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No Cure To Codependency Without Accountability

Codependency sucks and generally, many of us do not heal until we have experienced so much pain, we can no longer stay in denial.

We might hang on to that snotty friend who minimizes us in front of other people because her mother is an alcoholic and we feel ‘sorry’ for her. We might not confront our spouse about how rejected we feel whenever they make fun of our thighs, because we are afraid we might make them angry and maybe cause them to leave us. We might take care of our friends bills, even though we know the reason they can’t pay their rent is because they’re on drugs. We might lie for our sibling even though we know they stole money from our mother, because we don’t know how to set boundaries.

In many of the cases, codependency stays in play until one day the pain of ignoring how we feel reaches critical mass and we just cannot take it anymore. Out of denial, we are forced to save ourselves as we realize, those we have lied for, catered to and...

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Enlightened Means To Let Go

Friedrich Nietzsche has stated, “You have your way and I have my way. As for the right and the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.”

Enlightenment is bittersweet because to be enlightened means to let go. If we wish to believe we are on the path to enlightenment, then there can be no transformation of mind while we continue to believe our way is the only and right way.

All people are born asleep and stay that way until some great crisis shakes loose their slumber. Until then, it is best that we learn to operate from the space of discernment and do what we can to suspend our desire to label or judge those we understand do not understand us.

When we acknowledge that we do no have the right to control someone else’s perceptions, it is far easier to LET PEOPLE GO in love and light. We never have to date, sleep with, or have dinner with someone we no longer trust. We can simply learn to accept ourselves and others while we learn to set boundaries that help...

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Don't Chase Love

There are plenty of reasons why you should never chase love in relationships.

When we chase love, we are essentially implying we do not yet possess love. Chasing is an aggressive action. When we want love, we need to become love. If you struggle with insecurities, you may feel needy and become addicted to other people's approval. When this happens, you may be tempted to chase love. Remember, you are enough!


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Love And Protect The Self

People will say that you do not need to fear a narcissist.

I say fear is God's way of saying, "Pay freaking attention -- there is a dark spirit in your midsts."

People who do not have a mind that operates to be a part of the whole, work to destroy the whole so they can remain in control of all who make up the whole.

Narcissists are persecutors, but their mind will insist that you are the persecutor and they are the victim.

Be careful out there Dear Ones...

God isn't going to sit at your coffee table and tell you to 'wake up'. No, God speaks to us through our gut instincts.

It is our job to learn to be still -- and to consciously make contact with our Higher Self; our Holy Spirit Self.

When we heal the programs in our heads that make us feel not enough, we can more clearly hear the voice of Spirit and Wisdom guiding us and cautioning us to love and protect the self.



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There Is Always Something To Be Grateful For

In spite of anything that has ever gone awry in our lives, the truth is, there is always something to be grateful for.

If you are breathing, you are connected to source through your breath, and although you may not believe that to be true, it is.

If you can take a deep breath, silence your mind for just a moment, and think about the way you think, you are further along on the healing path than most.

Never give up looking for that one thought that leads to HOPE.

Hope, leads to faith which leads to LOVE and LOVE is all we ever really needed—ever.

Love the Self Dear Ones and all will be well.



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Give Every Moment 100% Of You

We all have crazy-filled moments when we are doubting ourselves, our worth and our right to be happy. It’s normal. We are human and by the time we were three years old, someone should have loved us enough to program us to believe we were enough, just as we were. Unfortunately, many of us have not had that experience and that is alright.

Why is it alright?

It is alright because the truth is we are absolutely DIVINE BEINGS of LIGHT at our core, and it is only our old programming that has us believing we are not enough.

Today, connect with the reality that at your core, you absolutely are enough.

Refuse to let ANY ideal violate the boundaries of your mind that cause you to wonder about your worth,

Be the best version of yourself possible in every moment.

Give every moment 100% of you.

When you have the choice—ALWAYS choose PEACE and LOVE over fear and hate.

This is the way you overcome faulty childhood programming and help your mind learn to resonate with the true rhythm of your...

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Do You Struggle With Saying ‘I Am Sorry’?

Many of us struggle with saying, ‘I am sorry.’

Saying we are sorry triggers all sorts of shame for those of us who have come from abusive homes. We have a difficult time seeing ourselves realistically and so when we make a mistake, even if that mistake was a tiny one, we FEEL like we are the worst person in the world. Even though we might have accidentally spilled a glass of milk, to us it feels as if we’ve shattered a century old crystal pitcher that was once owned by the Queen of England.

When an abused adult child makes a mistake, it never feels like a mistake. It always feels like something sinister.

Loving the self demands that we see ourselves as perfectly flawed, imperfect, and human. Thinking that the goal is perfection, dysregulates our emotions, and interrupts our ability to see the self in a realistic light.

This weekend, spend some time confronting any perfectionistic qualities that include judging yourself unrealistically. Be kind to yourself and see...
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Learn To Be Less-Reactive

We all have an ego and so we all need to make sure we are doing all we can to stay in check. The ego is that part of our personality that is always trying to protect the id, the part of us that is infantile, powerless and fears feeling vulnerable. Like an adolescent child trying to defend its 3 year old sibling, the ego will resort to its most known and well-rehearsed defense mechanism for help when feeling challenged or fearful.

Defense mechanisms are relied upon until we learn to be less-reactive. We learn to be less-reactive by CHOOSING to NOT react to every emotion, thought and feeling that passes through our conscious field.

If we want to be happy, we have to learn to be less-reactive. Reacting to every feeling we have is maddening as feelings come and go throughout the day. Learning to THINK about the way we FEEL is far more mature and gratifying.

How would your life change if you learned to PAUSE before you reacted to a feeling, thought, emotion or idea? How much chaos would the...

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Energy We Give And Receive

Plato has stated, “People are like dirt. They can either nourish you and help you grow as a person or they can stunt your growth and make you wilt and die.”

Part of being a grown up requires us to be responsible for what people we hold in our lives. If we treated our lives like we did our businesses, it would be easier to evaluate who should stay, or should go.

All experiences are energetic exchanges, like forms of commerce, although we tend to devalue what energy we give and receive. Of course, the more responsible we become for the self, the more we learn to value our greatest asset, which is our ENERGY.

While I don’t advocate ghosting every sour puss, Debby Downer, or Negative Nelson, I do believe that it is wise to at least take an energy inventory.

Who nourishes your soul?

Who depletes you?

Who leaves you shaking your head?

Who riles you up and has you focus on negative things?

Who inspires you?

Who lifts you up?

Who wants you to believe in lack?

Who supports the energy...

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