Vincent Van Gogh has stated, “Great things are done by a series of small things brought together.”
The brain processes information in a linear fashion; up, down, left, right, good, bad, black, white, and yet, we are so much more than what our linear brain thinks we are.
At your core, you are a pure band of light, and so is all that is. Incredible, really, to realize that we are all pure ENERGY in spite of the labels others, as well as ourselves have chosen to slap upon our foreheads.
Words can build or they can destroy and INTENTIONS are the wings upon which creation or destruction are seeded out into the universe.
EVERY thought we think carries a specific frequency, and like all energy that bathes in a field of other energies, frequencies create ripple effects in the oceans of cosmic stuff we share space and time with. Right now, in this precise moment, even though you cannot see them, your body is emitting particular wavelengths of energy.
What does this have to do...
We may think that what hurts us most are the experiences we experienced as children we were not able to process, integrate, or understand. However, what hurts a child the most is having a painful experience ignored, denied, or marginalized by the caretakers they adore, respect, love, and need to survive.
It is normal for the mind to wish to flee from painful memories and to even panic when bodily sensations surface in response to a pain-filled recalled memory. However, recoiling keeps us stuck in the amygdala living in fear and afraid of our thoughts.
Learning to sit with our pain is a new experience for many of us and mastering our minds to the point where we can observe our racing heart and our scattered thoughts is a spiritual practice.
The brain, mind, and body will do what it was designed to do and that is alright...the fight or flight system is nothing to fear, however, it should be understood.
Learn to observe your scattered thoughts, racing heart, and bodily sensations...
Within each of us is an INNER CHILD that has only wanted to be loved and to love.
Outside of our conscious awareness, the INNER CHILD may be running our lives and we may not realize just how often we give over our power to others because the INNER CHILD’S PSYCHE is directing our inner narrative.
Today, in this precise moment, you have the opportunity to help the INNER CHILD feel more protected, seen, respected and validated. In this moment, you have the chance to remind your INNER CHILD that the more adult you is in charge now. The more adult you no longer needs to seek validation, fawn, fight, run away, or dissociate from scary situations that show up. Today, you have the opportunity and the DIVINE RIGHT to think about the way you think, rather than react to what shows up.
If you are learning to THINK before you REACT, KUDOS to you Dear One!
Thinking should be celebrated!
When we find ourselves raging, crying, yelling, screaming, whining, feeling sorry for ourselves, complaining about who did what, or who said what, we may not be aware that a boundary may have prevented the messy drama we end up having to navigate.
When we are feeling tired, overwhelmed, abandoned, exasperated, bewildered, tossed aside, perplexed, confused, and dazed by others lack of consideration, in those moments, we may not be entirely aware that a little ol' boundary could have prevented the sticky conundrum we have found ourselves in.
Life is a melting pot of who said what and who did what, and unless we are clearly defined as individuals, we will undoubtedly get mixed up in other people's cupcake mix.
Be honest, when have you found yourself raging, crying, or feeling sorry for yourself, and today now realize that all that you needed to do was HONOR how you felt--tell your TRUTH and set a BOUNDARY?
When have you DENIED your truth--turned a blind eye to what you really wanted...
Abused adult children often pay more attention to what they don’t want vs what they do want. We struggle to say YES to things, because we don’t feel worthy, or because we fear having and then possibly losing.
Sometimes we stick with NO because we don’t know how to say YES. We say NO because we fear losing control, or appearing selfish, or we worry about what other people will think.
Learning to love the self must include learning to say YES.
We need to say YES to help, to good food, to exercising, to nourishing our spirits, to educating our minds, to telling the truth, and to letting other people in.
One of our biggest struggles has to do with intimacy. Lots of times we say NO to intimacy and vulnerability because it is just too damn scary to say YES to allowing people to get close.
This weekend, see if you can find a way to be just a little more vulnerable. If there is someone you appreciate, maybe give them a call and open your heart by saying ‘Thank...
Codependency sucks and generally, many of us do not heal until we have experienced so much pain, we can no longer stay in denial.
We might hang on to that snotty friend who minimizes us in front of other people because her mother is an alcoholic and we feel ‘sorry’ for her. We might not confront our spouse about how rejected we feel whenever they make fun of our thighs, because we are afraid we might make them angry and maybe cause them to leave us. We might take care of our friends bills, even though we know the reason they can’t pay their rent is because they’re on drugs. We might lie for our sibling even though we know they stole money from our mother, because we don’t know how to set boundaries.
In many of the cases, codependency stays in play until one day the pain of ignoring how we feel reaches critical mass and we just cannot take it anymore. Out of denial, we are forced to save ourselves as we realize, those we have lied for, catered to and...
Friedrich Nietzsche has stated, “You have your way and I have my way. As for the right and the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.”
Enlightenment is bittersweet because to be enlightened means to let go. If we wish to believe we are on the path to enlightenment, then there can be no transformation of mind while we continue to believe our way is the only and right way.
All people are born asleep and stay that way until some great crisis shakes loose their slumber. Until then, it is best that we learn to operate from the space of discernment and do what we can to suspend our desire to label or judge those we understand do not understand us.
When we acknowledge that we do no have the right to control someone else’s perceptions, it is far easier to LET PEOPLE GO in love and light. We never have to date, sleep with, or have dinner with someone we no longer trust. We can simply learn to accept ourselves and others while we learn to set boundaries that help...
There are plenty of reasons why you should never chase love in relationships.
When we chase love, we are essentially implying we do not yet possess love. Chasing is an aggressive action. When we want love, we need to become love. If you struggle with insecurities, you may feel needy and become addicted to other people's approval. When this happens, you may be tempted to chase love. Remember, you are enough!
People will say that you do not need to fear a narcissist.
I say fear is God's way of saying, "Pay freaking attention -- there is a dark spirit in your midsts."
People who do not have a mind that operates to be a part of the whole, work to destroy the whole so they can remain in control of all who make up the whole.
Narcissists are persecutors, but their mind will insist that you are the persecutor and they are the victim.
Be careful out there Dear Ones...
God isn't going to sit at your coffee table and tell you to 'wake up'. No, God speaks to us through our gut instincts.
It is our job to learn to be still -- and to consciously make contact with our Higher Self; our Holy Spirit Self.
When we heal the programs in our heads that make us feel not enough, we can more clearly hear the voice of Spirit and Wisdom guiding us and cautioning us to love and protect the self.