Human beings can go an entire lifetime, unaware that the thoughts that are flowing through our minds are all tied to what information, patterns, beliefs, and programs have been downloaded as a result of childhood experiences.
Childhood emotional neglect causes great trauma and many of us fail to recognize how being ignored, treated with indifference, and sometimes even with contempt, can cause us to become emotionally arrested without us even realizing this to be true.
Don't worry too much, if you avoid feeling YOUR emotions. We all do. It is normal to avoid pain and in fact, our brain was designed to avoid it. BUT--we are MAGNIFICENT HUMAN BEINGS and we are extensions of INFINITE INTELLIGENCE, so that means, we are CREATORS and we can change our BRAINS! We can face our pain, change our brain, AND create a new, healthier paradigm.
Codependents have been programmed to believe that what they feel, and what they need is unimportant. Childhood emotional neglect, as well as...
Codependents react to just about anything, everything, and anyone.
We are hypervigilant and live in fear of having our 'not good enough' nerve pounced on.
At our core, we feel abandoned, powerless, and as if we are broken. We have spent our lives trying to figure out how to fawn enough, shut up enough, do enough, cater enough, but nothing has offered us the feeling of love we have chased after.
We live on the edge and in fear of feeling further abandoned but we do not realize, in every interaction, and every time we react, we are recycling our initial abandonment.
As codependents we react to our emotions and the emotions of others; we react to what people do and don't do, and struggle to stay in our bodies, process our feelings and stay grounded in our own God Self Energy.
Our ego-mind has been in control for far too long, and only when we become disciplined enough to our inner self, can we hope to be less reactive to those things, people, situations and circumstances that brew outside...
When we look outside of ourselves and we see chaos, we must remember to quiet the mind, love the body, and look within.
If the matrix is confused, disordered, and chaotic, remember, that it is all too easy to become a part of what is happening outside of you.
It is not easy.
It is probably the MOST difficult of all spiritual tasks to achieve.
Closing your eyes to what is happening outside of you, regardless of the temptation to become a part of what is happening outside of you, because your egoic mind believes that if it can control what is happening outside of you, then you will feel less out of control IS the goal, no matter how ridiculously difficult.
Within you is a magnificent, abundant, perfect world.
Within you is a world of cells, organs, capillaries, neurons, arteries, minerals, vitamins, and more, all designed for your good.
Within you is the ability to imagine any state you desire.
Focus on your body. Love it...appreciate it...honor it...respect it...it is your truest and realist...
So much chaos happens inside the mind, body, and soul of a child when they are shamed for having emotions or negative reactions to how someone treats them.
When a child is shamed, they are forced to detach from the wound that caused their emotional reaction.
When they notice that mother or father, teacher, or some other authority is displeased with their emotional reaction, they let go of the very experience that has wounded them, in fear of further abandonment.
The unexperienced experience sits and rots over time. It never goes away.
Shaming a child causes them to detach and dissociate from the very essence of themselves that is necessary to help them navigate their lives in the directions of their fullest potential.
When a child is shamed, they are denied access to this potential and often, it is not until after much chaos in the adult life does this wounded inner child ever scream loud enough to be heard.
Shame forces the inner child to detach from the wonder that they are.
Have you ever known someone who hurt you just because you did not see things their way?
Have you ever been threatened emotionally, financially or physically by someone?
This is called exploitation and we all need to know the warning signs so we can enforce boundaries and avoid being hurt by those who believe they have a right to harm another.
Not one of us has ever been put on planet earth to suffer the abuse of another person.
We may not know this in our gut, and we won't if as children we were treated with little to no regard.
It is time to hold onto the self and to know the self as divine, worthy and valid!
From there, we consciously recognize the need to protect ourselves from predator personalities because, HELLO, they do freaking exist. And sadly sometimes they are the ones who have been endowed to protect us!
I am not saying we need to live in fear...I am saying we need to live CONSCIOUSLY and AWARE.
There is no need to hate anyone...but we do need to love the self and honor what we...
Being kind is awesome.
Being a furry friendly rabbit is awesome too, but without gut instincts, nice things can easily become prey.
Don’t delude yourself. Predators exist and while it’s awesome to think happy thoughts, it’s just as important to know there are those who prey off those who fail to acknowledge that where there is light there is also the dark.
Be kind and be smart too.
Narcissists come in all shapes and sizes with all sorts of tails to tell.
In time, inconsistencies in the stories they tell will emerge.
That will be your clue to be kind to yourself.
Walking away from abuse is not giving up. It is an act of self-love.
This post is for anyone who is dating, living, or working with someone who has an arrogant, intellectual air about them, who finds ways to put them down. This post is for anyone who has to deal with someone who behaves as if they are supremely more intelligent than others and who MUST find ways to tell the world how amazingly brilliant they are and often at your expense.
Not all narcissists are unintelligent sociopaths. Some of them in fact, are the brightest minds on earth. When we are dealing with an intellectual or cerebral narcissist, it can be even more challenging to hold onto the self because they have such a wonderful command of language.
In the end, consider how people make you feel.
If someone respects and loves you--you'll know it.
If someone is trying to make you feel bad so they can feel good--you'll know that too.
Drop into your heart space and ask yourself, "How does this person make me feel?" and then, listen.
Don't let any little smarty pants make you feel bad about...