What goes in sticks.
What goes in must come out.
Verbal abuse as a child is impressed upon the subconscious mind and in time becomes what the ego fears and the inner critic spits back.
Verbal abuse is akin to taking a bat to the mind and heart of a child. Some of the worst abuse committed upon children is done through airwaves.
If you verbally abuse yourself, you’re not crazy. There is a reason.
The wonderful news is you can reprogram the tongue of the inner critic if you can assure the ego it’s safe to let go.
Refuse to abuse YOU any longer!
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Narcissists have shadows as we all do but unlike healthier others, they are unable to experience self-awareness or self-realization. Their minds work to ward off seeing themselves and all their character flaws for what they are.
If they are liars, they will never see themselves as such or they will rationalize why they abuse you, deceive you and continue to take from you.
If they steal from you, they will not see it as stealing. Instead, they will rationalize why they are entitled to take from you without having to give to you.
They will tell themselves a story that prevents them from understanding how their selfish, self-serving behaviors are acceptable.
They will never admit that they lie, cheat, or steal. Their minds will always justify why they have done what they have done.
They will never see you as a victim of their personality disorder. Instead, they will forever view themselves as a victim, fail to take accountability and as soon as they are done with you, they are on to...
When we are codependent we do not realize that our sense of balance, peace, safety, and identity is reliant upon someone or something outside of us.
We are 'attached' to the idea that someone or something or some experience is responsible for our happiness or unhappiness.
It could be our looks, our weight, our hair, our career, our standing in a church, community or organization -- it could be our relationship status -- it could be a spouse -- a child -- friends -- a boss -- coworker -- or a career we falsely presume is the source of our happiness or identity or our misery.
When we are codependent, our ideas are confused and our neural pathways are short. We do not realize we are children in adult bodies and suffering from decades of abandonment.
We are in the habit of abandoning the self, the inner child, our bodies, and stay stuck in loops of dysfunctional reactionary behavior.
We make other people our God or our executioner and we are unaware as to the power we hold within...
Love addiction is intoxicating. It is also catastrophic as it is built upon the broken bones of a wounded inner child.
When we have come from homes that have caused us to question our worth as human beings because those who loved us have missed the mark by failing to appreciate how crucial it was for children to FEEL seen, wanted, and understood, a great gaping hole forms in our soul. This hole aches to be filled and behaves like a vacuum for what the ego believes will fill it.
The ego is immature. Its concepts about love are childlike. Ego is under the illusion that fairy-tale-like love will fill this void and allow the being that we are to finally feel FULL, WHOLE, and ENOUGH. Ego operates with limited understandings. It does not know about addiction. It does not understand that groveling, obsessing, and begging are behaviors that are tied to our initial abandonment. Ego only knows pain vs pleasure and with its limited understanding about love, believes a fairy-tale is what it...
Twenty years ago, my children and I were living in the eye of a messy emotional tornado. The fringes of our family unit were coming undone and my ex-husband and I were cracking under the pressure of over a decade of unresolved b/s.
When you decide to change your life by ending a marriage and especially when you have children, the angst of the innumerable unknowns rattles your brain. Times like the holidays become feared and many of us discover we white-knuckle it until January 2nd.
When you are in the midst of change, you don't know that your brain is hyper-aware because it is trying to protect you and that it feels unsafe in unknown waters. All you know is you feel terrified.
For years my body, mind, soul, and even my children paid the price for my unconsciousness. I did not know I was codependent, feared abandonment, and felt powerless. Two decades ago if you would have suggested I was insecure, felt powerless, and expected others to offer me a sense of worth through my catering...
Love bombing is an emotional and psychological weapon narcissists must rely on in order to gain access to the inner and sacred parts of their victims where they will do the most damage.
Imagine the president of a major bank, who knew the ins and outs of the bank's security system robbing the bank. Because the president of the bank was trusted by all, they were able to steal from the bank with ease.
Narcissists use love bombing to gain their victim's trust. As victims of narcissistic abuse become more trusting of the narcissist, the narcissist is able to do the most damage. In time, narcissistic abuse victims will distrust their emotions, ideas, beliefs, and thoughts. The narcissist will do all they can to brainwash their victims into submission.
It is my hope, this podcast helps anyone out there who is suffering from narcissistic abuse, learn to understand why narcissists must use love bombing as a tool to manipulate those they target.
Emotional abuse is most often accomplished through the manipulation and use of language.
Words can be used to create the illusion of love, while below the surface there can be a covert attempt to manipulate the one being abused.
Listen in and hear if any of these phrases sound familiar to you.
It is not easy to spot a covert narcissist. They can appear to timid, shy and insecure. Their goal is to manipulate you into submission by appearing to be a safe person all the while below the surface, a sinister agenda is waiting to unfold.
Covert narcissists embrace the role of victim and use their victimhood as a way to manipulate others into emotional submission. Their goal is to exploit their victims emotionally, financially, and or spiritually. They are secretly angry and feel entitled to abuse others and to distort their reality to achieve their goal of getting others to praise them, acquiesce to them, and take care of them.
In this podcast, you will learn more about the signs of covert narcissism you might want to make yourself aware of. If you've ever felt the need to have other people listen in on conversations you've had with a narcissist because you are afraid maybe you are crazy, you've probably experienced gaslighting, which is a common...
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