Adult children of alcoholics are everywhere. It is estimated that 1 in 4 children have had the misfortune of growing up in a sloppy alcoholic home. That is an outrageous number, and maybe instead of attacking cigarette companies, we as a society could possibly start zeroing in on what is truly wreaking havoc on our society and especially our children.
Okay, enough brewing over 'crap' I cannot change single handily and on to the business of self empowerment for we ACoA's as well as Grandchildren of Alcoholics--and heck--let's face it--this kind of recovery work is for ANYONE who was raised by parents who did a crappy job teaching you how to freakin' love your SELF.
Dear One--recovery IS possible. I know because I have done it. I am living a peaceful life. Gone are the runaway like thoughts in my head, that were once drizzled with self doubt, self hate, self criticism and alike. No longer is my focus attuned to what is happening outside of me. I no longer worry who likes me...
Dear Ones, knowing HOW to recover will require you to know the WHAT is wrong first.
If you are under the impression that your feelings are all there is to what is happening in your life, and if you are purely going by how you feel--you may be confusing what you feel with what is going on within you on a quantum level.
Yes, your feelings are the indicators. But sometimes we ACOA's confuse pity with love, or we confuse the fear of being alone, with a mashed potato like experience of feeling or thinking we should stay in relationships.
If you are in codependent relationships--you must first learn to DETACH.
1.) Research Detachment
Getting a clear understanding of what the hell detachment is--will help you gain a conceptual idea of what is wrong as well as what it means to actually be able to detach. Yes Dear Ones--Knowledge is power--so get on it!
You will hear me say over and over again, that a whacky mind that is full of B/S which is nothing but recycled mental...