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When we lack boundaries, we are feathers in the wind

Boundaries help us stay in our own lane. They help us honor our emotions, feel our feelings, and honor our internal wisdom.

When we lack boundaries, we are feathers in the wind. We feel distracted, powerless, and we are unsure whether we are following our own drum or the drum of others.

When we lack a healthy sense of self, we suffer with self doubt. We don't know if we should trust our judgment, intuition, decisions, or if we have the right to end relationships with those that are negative, critical, draining, argumentative, and abusive. We stay, shut ourselves down, rationalize, and hush our internal wisdom to sleep.

Boundaries help us detach from the fear of what other people think. They allow us to experience our emotions, our beliefs, our desires, and our personal truth. They allow us the freedom to discover who we are, in spite of who others want us to be or tell us who we should be.

There are those who won't like it when you set a boundary. They will become angry when you...
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When we grow up thinking other people must like us, we are doomed

When we grow up thinking other people must like us, we are doomed. We are doomed because there is absolutely no way we could ever control what is happening inside someone else’s mind.

In addition, most people are unconscious most of the time and the lens in which they view the world is skewed by their past experiences. The way people look at you and perceive you is determined by their pasts.

From this perspective, we can all take a deep sigh of relief and fully acknowledge how irrational and absolutely useless it is to worry ourselves sick over making sure other people like us. That is not to say we forget our manners and stop holding doors for other people. It means we hold ourselves with integrity, humility, and do what we can to have compassion for ourselves as well as for all.

The people amongst us who do not know they are asleep are not living at all. They just don’t know it.

Be kind, be fair, and don’t play with porcupines who think their fuzzy bunny rabbits.

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When we HOLD onto anger, resentment, fear, guilt, it is our body that suffers

People who love themselves and who have learned the value of self-care ultimately understand how detrimental it is to NOT forgive the self or others.

When we HOLD onto anger, resentment, fear, judgment, guilt, or rage and we feel the need to punish others for what they have done to us, it is our body that is holding onto those hot coals. It is our gut that is churning with the fire of negative emotions and it is our soul that is prevented from ascending into higher realms of spirituality.

Yes of course, unconscious people can do bad and terrible things, and so can you and me. Every human being is both light and dark, but the goal is to evolve past the dark so we can heal our bodies through the power of our minds and integrate more fully, become more light-body activated and maybe even help others to do the same.

You are more space than you are anything and more energy than you are matter, therefore the space that holds the energy that you are must matter.

Self-care that ignores the...

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If you want to be happy, stop relying on shit you can’t control!

Every time we react with anger or rage we are stuck in a state of resistance to something that is taking place in our environment.

Consciously, and when not triggered, many of us understand that we do not have the right to control how other people live. If our neighbors are slobs and throw trash all over their property, although that totally sucks big time, staring at their garbage won’t change a thing, nor will punching your neighbor in the nose.

Our control is never outside of us.

We think that if this neighbor cleans up his property that we will feel better, and we might, but think about this for a moment. If we cannot be happy unless someone outside of us changes, then we are not in control over our state of being-ness. Something outside of us is.

UH OH—lions and tigers and bears oh MY!

Today, as yourself this question, “What conditions do I place on my level of happiness?”

If you are waiting for the kids to behave, your husband to draw you a bubble bath,...

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Self care is one of the greatest keys to emotional health

Self care is one of the greatest keys to emotional health. The more you care for your teeth, the stronger your teeth will be. This seems like common sense, so why do so many of us naturally ignore the self?

We are a society of unconscious minds who have been programmed to gain bonds and form attachments to other unconscious others.

Many of us have been indoctrinated to worry more about others than ourselves prior to learning the most important lesson, which is to love the self.
Many of us have been raised by parents who saw us as extensions of themselves, like one might view a pair of designer shoes. We have been conditioned to make others look good and in the process, we have been psychologically cut off from our higher self.

Many of us are so damn angry, sad, or hurt, that we are blocked and unable to access the vault that is full of the heavy emotions we need to purge in order for our bodies to heal.

If any of this sounds like you, you’re not alone. We all have a difficult time...

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Self-love is the KEY to EVERYTHING.

