Codependency Recovery-How to Stay Out of Your Childhood Negative Programs

This Is Your Season--You Were Born of a Virgin--You Were Just Lied To Dear One

BY LISA A. ROMANO, 12/24/2015 - 00:00

Even the most so called 'normal' families have their fair share of difficulties during the holidays. And for those of us who come from--well--'not so normal' families, the holiday season can be particularly stressful.

The Holiday Myth

Yesterday while running errands at a local grocery store, I found it hard not to feel irritated by the blaring Christmas songs being piped through the overhead speakers. I could barely hear myself think, above the loud sleigh bells. Nearly every person that brushed past me was humming the tune that was playing through the loud speaker. I found myself thinking, "Oh my God. I am surrounded by zombies."

Now, before you go calling me Ms. Scrooge, hear me out. Do you really think retailers care about my Christmas spirit, other than its control over my holiday spending? Come on now...

From the unending Christmas music being...

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Adult Child of Alcoholic--FREE Radio Interview With Life Coach Lisa A. Romano

BY LISA A. ROMANO, 01/07/2016 - 00:00

Adult Child of Alcoholic--FREE Radio Interview With Life Coach Lisa A. Romano

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Ross Rosenberg and Lisa A. Romano Join Forces--Heal Codependency Webinar

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Ross Rosenberg & Lisa A. Romano Webinar

TOGETHER FOR THE FIRST TIME!

Banishing Fear: Finding the Courage to Heal Codependency

JUST IN TIME FOR VALENTINES DAY

February 13, 12 – 3pm EST

Please register for this webinar at;

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Banishing fear and finding courage to heal or recover from codependency, or what Ross now refers to as Self-Love Deficit Disorder is the perfect seminar from those who want to heal and grow into more complete self-loving, self-caring and self-respecting individuals. Ross Rosenberg and Lisa Romano, two internationally renowned experts in the respective fields, will jointly participate in a life-changing seminar that focuses on the codependency/Self-Love Deficit Disorder and trauma recovery. During this three-hour webinar Ross and Lisa will give individual presentations while interacting with each other during them....

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Breakthrough Coaching Program Available Now

Dear Ones,

On April 6th, I launch my 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program at 5 p.m. EST.

To learn more about my program you can attend free webinars April 6th and April 13th at 5 p.m. EST

To Register for April 6th, click here

To Register for April 13th, click here

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Purchase The 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program

Hi Dear Ones,

The webinar was a HUGE success. We are healing the world on a grander scale. So much love and light coming through.

If you are interested in purchasing or learning more about my program please click on the above link.

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FREE Webinar

On September 1st, 2016 I will be hosting a live FREE webinar to help me introduce The 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program.

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I created this program for many reasons. One of my main objectives was to address a recurring problem so many of us seem to have who have spent our lives on the spiritual path. Although each and every one of our spiritual teachers ultimately tell us that the path to serenity is in letting go, not many of them know 'how to' teach us to 'let go'.

Wouldn't we all let go if it were easy?

Wouldn't we all be healed, if letting go was as easy as tying a shoe lace?

I mean, come on now!

Letting go is not easy. In fact, I would argue that it is impossible to let go of something you've never learned how to validate, heal or integrate. It's sort of like being asked to let go of a toe nail you never grew. You cannot let go of something until you can wrap your mind and your fingers around it.

So many of us have been so minimized throughout our...

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Codependency-The Disease

My life was on the verge of collapse when I walked into my therapist's office for the first time looking for help. My mind had become a knotted ball, and my life was a matted mess. With every fiber of my being I hoped that this man could help me make some sense out of what my life had become. By the end of that first therapy session I had learned that I was clinically depressed, but that my depression was caused by codependency. Being raised by two unrecovered adult children of alcoholics, was akin to being raised by alcoholics. At the time all these ideas were new to me, and I had no frame of reference to fit them into. I was simply a young, mother of three small children who hated her children's father, who believed she had no right to feel what she felt. For years I had stuffed my feelings, and learned to deny my reality for the sake of others. I had spent the better part of thirteen years trying to get my first husband to talk to me, so we could get on the same page in our...

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Codependency and Covert Abuse

For anyone who is struggling with codependency, you know all too well how difficult it is to walk away from a relationship, even when the relationship is toxic. Codependents have been conditioned to unconsciously fear being alone, and will often times do just about anything to maintain even the most horrendous of relationships. An insidious aspect of many dysfunctional codependent relationships occurs when covert abuse is at play. Ever have a partner call you a filthy name and then turn around in the next moment and ask you what movie you would like to go see? When codependents are treated poorly one minute and then kindly the next, the ability to hold onto any anger about being treated poorly is cancelled out.

This type of abuse messes with our ability to hold onto our own realities. Because we are adult children who have been taught to question our internal realities since we were children, when this type of covert abuse happens in our dynamics as adults, it is very easy for us to...

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Women Who Are Afraid Of Men Have A Right To Be

I want to thank one of the members of my 12 Week Breakthrough Codependency Coaching Program for giving me such a great topic to write about. It seems she is concerned that because she is 'afraid of men', that perhaps she will never attract the kind of man she truly desires. I wanted to expand on this topic because it is so relevant, especially to wounded adult children who have been abused in childhood.

If you have been conditioned to fear feeling vulnerable because as a child your vulnerability and powerlessness was exploited, it is very natural for you to fear getting too close to the opposite sex. As an adult female, if you are finding it particularly difficult to feel comfortable around men, and you have been emotionally, sexually or physically abused in childhood, your brain is simply trying to protect you from getting hurt again today.

The brain is highly sophisticated, but it is also very simple. The pain vs. pleasure reflex is always operating, and its...

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