a 3D autonomous being WANTS to know how you experience the world.
 
However, when faced with needing to set boundaries with narcissists, this is not the case.
  • Narcissists will find ways to punish you for daring to set boundaries.
  • They are angered by your desire to have an open dialogue.
  • They are resentful that you dare to suggest they've crossed a line and how you feel never crosses their mind.
 

Overt Narcissist 

 
Overt narcissists are easier to spot. They will bully you, verbally abuse you, demean you and treat you unkindly and often, openly in front of others.
 

Covert Narcissist 

 
Covert narcissists however, find other ways to show their hidden rage, aggression, and resentments. When dealing with covert narcissists, you will need...
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Signs of a toxic relationship

"Lisa, why do you always talk about toxic relationships, narcissism, and childhood trauma? Shouldn't you talk more about happy things?"
 
Not that long ago, I received this DM on Instagram. I smiled for a bit and then realized it might be helpful to know why we need to know the signs of a toxic relationship.
If you were raised by pushy, self absorbed caretakers, or by those who were immature, and did not know 'how to' attune themselves to you as a child, you may have been taught to DOUBT your inner reality.
 
If your father or mother was narcissistic, immature, abusive, aloof, and or emotionally cold, you may not have a strong self of self that has the ability to VALIDATE how you feel. If this is the case, you will NOT readily acknowledge abuse for what it is. Instead, you will deny, rationalize, and normalize abusive behavior because as a child, you were not conditioned to feel as if how you felt or experienced the world was important.
You may even chase after...
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It is healthy to ask

What do you generally do when you have a need for clarity while speaking to someone?
 
What do you generally feel when someone has lashed out at you, verbally abused you, and is using you as an emotional punching bag?
 
What do you do when you are sick, feel unwell and have those who ask you to take things on you know you cannot?
 
If you were taught to believe it was your responsibility to do what others think you should do because NOT doing what was expected might be seen as rude, unkind, or selfish, it is time to take a good long look at how well you do at setting healthy boundaries.
 
If you were taught to believe love was conditional and it was your job to absolutely become what you knew others wished for you to become, you may have a hard time asking for space and time to consider choices that are most authentic for you.
It is healthy to 'ASK' and to show up for your authentic self, even if you know your truth will disappoint some. Those who...
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Children are meant to feel seen

Children are meant to feel seen. They are born to embrace the ever developing ego as parents do their best to manage safe boundaries. Children need to be encouraged as well as disciplined and as often as a child is told 'yes' it is important to balance their perceptions of expectations with a fair dose of 'no'.
Narcissistic parents have not grown past ego.
They justify and rationalize their selfishness, toxic relationship choices, and fail to look at the consequences of their actions. Sadly, it is far too easy to pretend a painful reality does not exist and that children are not being impacted by a parent's level of self absorption than it is to make changes that will rock the boat.
Far too often, children are made to feel like it is their job to make their parents look and feel good. Their faces might present two upward pointing lips, but their eyes will tell the truth. They are stuck and feel powerless to the parents who make excuses for the way they criticize, devalue,...
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Shame makes self forgiveness a near impossibility

Shame makes self forgiveness a near impossibility.
 
The more wounded you are, the more dysfunctional beliefs you hold about the self. If you have never felt loved, you may believe and feel that you are unworthy of love. You may not know how to connect with the North Star within. Your North Star is your divine self, however, when you have been raised in chaos, what matters most is not what is happening inside of you. What matters most is surviving what is happening outside of you, around you and to you.
 
What happens to us, becomes like a thick layer of tar on our souls. This tar is shame and although it is not our fault we feel shame, our minds have become twisted to believe we are responsible for the shame we feel.
 
Unraveling this one neurological, emotional, cognitive, psychological, vibrational, and spiritual knot can take a lifetime.
 
Yes, we feel shame, and yes we may falsely feel responsible for the shame we feel, and what has caused the shame,...
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20 Truths a Narcissist Will Hide From You and Hope You'll Never Figure Out

20 Truths a Narcissist Will Hide From You and Hope You’ll Never Figure Out

Narcissism exists on a spectrum and it is  considered a personality trait. When someone is considered to be narcissistic, we can assume this person is grandiose, self absorbed and in love with the facade they wish others to admire, cater to, fawn after, and succumb to.  

Covert narcissists are those who carry  around the ‘woe is me’ attitude. They may appear as vulnerable, helpful, and even altruistic. On the inside, this person will harbor resentment, feelings of anger, and become vengeful when others do not give into their demands. Vibrationally, they feel as if the world owes them. Relationships come down to what you can offer them. If it is attention they require, you will be roped into melodrama whether real or imagined. If you do not offer them what they demand, you will be punished in some way.  They are distrustful, exploitive, and entitled. Making ...

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Gaslighting Narcissist

Gaslighting Narcissist 

 

Narcissists are cunning, manipulative and exploitive.

 
They seek those who are agreeable, kind, empathic, and often in emotional pain to dominate and control. It is never the fault of someone whose emotions were exploited by a narcissist, when they find their minds have been scrambled like eggs by a predatory type personality, period!
 
Gaslighting is utter abuse at every possible level.
 
A narcissist will gain your trust, draw you in, become everything they have learned YOU need, and once you are dependent upon them for all of your emotional needs, they've got YOU!
 
A narcissist will brainwash you over time to believe that YOU are the one with the problem. Since they have convinced you -- you should trust them, you do, but what you don't see is how they, at the same time have manipulated you to feel insecure about your thoughts, feelings, perceptions and decisions.
 
Double Jeopardy has begun!
 
If you...
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