The life of the adult child of an alcoholic as well as for the alcoholic or any being who believes they are powerless over their current states of mind, are all living a paradox.
It is right to presume that all beings created--desire to be loved, accepted, and validated for the essence of who they are. And yet in spite of this yearning to be loved, ACoA's, alcoholics, addicts and the victims of abuse deny themselves the love they yearn.
The greatest dis-ease of man today is that man does not love self--the self that is separate from his illusion of ego.
When beings identify their worth by physical things found in the so called physical reality, man--through thought separates himself from the very thing he yearns for.
It is not possible to find the love a being searches for in a car, a home, a dress size, a business, or a bank account. It is not possible to find acceptance when that acceptance is being judged by some kind of ruler.
Acceptance just is--no matter what.