Often, we are so fixated on what people think about us, that we forget to check in with what we think about us. Below the veil of consciousness, we are busy doing all we can to ensure we don't rock the boat, make too much noise, appear too needy, or dare ask to not be abused.
When we forget to take care of us, it can be easy to slip down a rabbit hole or two when we read on social media that an old flame has just said something untrue and painful about us, or when we discover that a friend we loved has just stabbed us in the back. Years ago we got bullied at home or in the schoolyard, but these days, bullying can happen anywhere at any time and even all the time.
When you are bullied at work, in school, on Facebook or some other social media outlet, it can be totally overwhelming. Our codependent fear hits an all-time high because instead of worrying about what one person thinks about us we are now worried about hundreds or possibly thousands.
Words create or they destroy and in...
In this Youtube Livestream, you will learn an entirely new way to speak to yourself which can help you feel more connected to the Divine Inner Child.
Knowing how to address and confront SHAME when it shows up in our bodies and conscious minds, allows us to transform a past energy into a more positive one.
If you feel like an alien, that is because the humans that were supposed to teach you how to be human, most likely abandoned you in some way, or at a minimum, it is possible they simply were not attuned to their own self and therefore they could not attune to you.
That is not your fault!
Thank heaven, because we are all aspects of the Divine Consciousness, we can use our ability to Master our Focus and heal the self.
If you are here, chances are you are becoming aware that you may be suffering from codependency.
You may be here because you have suffered from narcissistic abuse and you want to learn how to stop attracting narcissistic abuse into your life.
Many of us come here wishing to breakthrough or to break free from a narcissist, and often we focus on the narcissistic behavior, while secretly wishing we could change the narcissist, as well as their behavior. This is a totally normal and human reaction, but it is not as healthy a thought process as it could be.
Until I woke up and healed from codependency, I was a magnet for narcissistic others. It wasn't until I was fully committed to healing my own thoughts, and I was ready to be humble enough to challenge my own intentions, that my world began to shift.
Being humble enough to look at one's self and one's own behavior takes courage. We must be willing to push through the programming from the past that has us feeling like we are not...
We've all had that really horrible relationship--you know the one--the one you know you should leave but you don't--the one you go to bed wishing would just end somehow without you having to be the one to end it.
One of the things we don't often realize is, if we were not raised to VALUE our emotions, opinions, wants or desires AND if we were disrespected, treated with indifference, minimized, gaslighted and abused--as adults--we simply DO NOT HAVE THE DATA for how to stand up for ourselves in an empowering way, not even when, it is BLATANTLY obvious that we should.
And that is not our fault.
Our brain will ALWAYS default to the FAMILIAR rather than choose an UNKNOWN even when the familiar is destroying us UNTIL we
Until the brain can no longer dissociate from the overwhelming grief of a painful relationship--we will be psychologically drawn to stay in a painful situation.
So Dear One, don't blame yourself or go on...
Our ability to ebb and flow, grow and change will determine how far we can take our lives, regardless of how dysfunctional or traumatic our pasts may have been.
Being open-minded enough to check in with your mindset allows you the freedom to DECIDE who and what you want to become.
Today, it is my hope, that you do what you can to check in with your mindset, and especially when it comes to times in your life when you perceived a particular experience as a failure.
There was a time, I saw the ending of a friendship or a relationship as a huge failure until I began to accept that sometimes relationships change because the tone or the frequency of the agreements between people have changed.
I once saw myself as a failure as a mother because my children were the product of a divorce. All that changed when I began to see that through the divorce, I could offer my children so much more than I ever could while married to their father.
When my first book was rejected or ignored by over 100...
Your greatest asset is your imagination. The problem is, due to childhood programming, your imagination is being controlled by what has been stored in the subconscious mind.
All day long, the most powerful engine on earth is running automatically, and sadly, simply replaying whatever crap has been stored in the subconscious mind.
All night long, as human beings lay asleep, their imagination continues to feed off of that which has been downloaded into the subconscious mind.
Every relationship mirrors what we have been programmed to believe about the self.
Every task we take on is tainted by what we have been brainwashed to believe about our capabilities or lack of.
Every word we speak is filtered first by what perception we hold of the self.
Every word spoken to us is first filtered through the ears of the wounded and invisible inner child.
Abused adult children are--wounded children in adult bodies.
We are spiritually stuck somewhere in the past, although our bodies age according...
It is Independence Day here in the United States but it can be a day of FREEDOM wherever you live.
If we want to be free, we have to first FOCUS on the thought of experiencing freedom. From there we must BELIEVE it is possible for us to be free. Without the focus and the belief, we cannot experience MANIFESTATION.
Every person who has healed themselves of depression, anxiety, codependency or cancer, first focused and then believed that what they desired was possible.
Before any of us can be free from a dysfunctional relationship, we must first believe this possibility exists.
What is keeping us stuck is not outside of ourselves.
What keeps us stuck is inside our own heads.
We are attached to ideas, beliefs, notions, concepts, and programs that do not serve our higher good, and in turn, this faulty programming has us feeling and believing we are stuck. When we are NOT thinking, we are recreating our past in the NOW which is weaving...
People come in all shapes and sizes.
IMHO, you shall know a person by the words/fruit they speak, no different than identifying a banana tree from an apple tree. You know what tree you are looking at by the fruits that tree bears, and so it is with people and the words that drip from their lips.
What drips from the lips is the tip of the iceberg. Every word is constructed first through beliefs, perceptions, and intentions. When you look at a banana tree, you know that DEEP within the roots of mother earth, there is DNA for a banana tree. And when you grab for the banana, you know that what you are eating is much more the result of non-physical magic than it is physical matter at all. Unlike people, you invite into your energy field, you can safely presume that when you peel back that yellow skin, inside you will find a potassium-rich yummy banana.
As we heal from codependency, we gain the ability to tune more finely into our internal guidance. We confront our love addiction and need...