While the term 'codependency' may be clouded with misunderstandings, it is quite an epidemic. In fact, it is a worldwide epidemic, although rarely does the common man stop to ponder such deep thinking thoughts.
By common man, I am referring to those amongst us who have forgotten or perhaps have never learned to think.
Codependency is a programmed condition that is rooted in the very fibers of the blueprint that becomes a beings subconscious belief system.
Why is this important to pick apart and totally understand?
Because if you do not know your Self--you are no more than a walking, breathing zombie. That's right, a zombie.
Before I began my recovery journey I often said, "I feel like a shell." I didn't feel real, but I didn't know why.
I believe that the disconnect between my psychological mind, which was founded on my subconscious belief systems and the most natural facet of me; my spirit/soul/self was the reason I did not feel whole.
In fact, I wasn't whole. I was a fragmented...
When your parent is an alcoholic, drug addict, narcissist, or emotional manipulator of some kind--their main agenda is get their own needs met. YOU as their child--on a heart level--do not feel validated. Instead, you feel wrong, ill, inept, tainted, unworthy, broken, and in the way.
Children are born seeking outside of themselves for love, acceptance and validation; which is why when a mother gives birth to a child--the tiny little being does not jump off of the delivery table and begin walking down the hospital hall and out into the world on its own. No--we human beings come into this time space reality needing--and wait for it--DESERVING of...
As a Life Coach, Mentor, Consultant but primarily ADVOCATE for adult children of alcoholics, I understand all too well the silent ills that can plague the mind of a being who has been conditioned to believe that the very essence of who they are--is unworthy.
Every single one of us--including YOU the entity reading and translating the little letters on this page was born perfect, worthy and yes dear one--even ENOUGH!
But what happened?
Why have so many of us gone astray?
How is it--if you and I were born worthy--that we can feel so empty and lost on the inside?
Take a deep breath, perhaps grab a cup of tea--and allow your mind to absorb the information you are about to take in. You may have to read this article and others like it many times over before the wisdom is able to be absorbed by your very tattered mind. This is not your fault. Your mind has been programmed to not only reject information about the validity of your soul--but it has been taught to NOT trust the very emotions...
Adult children of alcoholics are everywhere. It is estimated that 1 in 4 children have had the misfortune of growing up in a sloppy alcoholic home. That is an outrageous number, and maybe instead of attacking cigarette companies, we as a society could possibly start zeroing in on what is truly wreaking havoc on our society and especially our children.
Okay, enough brewing over 'crap' I cannot change single handily and on to the business of self empowerment for we ACoA's as well as Grandchildren of Alcoholics--and heck--let's face it--this kind of recovery work is for ANYONE who was raised by parents who did a crappy job teaching you how to freakin' love your SELF.
Dear One--recovery IS possible. I know because I have done it. I am living a peaceful life. Gone are the runaway like thoughts in my head, that were once drizzled with self doubt, self hate, self criticism and alike. No longer is my focus attuned to what is happening outside of me. I no longer worry who likes me...