As a Life Coach, Mentor, Consultant but primarily ADVOCATE for adult children of alcoholics, I understand all too well the silent ills that can plague the mind of a being who has been conditioned to believe that the very essence of who they are--is unworthy.
Every single one of us--including YOU the entity reading and translating the little letters on this page was born perfect, worthy and yes dear one--even ENOUGH!
But what happened?
Why have so many of us gone astray?
How is it--if you and I were born worthy--that we can feel so empty and lost on the inside?
Take a deep breath, perhaps grab a cup of tea--and allow your mind to absorb the information you are about to take in. You may have to read this article and others like it many times over before the wisdom is able to be absorbed by your very tattered mind. This is not your fault. Your mind has been programmed to not only reject information about the validity of your soul--but it has been taught to NOT trust the very emotions...
Dear Adult Child of an Alcoholic,
Come sit beside me and rest your weary heart.
Gather all of your brothers and sisters who have had their tender hearts beaten by the earth beings who were intended to support your growth spiritually, intellectually and physically.
Open your hearts dear one and heed the vibrations of these words. Allow, allow, allow them to penetrate through the deep layers of scars that have left you feeling separate and alien even unto your own Self.
I know, I know, I know how hard your life has been.
I know, I know, I know how often you have tried to please them.
I know, I know, I know how good you are inside. I see it, I feel it--you dear one are a tired soul.
You could have never known that the people who were supposed to nurture you--were ill themselves--and detached from their own divine magnificence.
It is not your fault that the beings who were supposed to adore you, shelter you, protect you, and feed your soul were beings who were starved...
Adult children of alcoholics are everywhere. It is estimated that 1 in 4 children have had the misfortune of growing up in a sloppy alcoholic home. That is an outrageous number, and maybe instead of attacking cigarette companies, we as a society could possibly start zeroing in on what is truly wreaking havoc on our society and especially our children.
Okay, enough brewing over 'crap' I cannot change single handily and on to the business of self empowerment for we ACoA's as well as Grandchildren of Alcoholics--and heck--let's face it--this kind of recovery work is for ANYONE who was raised by parents who did a crappy job teaching you how to freakin' love your SELF.
Dear One--recovery IS possible. I know because I have done it. I am living a peaceful life. Gone are the runaway like thoughts in my head, that were once drizzled with self doubt, self hate, self criticism and alike. No longer is my focus attuned to what is happening outside of me. I no longer worry who likes me...