“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men” - Frederick Douglass

Could the chronic illnesses that people face in their adult lives be blamed on the trauma they had to face as children? According to a study published in the American Journal of Preventive Medicine titled ‘Relationship of Childhood Abuse and Household Dysfunction to Many of the Leading Causes of Death in Adults’, the answer is yes.

This study showed through scientific testing that abuse or neglect during childhood plays a big role in the development of autoimmune and other chronic diseases. This study was also important as it introduced ACE score, a measure of illnesses caused later in life by ACE (Adverse Childhood Events).

Children’s brain is still developing as they grow. If they are exposed to repeated traumatic experiences, it can weaken the development of their brain’s architecture and cause lifelong physical, mental and behavioral issues.

So if you suffer...

Self-love requires a certain level of maturity, logic and reason. In a world full of superficiality, materialism, and illusions, it can be all too easy to fall prey to emotionality. 

We have come to EVOLVE our CONSCIOUSNESS and when we approach the concept of self-love from the realm of LOGIC and REASON, it is EASY to see that loving the self just makes SENSE! And in fact, when we stand on the plane of logic and reason, we can see that NOT loving the self makes ZERO sense. 

When we love the self, we are acting MATURELY. We are no longer acting like powerless children who need permission to take a bath, read a book, or to have a spinach salad. When we love the self, we are acting like the grown ass adults we are and are no longer moving about through life thinking we have to put up with someone else’s abuse, nonsense, lies, minimizing, shaming, gambling, drinking, cheating and alike. 

If ALL people everywhere loved the self—there would be PEACE on earth....

The more we LOVE the self, the more LOVE we shall experience from the outside world.

Until we learn to give ourselves the emotional support, kindness, empathy, forgiveness, and compassion we deserve, we may stay stuck in unhealthy patterns seeking what we deserve and need from the outside.

We are BLOCKED from LOVE instead of being able to FLOW and RECEIVE LOVE and this is the opposite of what we have come to do.

The brain prefers the familiar, even when the familiar causes us to repeat painful patterns from the past.

The brain prefers the familiar, even when the familiar causes us to feel arrested, stuck, dependent, angry, depressed, critical, sad, lonely, frustrated, and codependent.

The brain prefers the familiar because, by nature, predictable circumstances are far less fear provoking than fears of the unknown, even if those predictable circumstances are painful.

Self-love and self-compassion are required in order to live a joyful life.

Appropriate Self-love is not selfish. Self-love that is malignant is the type of love that exists at the expense of others and is exploiting of others. Those who are uncomfortable with us setting boundaries might accuse us of being selfish, once we start saying, “Hey, knock it off”, and we might wonder if we have a right to be self-loving when someone is suggesting we should not honor our selves and we should instead honor what they want instead.

CPTSD is a symptom. It is not you--it is your programming that needs to be addressed, and learning to detach from the story that created the traumatic symptoms in the first place, can assist the healing process.

Scary but true. 

Human beings can go an entire lifetime, unaware that the thoughts that are flowing through our minds are all tied to what information, patterns, beliefs, and programs have been downloaded as a result of childhood experiences. 

Childhood emotional neglect causes great trauma and many of us fail to recognize how being ignored, treated with indifference and sometimes even with contempt, can cause us to become emotionally arrested without us ever realizing this to be true. 

How happy are you today, really?

How individualized do you feel?

Do you feel confident and like you can stand on your own two feet?

How dependent are you upon others, financially, emotionally, or physically?

Do you tend to enmesh with others?

Are you more comfortable when taking care of or rescuing others who seem to 'need' someone to take care of them?

Do you avoid what is really bothering you and instead busy yourself with other things, like other people's issues rather than focusing...

We do not always consider how thoughts weave together manifestations in a 3D dense world. We think a thought and then never ponder the circumstances of thinking a thought, and particularly a dense negative thought, but, maybe we should.

There is no such thing as separation, and there are only frequencies separating one reality from another, so it makes sense to spend some time considering how it is thoughts can become things.

Atoms are that magical aspect of all that is that allows for thoughts to become 'things' in a 3D world and to ignore this fact, is sort of like being born with a voice like Celine Dion, but never singing.