True Love

1. True love feels safe
2. True love feels nurturing
3. True love feels calm
4. True love feels easy
5. True love feels protective
6. True love feels expansive
7. True love feels accepting
8. True love feels inviting
9. True love feels connected
10. True love feels warm

People often ask me what real true love feels like.

I get it.

It's hard to describe what a strawberry milkshake tastes like unless you've experienced strawberries.

It is not morbid to contemplate one’s mortality.

It is humbling and only the humble shall be free.

When you are humbled by your transitory existence, and you respect the natural laws that govern this 3D space, you grow less desiring of wasting your precious breath on people, thoughts, and actions that are in opposition to life which is expansion.

Draw ALL of your spiritual juices from problems, people, beliefs, conversations, and alike from ANY situation that is in opposition to LIFE.

Forgive because if you do not, negative energy causes a lag in your spiritual, mental, and emotional expansion. This is the opposite of what you are, which is LIFE itself. Make decisions as you must but immediately following the choices that must be made, once again, draw your attention from any false power you have given to things outside of you and focus on a sense of thanksgiving, imaging your life expanding in all directions.

For ions, the world has been living below the veil of...

If people looked more like animals, it would be easy to know who to avoid.

If manipulative, abusive, narcissistic people looked like lions, tigers or bears, most of us would avoid them. But, abusive people look like regular people and many narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths are wonderfully charming when we first meet them.

YIKES!

Many of the most damaging people out there are the ones who don’t look like evil people. Many are wolves in sheep's clothing whose energy feels more like carbon monoxide than clean air. The abuse they cause is invisible and debilitating. We don't know we are dealing with lions or wolves because we cannot see them clawing at our hearts or gnawing at our skin.  The ick we feel is internal and sadly, manipulative people are so good at convincing you that YOU are the problem, it can take a lifetime to understand the ick is really not you--and it is a symptom of living with someone who sees others as toys they use to entertain their egos,...

It is vitally important that we as human beings take steps to consider how we feel.

Without asking ourselves how we feel, we can stay in unconscious states, repeat old patterns, get sick, and spend our lives managing chaos.

When it comes to narcissistic abuse, this is not always easy to spot. Narcissists are very convincing, in fact, they are incredibly convincing and totally believe they are right and all others who oppose them must be wrong.

Complex PTSD is a symptom of traumatic events we were powerless to control. Our brains and minds work in tandem to keep us safe and when there is trauma, our brains record the sensory information experienced during past traumas for future recall.

Why?

So that we can avoid painful traumatic events in the future.

The HARDEST thing to do in life is to learn how to LOVE YOUR SELF!!!!

Why?

It is easy to love others because we don't know all of their flaws--like we know our own.

It is easy to love others--because it is easy to fantasize about the idea that someone else is totally freaking awesome--because we are not aware of their shadow side.

It is hard to love the self--because we know what our flaws are. We know what we look and smell like at 4 am. We know the way food gets stuck in our teeth. We know our hair and skin are thinning. We know we have cellulite and spider veins. We know our sisters, brother, mothers, fathers, and spouses have crappy opinions of us. We know we aren't always good with money. We know we sometimes scratch our asses and do the kinds of things that are socially unacceptable, like release a fart in public when no one is around. I mean come on--if you have ever farted in public you know the one you love has too. It's time to just get REAL!

Our brains are NOT...

Sometimes taking care of the self means we have to let go of relationships that are causing us harm, pain, frustration, and spiritual inflammation.

Codependents are dependent on people. We seek validation, acceptance, and permission to feel what we feel and think about what we think. Even when we are 'feeling' and 'believing' we should end a friendship or some other type of a relationship like a marriage or business agreement, we struggle with believing we have a right to do so. Even when we get angry, we look to the one who has pushed our buttons for permission to feel upset.

You are more powerful than you know and that is why fear is used as a tool to manipulate the masses.

Fear cripples the mind, body, and the soul, literally.

When triggered, we cannot remember that we are magnificent creators. Our creative minds are overcome by visceral sensory information and our consciousness is propelled back in time. We are NOT adults with rights and liberties when we are crippled by stress responses. We are powerless children acting out of the only defenses we know and through the ego.