We all have an ego and so we all need to make sure we are doing all we can to stay in check. The ego is that part of our personality that is always trying to protect the id, the part of us that is infantile, powerless and fears feeling vulnerable. Like an adolescent child trying to defend its 3 year old sibling, the ego will resort to its most known and well-rehearsed defense mechanism for help when feeling challenged or fearful.
Defense mechanisms are relied upon until we learn to be less-reactive. We learn to be less-reactive by CHOOSING to NOT react to every emotion, thought and feeling that passes through our conscious field.
If we want to be happy, we have to learn to be less-reactive. Reacting to every feeling we have is maddening as feelings come and go throughout the day. Learning to THINK about the way we FEEL is far more mature and gratifying.
How would your life change if you learned to PAUSE before you reacted to a feeling, thought, emotion or idea? How much chaos would the...
Plato has stated, “People are like dirt. They can either nourish you and help you grow as a person or they can stunt your growth and make you wilt and die.”
Part of being a grown up requires us to be responsible for what people we hold in our lives. If we treated our lives like we did our businesses, it would be easier to evaluate who should stay, or should go.
All experiences are energetic exchanges, like forms of commerce, although we tend to devalue what energy we give and receive. Of course, the more responsible we become for the self, the more we learn to value our greatest asset, which is our ENERGY.
While I don’t advocate ghosting every sour puss, Debby Downer, or Negative Nelson, I do believe that it is wise to at least take an energy inventory.
Who nourishes your soul?
Who depletes you?
Who leaves you shaking your head?
Who riles you up and has you focus on negative things?
Who inspires you?
Who lifts you up?
Who wants you to believe in lack?
Who supports the energy...
When a childhood has been unpredictable, our need for control goes on overdrive.
When our emotions have been stuffed, they create tension inside our bodies. This tension we think needs to be managed by trying to control everything and everyone.
We try to control how we feel...we try to control how other people feel...we try to control what other people think...and what they do.
What we need is peace, but because we have never experienced peace, we falsely believe controlling anything and everything will bring us peace.
The sad, freaking, truth is, peace comes only when we finally let go.
Learning to accept what you cannot control is a journey. It happens slowly and overtime.
Codependency is a real thing...
Being too nice is a real thing...
People-pleasing is a real thing...
Learning to love yourself, and to accept what you could not control as a child, leads you to the peace you seek on the inside.
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If you knew you were enough, what would you do today?
If you knew you were enough, what plans would you make for the following year?
If you knew you were enough, how would you feel around others?
Be grateful Dear One, because you are ENOUGH and only faulty ideas once separated you from being able to FULLY embrace the miracle that is LIFE!
Let no one or no thing separate you from the LOVE that you are!
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If your needs were not met as a child, and if how you felt went ignored, you have been taught and conditioned to ignore your own needs.
This is not an attack on parents.
This is simply a wake-up call to look within, listen to your inner self, and understand why you do what you do and why you don't do what you should do.
You can't fix a hole in the wall you can't see.
If you have no 'data' for how to honor your emotions, you will need to develop the ability to do so.
It is time to stop seeking external validation and to begin honoring the inner child who has had their eyes fixated on outer things they cannot control.
Shine your light on that inner YOU!
Love the inner YOU!
No matter who has been unable for any reason, to not meet your emotional needs, give you the LOVE you seek!
It is never too late to LOVE your INNER-SACRED--ENOUGH--YOU!
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If you never feel good enough, that is not your fault.
Learning to use self love tips that can help you feel enough must be put into action. When you never feel good enough, you suffer from self-blame, self-doubt, and struggle with codependency symptoms. When you never feel good enough, you may sometimes not know why.
You may struggle with loving yourself and not understand why it is so hard to feel good enough. 'I am not enough' stuff is most often rooted in childhood. When our parents have innocently or purposefully caused us to doubt we are worthy of their time, love, validation and attention, we can assume it is our fault and begin to believe we are never going to ever be good enough.
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As children, we did not have a choice. We were powerless to others and to the perceptions that were created by our very limited, fragile, and impressionable minds.
But—we are NOT children anymore.
Today, we CAN remind ourselves that we are ENOUGH and that what happened in our pasts does not have to hold us back, define us, or prevent us from GOING AFTER OUR DREAMS.
Hey, Dear Ones—life is temporary for all of us—and that is okay—because we are all in the same mortal boat.
Why waste our creative mind or our thoughts or our lives on ideas that prevent us from really GOING FOR IT?
Today, in spite of what has been, define ONE dream or ONE goal and see how many amazing ways you can think of to inch closer and closer to achieving your dreams.
This is a 3D world and it will require ACTION on your part to make your dream come true—so don’t let the past dictate your NOW or your future any longer.
GO FOR IT!
Namaste…
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Love addiction sucks!
If you are the kind of person that obsesses over love interests, then you know what it feels like to feel totally OUT OF CONTROL!
Have you ever driven past a love interests house dozens of times, hoping they might just ‘happen’ to catch a glimpse of you ‘coincidentally’ passing their house? Have you texted and then texted again, and then texted some more, when your love interest did not text you back? Have you stalked their Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram accounts? Have you stayed up all night fantasizing about who they are with, what they are doing and about why they haven’t called you since breakfast? Does your mind ruminate and worry about what they think about you, your hair, your lips, your car, your dog, your house and so on?
Those of us who have suffered from love addiction must understand that anything that causes us to feel OUT OF CONTROL is NOT good for us—and NO—not even that really, really hot guy that...
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