Childhood Trauma & Attachments

It is not uncommon for abused adult children to put someone they know on a pedestal. Often those of us who have experienced childhood trauma, attach ourselves to best friends, people, lovers, spouses, and alike, and place all our dreams upon these ‘others.’ On some level, we are escaping the abyss our abandonment trauma has left in its wake by making someone else or something our external higher power. This friend, we think, shall help us avoid the pain we know lurks within our soul. We become ATTACHED and live in FEAR that the relationship one day may possibly end, although we may never consciously acknowledge that this is true.

This type of codependency only reinforces our lack of self-love. Whenever we make someone else our god, savior or rescuer, we are turning away from the DIVINE SOURCE within us. When we ATTACH to someone outside of us, in an attempt to avoid our abandonment trauma, we unknowingly place unrealistic expectations upon them. We unconsciously wish for...

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Living in Survival Mode

When your mind is wired to survive because your home life was unpredictable, unsafe, and painful, your body cannot thrive. You will breathe, walk, talk, think, and go on with your day, but your immune system will suffer. The human body is NOT designed to live in a chronic state of stress. YES--emotional and mental stress can hamper the immune system.

The goal is to heal the reactive mind and to teach the brain that life can be amazing and that you can learn to trust yourself again. Learning to confront limiting beliefs, codependency, controlling behaviors, denial, and embracing our wounds rather than running from them can help our brains come out of survival mode.

You deserve a nonthreatened brain!

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Trauma May Be Controlling Your Thoughts

One of the blessings of being human is the fact that we have consciousness. Unlike animals, we have the ability to choose and to act upon our free will. Animals do not have free will. A horse cannot become a painter or violinist any more than a rose can choose to become a tulip. A tree is rooted in where its seeds have been planted. If ants wish to invade the tree, there is little the tree can do. And even a horse, if a man wishes to tame a horse and breaks its will to be free, he can. Man has dominion over the land and in the end, in spite of the horses wild and free nature, man can do what he wishes to the horse including killing it if he chooses to do so.

The human mind is not stuck inside its skull like the tree is rooted to the ground that supports it. Our mind is NOT like the horse, in that, ultimately there will be a force greater than our own that can control it. Although adult abuse survivors may feel they are being controlled by others, the truth is, it is only the belief...

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