When you are codependent, your mind is living in the past. All of the survival techniques you learned as a child, keep you on the codependent -- narcissistic treadmill, unaware you are dancing with another unaware dance partner. Two wounded peas in a pod, rinse, repeat and recycle patterns from the past; patterns that were based on trauma, abuse, neglect and rooted in survival.
Narcissists don't always know they are narcissists. They may know they are selfish, callous, and short tempered, but they often quickly justify, and rationalize their lack of empathy for how their razor edged tongues and cold hearts impact other people. They are quick to hush guilt away and to silence the whispers of the conscience.
If a narcissist steps on your toes, it will be your fault, and if you are highly sensitive to abandonment, you are the one who offers the standard, "Oh I am sorry. Please forgive me." The narcissist will remain in the lead as you follow along, pretending your toes don't hurt and your feet are not swollen. That is until you say, 'NO MORE!'
Narcissists are Codependent
Narcissists are more codependent than most codependents. They NEED you to cater, fawn, fear, and submit to their irrationality, rationalizations, and intimidation. They NEED to keep you around, tucked under their wing and living in fear of them abandoning you, blaming you, or shaming you. That is until you say, 'NO MORE!'
The healing codependent has begun to AWAKEN to the lies their minds have been believing, and as they stay on the recovery path, consciousness begins to lead them back to the DIVINE SELF. This is a HOLY journey indeed!
Lisa A. Romano is a Life Coach and Bestselling Author who specializes in Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse. She is the creator of The 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program. Lisa has a number of different online coaching programs that allow people to learn how to heal themselves of faulty childhood programming.
Lisa helps her clients understand the power of the subconscious mind, when activated through higher consciousness which gives rise to greater understanding of the ability to love the self completely.
To learn more about Lisa's on demand codependency recovery program visit https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp