Dear one, I am here to tell you that it is NOT your job to make other people happy - just like it is not their job to make you happy! You, just like everyone else, have the ability to make and keep yourselves happy.

You also do not have to agree with everyone you talk to. It is okay to have disagreements with someone and it is okay to not think the exact same way as another person. It is not okay to get reactive. if someone is passionately saying the sky is purple when you know it is blue, it is perfectly fine to say "okay, if thats how you feel" and walk away. Maybe even change the subject. This is setting a boundary with yourself; when someone disagrees with me, I will not feel the need to prove myself or force myself to agree with them - I will honor how I feel - and let myself think for myself.

Learning how to set boundaries is also about learning about why you do not know how to set boundaries. Learning how to love yourself is the first step in setting boundaries.

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When Life Drops S**T at Your Door and it, Will You've Got Decisions to Make

Be a Warrior, not a Worrier 

As we enter into a New Year, we all must do what we can to stay on the healing path, monitor our thoughts, mind our vibrations, and pluck out of our consciousness those ideas that pinch us off from the stream of abundance, health, happiness, contentment, joy, and peace of mind.

In times like these, doing so can feel like a herculean task.

What You See Outside of You Has Been Programmed Inside of You

Look at this picture. What do you see? Most of us would say that we see a mirrored reflection of the buildings showing up on the water. 

Reflections

I always found reflections fascinating. It is said that Narcissus fell in love with his own reflection after pushing Echo away. Echo loved Narcissus, or so she believed. Echo spent the rest of her life lonely until nothing remained of her but her echo. Sadly, this relationship mirrors many codependents who seek the approval and validation of charismatic, and often beautiful narcissists, who can only love themselves.

The Death of Narcissus

The Greek Myth reveals that Nemesis decides that Narcissus' cold behavior towards Echo cannot go without punishment. 

The classic version by Ovid, of Narcissus and Echo, suggests that Nemesis lured Narcissus to a pool where he fell in love with his own image. Narcissus withered there, with tremendous passion stuck inside of...

Your Divine Innate Intelligence vs Artificial Intelligence

We need to be careful. The world is becoming more reliant on artificial intelligence and it is happening right under our noses. 

Why should you care?

Imagine this -- we have scientists and engineers working to program robots to attune themselves to humans, and yet, most of us are tuned OUT from the self. 

How is it, within each of us is innate potential, far greater than any form of artificial intelligence, and yet, so few of us know how to tap into that divine intelligence?

If you are an adult child from a less than nurturing home, you may have been 'programmed' to detach from your emotions. 

• Your home was hostile, unpredictable and you felt unsafe
• Your parents were addicts, narcissistic and ignored your needs
• You were abused emotionally, mentally, physically, and or sexually
• You were humiliated for crying
• You were guilted for having a need
• You were shamed publicly and embarrassed as a form of punishment
• You...

Narcissists and Boundaries

• Narcissists will find ways to punish you for daring to set boundaries.
• They are angered by your desire to have an open dialogue.
• They are resentful that you dare to suggest they've crossed a line and how you feel never crosses their mind.

Overt Narcissist 

Covert Narcissist