We have to keep this in mind. A narcissist is like speaking to a tree. A tree is convinced its a tree. But what if the tree was really a bush but the bush just thought it was a tree?
Some narcissists insist they are kind, wonderful human beings. They are unaware they are not trees--they are NOT kind and they are not LOVING. Instead they are self-absorbed and only exhibit kind and loving behaviors when it SUITS THEM.
They are only able to appear to be kind and loving when doing so helps make THEM look good.
Beware of the wolf in grandma's clothing, who smells like warm baked apple pie. They may have tears in their eyes, gifts in their arms and look like sheep, but before long, you'll begin to feel like you've got claws in your back.
The shy vulnerable narcissist is the person who uses a sob story to lure you into their lair of emotional doom! They will...
Human beings can go an entire lifetime, unaware that the thoughts that are flowing through our minds are all tied to what information, patterns, beliefs, and programs have been downloaded as a result of childhood experiences.
Childhood emotional neglect causes great trauma and many of us fail to recognize how being ignored, treated with indifference, and sometimes even with contempt, can cause us to become emotionally arrested without us even realizing this to be true.
Don't worry too much, if you avoid feeling YOUR emotions. We all do. It is normal to avoid pain and in fact, our brain was designed to avoid it. BUT--we are MAGNIFICENT HUMAN BEINGS and we are extensions of INFINITE INTELLIGENCE, so that means, we are CREATORS and we can change our BRAINS! We can face our pain, change our brain, AND create a new, healthier paradigm.
Codependents have been programmed to believe that what they feel, and what they need is unimportant. Childhood emotional neglect, as well as...
Codependents react to just about anything, everything, and anyone.
We are hypervigilant and live in fear of having our 'not good enough' nerve pounced on.
At our core, we feel abandoned, powerless, and as if we are broken. We have spent our lives trying to figure out how to fawn enough, shut up enough, do enough, cater enough, but nothing has offered us the feeling of love we have chased after.
We live on the edge and in fear of feeling further abandoned but we do not realize, in every interaction, and every time we react, we are recycling our initial abandonment.
As codependents we react to our emotions and the emotions of others; we react to what people do and don't do, and struggle to stay in our bodies, process our feelings and stay grounded in our own God Self Energy.
Our ego-mind has been in control for far too long, and only when we become disciplined enough to our inner self, can we hope to be less reactive to those things, people, situations and circumstances that brew outside...
When we grow up thinking other people must like us, we are doomed. We are doomed because there is absolutely no way we could ever control what is happening inside someone else’s mind.
In addition, most people are unconscious most of the time and the lens in which they view the world is skewed by their past experiences. The way people look at you and perceive you is determined by their pasts.
From this perspective, we can all take a deep sigh of relief and fully acknowledge how irrational and absolutely useless it is to worry ourselves sick over making sure other people like us. That is not to say we forget our manners and stop holding doors for other people. It means we hold ourselves with integrity, humility, and do what we can to have compassion for ourselves as well as for all.
The people amongst us who do not know they are asleep are not living at all. They just don’t know it.
Be kind, be fair, and don’t play with porcupines who think their fuzzy bunny rabbits.
People who love themselves and who have learned the value of self-care ultimately understand how detrimental it is to NOT forgive the self or others.
When we HOLD onto anger, resentment, fear, judgment, guilt, or rage and we feel the need to punish others for what they have done to us, it is our body that is holding onto those hot coals. It is our gut that is churning with the fire of negative emotions and it is our soul that is prevented from ascending into higher realms of spirituality.
Yes of course, unconscious people can do bad and terrible things, and so can you and me. Every human being is both light and dark, but the goal is to evolve past the dark so we can heal our bodies through the power of our minds and integrate more fully, become more light-body activated and maybe even help others to do the same.
You are more space than you are anything and more energy than you are matter, therefore the space that holds the energy that you are must matter.
Self-care that ignores the...
Every time we react with anger or rage we are stuck in a state of resistance to something that is taking place in our environment.
Consciously, and when not triggered, many of us understand that we do not have the right to control how other people live. If our neighbors are slobs and throw trash all over their property, although that totally sucks big time, staring at their garbage won’t change a thing, nor will punching your neighbor in the nose.
Our control is never outside of us.
We think that if this neighbor cleans up his property that we will feel better, and we might, but think about this for a moment. If we cannot be happy unless someone outside of us changes, then we are not in control over our state of being-ness. Something outside of us is.
UH OH—lions and tigers and bears oh MY!
Today, as yourself this question, “What conditions do I place on my level of happiness?”
If you are waiting for the kids to behave, your husband to draw you a bubble bath,...
Self care is one of the greatest keys to emotional health. The more you care for your teeth, the stronger your teeth will be. This seems like common sense, so why do so many of us naturally ignore the self?
We are a society of unconscious minds who have been programmed to gain bonds and form attachments to other unconscious others.
Many of us have been indoctrinated to worry more about others than ourselves prior to learning the most important lesson, which is to love the self.
Many of us have been raised by parents who saw us as extensions of themselves, like one might view a pair of designer shoes. We have been conditioned to make others look good and in the process, we have been psychologically cut off from our higher self.
Many of us are so damn angry, sad, or hurt, that we are blocked and unable to access the vault that is full of the heavy emotions we need to purge in order for our bodies to heal.
If any of this sounds like you, you’re not alone. We all have a difficult time...