Children are not possessions.

Children are not things.

Children are not here for adult’s amusement.

Children are angelic gifts who are on loan to us from the heavens and it is our job to cradle them with love, understanding, forgiveness, kindness, compassion, empathy, and protection.

Children should never be mocked, criticized, or treated with indifference.

They should not ever be compared to another sibling, friend, or family member.

They should not be lied to, persecuted, sexualized, or objectified.

They should never be hit or be exposed to domestic violence, drug abuse, or drunkenness.

Their lives and homes should be orderly and clean.

Children should have a routine and rules in their homes should be fair and predictable.

Children should have parents and caretakers who take an interest in their schoolwork, medical and dental care.

Children should feel like their emotions are important to those who have been blessed with the chance to care for them.

Children should be encouraged to...

If you are an adult who is suffering from low self esteem, perhaps it is time to ask yourself 'why'. Why do you think you struggle with self worth?

In many of the cases, our answers lie in our childhood experiences. Without knowing why we feel a certain way, it is all but impossible to heal the way we feel.

Have you been abused by a narcissistic parent? Do you suffer from low self-esteem? Have you been spiritually, verbally, physically, sexually, or psychologically abused? Have you been brainwashed to believe that you are unworthy?

It is not possible to have self-esteem when you never had parents who helped you develop a healthy sense of self. If you were raised by toxic parents, alcoholic parents, narcissistic parents, or if you were raised in chaos, if you were raised in foster care, if you suffered any type of ongoing trauma in your childhood, it is NOT your fault if you suffer from low self esteem today. 

If you are willing to be honest with yourself and begin...

There is nothing that upsets me or excites me more than an adult child of an alcoholic, or an adult child of a dysfunctional home who is on the cusp of being able to comprehend that he/she is NOT her thoughts.

When you are born to parents who cannot SEE you, who cannot HEAR you, who are unaware at how self absorbed they are--in relation to you--YOU never learn to be comfortable in your own skin. Because it is the absolute responsibility of the parent to instill within a child a sense of unconditional love and acceptance--children are not born knowing how to love self. In fact, children learn about their worth or lack of through their relationships with parents. If the parents are dysfunctional, then so will be the messages the child receives about self, others, the world, relationships and love.

Perhaps the saddest thing about being a wounded adult child of a dysfunctional parent--is how often we tend to argue for our limitations. We argue for why we can't stop smoking, lose...

Show me the way to peace and I shall obey those laws willingly because peace is my birthright and in a world full of chaos, a map is a wonderful thing. I am tired of not knowing what I do not know.

Obedience to certain natural laws helps guarantee a smoother ride here on planet earth.

• A chaotic mind cannot manifest what it desires. Instead, an untamed mind, that is reactive to every whim of ego will manifest more chaos.

Love addiction and codependency are NOT about love at all. They are about the fear of NOT feeling LOVE.

Love addiction is about compulsive thoughts and behaviors. It is about reactivity and a lack of self -control when it comes to emotions.

Many abused children grow up to become adult men and women who view love like a great tragic play, sort of like Romeo and Juliet, and yet, Romeo and Juliet were completely OUT of control, so much so they got everyone they knew wrapped up in their drama.

REAL LOVE is patient, calm, soothing, rational, fair, warm, nurturing, and kind. There is no up and down nonsense, gaslighting, compulsive behaviors, stonewalling, silent treatments, passive aggressiveness, or denial of facts.

The problem abused and ignored children have is this...the human imagination is a place that allows escape, and left to its own devices, many children believe that love must be the opposite of the supreme lack of disconnection which equals attachment and enmeshment.

Abused...

Every time we react with anger or rage we are stuck in a state of resistance to something that is taking place in our environment.

Consciously, and when not triggered, many of us understand that we do not have the right to control how other people live. If our neighbors are slobs and throw trash all over their property, although that totally sucks big time, staring at their garbage won’t change a thing, nor will punching your neighbor in the nose.

Our control is never outside of us.

We think that if this neighbor cleans up his property that we will feel better, and we might, but think about this for a moment. If we cannot be happy unless someone outside of us changes, then we are not in control over our state of being-ness. Something outside of us is.

UH OH—lions and tigers and bears oh MY!

Today, as yourself this question, “What conditions do I place on my level of happiness?”

If you are waiting for the kids to behave, your husband to draw you a bubble bath,...

Codependency sucks.

When you are codependent you often tolerate aspects of relationships healthier people would not. You may people-please, react, coerce, enable, deny, enmesh, and violate boundaries. You may be clinging to a relationship rather than letting go because you fear being alone. Perhaps you find a sense of value in the taking care of others and doubt you are worthy of a truly healthy relationship.

When we are breaking free from codependency we are learning to be patient with our process of healing. Much of our recovery will rely on our ability to be humble and self-analyzing. As we learn to see things in ourselves we do not necessarily like, we may be tempted to run and hide. It takes great courage to look in the mirror and to acknowledge there is something about ourselves we must change.

Remember to be patient and kind with the self as you learn to understand why you may have developed codependency. Healing the wounded heart takes time and much dedication to personal...

If humans could shutty-shutty, and just for 10 minutes a day, we could all live a more joyful life.

If we were all conditioned to PAUSE and reflect rather than feel the need to REACT to every emotion our brain noticed pass through our conscious field, we could all learn to have SUPER COMPUTERS for brains.

The reactive brain is a lizard brain and it DOES NOT have to be this way.

Emotions are indicators not facts.

Facts are facts and although how we feel is also a fact, we have the ability to think before we speak and to even CHANGE our emotions.

WHY would we want to change how we feel?

If I feel unworthy and the fact is my parents went out of their way to tear me down rather than build me up, my feelings around unworthiness are valid and they are REAL, but it is NOT a fact that I am unworthy.

Emotions need NOT be seen as things that are set in stone.

Yes, all emotions are valid and why we feel a certain way is valid too, but, the rational or the cause of why we feel the way we do may not be...