When a childhood has been unpredictable, our need for control goes on overdrive.

When our emotions have been stuffed, they create tension inside our bodies. This tension we think needs to be managed by trying to control everything and everyone.

We try to control how we feel...we try to control how other people feel...we try to control what other people think...and what they do.

What we need is peace, but because we have never experienced peace, we falsely believe controlling anything and everything will bring us peace.

The sad, freaking, truth is, peace comes only when we finally let go.

Learning to accept what you cannot control is a journey. It happens slowly and overtime.

Codependency is a real thing...

Being too nice is a real thing...

People-pleasing is a real thing...

Learning to love yourself, and to accept what you could not control as a child, leads you to the peace you seek on the inside.

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If you knew you were enough, what would you do today?

If you knew you were enough, what plans would you make for the following year?

If you knew you were enough, how would you feel around others?

If your needs were not met as a child, and if how you felt went ignored, you have been taught and conditioned to ignore your own needs.

This is not an attack on parents.

This is simply a wake-up call to look within, listen to your inner self, and understand why you do what you do and why you don't do what you should do.

If you never feel good enough, that is not your fault.

Learning to use self love tips that can help you feel enough must be put into action. When you never feel good enough, you suffer from self-blame, self-doubt, and struggle with codependency symptoms. When you never feel good enough, you may sometimes not know why.

You may struggle with loving yourself and not understand why it is so hard to feel good enough. 'I am not enough' stuff is most often rooted in childhood. When our parents have innocently or purposefully caused us to doubt we are worthy of their time, love, validation and attention, we can assume it is our fault and begin to believe we are never going to ever be good enough. 

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As children, we did not have a choice. We were powerless to others and to the perceptions that were created by our very limited, fragile, and impressionable minds.

But—we are NOT children anymore.

Today, we CAN remind ourselves that we are ENOUGH and that what happened in our pasts does not have to hold us back, define us, or prevent us from GOING AFTER OUR DREAMS.

Love addiction sucks!

If you are the kind of person that obsesses over love interests, then you know what it feels like to feel totally OUT OF CONTROL!

Have you ever driven past a love interests house dozens of times, hoping they might just ‘happen’ to catch a glimpse of you ‘coincidentally’ passing their house? Have you texted and then texted again, and then texted some more, when your love interest did not text you back? Have you stalked their Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram accounts? Have you stayed up all night fantasizing about who they are with, what they are doing and about why they haven’t called you since breakfast? Does your mind ruminate and worry about what they think about you, your hair, your lips, your car, your dog, your house and so on?

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Emotional Sobriety is a gift and it is what we should all be striving for.

When we are emotionally sober, we are not reactive, impulsive, or lost in a sea of survival mechanisms. We are deliberate in our thoughts, actions, and intentions. We do what we can to avoid thinking that is rooted in lack. We learn to honor what we have been through in the past, acknowledging that the power to overcome is a sure thing!

Healing from the past is definitely tricky, BUT, understanding it is POSSIBLE certainly brings us HOPE, as we become more aware of what has been holding us back.