Adult Children of Alcoholics-What It Will Take For You To Really Recover
by Lisa A. Romano
Dear Ones, knowing HOW to recover will require you to know the WHAT is wrong first.
If you are under the impression that your feelings are all there is to what is happening in your life, and if you are purely going by how you feel--you may be confusing what you feel with what is going on within you on a quantum level.
Yes, your feelings are the indicators. But sometimes we ACOA's confuse pity with love, or we confuse the fear of being alone, with a mashed potato like experience of feeling or thinking we should stay in relationships.
If you are in codependent relationships--you must first learn to DETACH.
1.) Research Detachment
Getting a clear understanding of what the hell detachment is--will help you gain a conceptual idea of what is wrong as well as what it means to actually be able to detach. Yes Dear Ones--Knowledge is power--so get on it!
You will hear me say over and over again, that a whacky mind that is full of B/S which is nothing but recycled mental chatter--that is the result of a survival like existence--is NOT going to help you recover. BUT quieting the mind--dropping the mind--and creating some peace and calm within the chambers of the mind will.
3.) Psychic Vibrational Blocking
We all share quantum entanglements with others. It is impossible not to as we are all vibratory beings. So--if mom is a narcissist--you must block yourself from her energy.
By shielding yourself energetically with sage or by mentally commanding your brain to block her psychic energetic attacks--you literally shield yourself with protective energy. Sound whacky? Yeah I know, but it works.
4.) Cut The Chords
Again, because this is a vibratory universe, and because the electrons on our Atoms (our Adam) are constantly jumping, trading, absorbing, and exchanging with other energy beings (other Adams) in our experience, YOU must take control over who you share quantum space with.
If you are engaging in gossip--that is aimed at hurting someone else's reputation--uh oh--guess what kiddo? YOU have aligned yourself with the energy that is negative, harming, shaming, and mean spirited. So, do not be surprised if you experience some negative, harming, shaming and mean experience some moment very soon.
YOU MUST TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR THOUGHTS--YOUR RELATIONSHIPS--AND WHAT WORDS ARE COMING OUT OF YOUR MOUTH!
5.) Take Inventory of Your Fears
By taking an honest inventory of your fears, you will then have created a Road Map out of the swamp that is keeping you stuck.
When you are afraid of being alone, and you know that you are afraid of being alone, you also know that you stay in relationships that suck simply because you're afraid of being alone.
If you know you want to be happy, but you know you stay in crappy relationships because you're afraid of being alone--then by FACING THE FEAR OF BEING ALONE you erase your need for staying stuck in crappy relationships!
If you do not face the fear of being alone, then what? Sure, like most people you'll blame your partner, and say things like, "He doesn't listen to me. He lies to me. He makes me feel like sh**."
But imagine if, instead of making excuses for why you cannot be happy--you made a list of all the fears, and then went down the list and began taking action steps to alleviate the fear?
IF NOTHING CHANGES--NOTHING CHANGES
YOU ARE A CREATOR DEAR ONE
NOW GO FORTH AND CREATE!
I love You All,