One of the easiest ways we can learn to love the self is by setting an early morning intention. Left to its unconscious devices, the brain runs in loops and patterns of behavior. If we are not careful, we can live an entire lifetime unaware, un-awakened, and unconscious. A human being can go 100 years and never once feel truly AWAKE.

Self-love is the KEY to EVERYTHING.

Not loving the self draws into your experience all the unhealthy patterns from the past. Loving the self acts like a KEY and helps unlock DNA codes that allow for ABUNDANCE, JOY, PEACE, CONTENTMENT, and SERENITY to flow into your experience.

This weekend, see if you can begin your day with journaling about your intentions. Intend to see beauty everywhere you look. Intend to feel joy and wonder as you peer into the sky. Intend to love the self and to offer the self-compassion and empathy.

Taking the time to INTEND to live in a more ABUNDANT vibration helps your body, mind, and soul fill with UNIVERSAL LOVE.

This is a...
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Codependency and the Fear of Losing Control

For many of us, the idea of self-love makes us feel uncomfortable. We may have no clue what self-love looks like or feels like. Some of us may even confuse the concept of selfishness with self-love. If we grew up with rigid parents, our concepts of self-love may be rigid as well. This is not our fault, however, nothing changes until something changes. We can’t change our parents but we can change the programs they helped create in our minds as they pertain to self-love.

Becoming more self-loving means we allow ourselves to become less rigid in our thinking. We are learning to allow ourselves permission to not be so perfect. Perhaps this means we don’t make our bed one morning, or we dare to travel out without make-up. Maybe instead of working 10 hours a day, we knock off early to go sit in the park and feed some birds. For others, becoming less rigid might be not hounding our kids about cleaning their rooms. It also might include deliberately choosing to give our...

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The True Meaning of Easter

Many are celebrating a resurrection today.

Many are praising the cheating of death.

Many are giving thanks for salvation.

Today is a wonderful time to reflect on the human ability to resurrect and save one's life from the concept of eternal death, by learning to embrace the POWER of SELF-LOVE.

Each and every one of us has come to confront the old and be born anew.

When we AWAKEN and begin to understand the automatic default settings of the human brain, consciousness is pierced, and a NEW concept of SELF can be born.

When you have been asleep (a sheep) and you are unaware that your conscious mind is barely conscious at all, born is the ability to become born again.

When you are birthed into darkness, you know nothing of the LIGHT.

When you are indoctrinated to believe you are powerless, unworthy, and unlovable, you are blind to the LIGHT.

When you are in a world that mirrors darkness, you know nothing of the LIGHT that you are.

How could you?

When the blind lead the blind there is...

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Self Care Tips

Self Care Tips to be Codependent No More

  1. Start each day with a meaningful intention
  2. Meditate every morning even for just ten minutes
  3. Do deep breathing exercises to help calm your mind 
  4. Get a calendar and schedule exercise time
  5. Be sure to get enough sleep
  6. Avoid negative and draining conversations
  7. Make sure you eat well and perhaps speak to a nutritionist
  8. Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you
  9. Get out of the habit of defending yourself unnecessarily
  10. Develop nightly routines that involve eating a good meal, reading a nurturing book, soaking in a warm Epsom Salt bath, and moisturizing your skin. 

Self-care is one of the greatest keys to emotional health. The more you care for your teeth, the stronger your teeth will be. This seems like common sense, so why do so many of us naturally ignore the self?

We are a society of unconscious minds who have been programmed to gain bonds and form attachments to other unconscious others.

Many of us have been indoctrinated to...

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Self Care and Letting Go

Sometimes taking care of the self means we have to let go of relationships that are causing us harm, pain, frustration, and spiritual inflammation.

Codependents are dependent on people. We seek validation, acceptance, and permission to feel what we feel and think about what we think. Even when we are 'feeling' and 'believing' we should end a friendship or some other type of a relationship like a marriage or business agreement, we struggle with believing we have a right to do so. Even when we get angry, we look to the one who has pushed our buttons for permission to feel upset.

When it comes to letting go, it helps to consciously accept that none of us ever let go because we want to. Letting go is always painful. We always doubt ourselves and we are never happy about doing so. We let go because the person we trusted has acted in a way that has caused us to understand that the trust we once had is gone. We let go because we understand, that the person we care for does not value who...

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