Learn To Love Yourself

When a childhood has been unpredictable, our need for control goes on overdrive.

When our emotions have been stuffed, they create tension inside our bodies. This tension we think needs to be managed by trying to control everything and everyone.

We try to control how we feel...we try to control how other people feel...we try to control what other people think...and what they do.

What we need is peace, but because we have never experienced peace, we falsely believe controlling anything and everything will bring us peace.

The sad, freaking, truth is, peace comes only when we finally let go.

Learning to accept what you cannot control is a journey. It happens slowly and overtime.

Codependency is a real thing...

Being too nice is a real thing...

People-pleasing is a real thing...

Learning to love yourself, and to accept what you could not control as a child, leads you to the peace you seek on the inside.

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Why You Never Feel Good Enough: Self Love Tips to Help You Feel Enough

If you never feel good enough, that is not your fault.

Learning to use self love tips that can help you feel enough must be put into action. When you never feel good enough, you suffer from self-blame, self-doubt, and struggle with codependency symptoms. When you never feel good enough, you may sometimes not know why.

You may struggle with loving yourself and not understand why it is so hard to feel good enough. 'I am not enough' stuff is most often rooted in childhood. When our parents have innocently or purposefully caused us to doubt we are worthy of their time, love, validation and attention, we can assume it is our fault and begin to believe we are never going to ever be good enough. 

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Self-love is the KEY to EVERYTHING.

One of the easiest ways we can learn to love the self is by setting an early morning intention. Left to its unconscious devices, the brain runs in loops and patterns of behavior. If we are not careful, we can live an entire lifetime unaware, un-awakened, and unconscious. A human being can go 100 years and never once feel truly AWAKE.

Self-love is the KEY to EVERYTHING.

Not loving the self draws into your experience all the unhealthy patterns from the past. Loving the self acts like a KEY and helps unlock DNA codes that allow for ABUNDANCE, JOY, PEACE, CONTENTMENT, and SERENITY to flow into your experience.

This weekend, see if you can begin your day with journaling about your intentions. Intend to see beauty everywhere you look. Intend to feel joy and wonder as you peer into the sky. Intend to love the self and to offer the self-compassion and empathy.

Taking the time to INTEND to live in a more ABUNDANT vibration helps your body, mind, and soul fill with UNIVERSAL LOVE.

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Believe in Yourself and Dreams Will Come True

When I was twelve years old, I was bullied so badly at school I wanted to end my life. My parents didn’t realize how invisible, lonely, anxious, depressed, alone, terrified, and sad I felt. They were a codependent couple, enmeshed, wounded adult children from alcoholic homes that kept their emotions tightly stored away in the dark recesses of their minds. The emotions of their children frustrated them, annoyed them and often pushed them to the brink.
 
My parents are not evil people. They did their best to offer their children a sober home, unlike what they experienced as children. The home they provided for us, their children was clean and well kept. My mother cooked all day everyday to make sure her family was fed and that their physical needs were met. Both of my parents did an incredible job offering their children the kind of life they never had. My parents were not domestically violent towards one another. Our home was clean. We ate well and had a routine to follow...
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Emotional Sobriety is a Gift

Emotional Sobriety is a gift and it is what we should all be striving for.

When we are emotionally sober, we are not reactive, impulsive, or lost in a sea of survival mechanisms. We are deliberate in our thoughts, actions, and intentions. We do what we can to avoid thinking that is rooted in lack. We learn to honor what we have been through in the past, acknowledging that the power to overcome is a sure thing!

Healing from the past is definitely tricky, BUT, understanding it is POSSIBLE certainly brings us HOPE, as we become more aware of what has been holding us back.

Choosing to think a healing thought over a self-limiting thought is one of the most courageous things we can do. When we do, we invoke the same energies that have created universes!

Do not let the past keep you off-balance any longer!

FULLY EMBODY your FREE-WILL and let NO ONE or NO THOUGHT prevent you from merging with the DIVINE HEART and the SPIRIT you are!

You got this!

Namaste….

 

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Codependency is Like Having False Gods

If you believe in the concept of a Creator, you must also believe that what has created you lies within you and cannot be separated.
 
But what happens to us when the very essence of what we believe has created us, we turn against?
 
Are we not then, turning against the self as well as the powerful source of all that is?
 
When as children, for any reason we are unable to properly attach or secure our emotional selves to our caretakers and primarily our mother, we experience the non-attachment on every level.
 
As adults, we must make it our mission to return to the only source of healing love that can save us now.
 
The power to heal is not outside of you. It was always inside of you.
 
It was your parent's job to activate that source within you by aligning you with love.
Now, it is your time to come into full acknowledgment of the idea that you were never not enough and that YOU at your core are an extension of the Creator of all that is.
 
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Having emotions are normal and valid. Learning to Master Your Emotions is priceless.

I am not 'playing the victim' when I admit that as a child I was brainwashed to believe my emotions were irrelevant and that the more I tried to pretend I did not have feelings, the crazier, lonelier and more terrified I felt.

Far too often people who do not understand that in order to heal an emotion you must feel an emotion, judge those who are struggling to validate why they feel the way they do.

I have heard people tell others 'to suck it up -- get over the past -- stop whining -- it is time to put your adult panties back on' and so on.

While there is a seed of truth in what people like these are saying: we all need to eventually get to a place where we understand that the only person who can help us move past the past is us, shaming others for struggling to process experiences they were denied the right to experience is ignorant, judgmental, unnecessary, and just plain wrong.

Emotions motivate EVERY decision, thought, action, desire, word, and inactions we can experience.

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When Love Goes In Love Comes Out

As adults, we tend to get stuck in the mire of the problems of the moment. If we are depressed, resentful, sad, disempowered, and just plain stuck, we rarely lift our heads in curiosity and simply ask 'Why?'

If you have been mistreated, neglected, and have suffered abuse, it is not your fault if misery has become a faithful companion.

What goes in comes out.

As it is below so shall it be above.

When love and acceptance go in, we feel the love and acceptance of self.

When fear, hate, and abuse go in, we feel these energies within us.

It is not our fault if when as innocent, powerless beings dysfunctional authority figures infected us with their negative energies.

However, today, as free will thinking adults, we have the potential and the right to heal our lives through the raising of our consciousness, the learning of new programs, and the acting upon truth.

You were never not enough.

Within you is the power to change what goes in so you can change what comes out.

All my love!

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Social Media and External Validation: The Pitfalls

Brene Brown has stated, “I carry a small piece of paper in my wallet of the names of people whose opinions matter. To be on that list, you have to love me for my strengths and my struggles.”

The world has become taken over by Social Media and while I believe the POWER to connect with people from all over the world is purely magical, I can’t help but acknowledge the DARK side of social media as well.

When our entire reason for living comes down to who and how many people like a pic or a post we post to a social media site, we’ve crossed the line. Social media can be addicting and if we are not careful, we can lose all sense of balance while participating in online forums. From political and religious differences to stalking the ex or to being stalked by the ex, to family feuds that get hashed out on virtual forums, the FEAR of what other people think is EVERYWHERE.

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Love Addiction -- No More Chasing Love -- Lisa A Romano

Love addiction is intoxicating. It is also catastrophic as it is built upon the broken bones of a wounded inner child.

When we have come from homes that have caused us to question our worth as human beings because those who loved us have missed the mark by failing to appreciate how crucial it was for children to FEEL seen, wanted, and understood, a great gaping hole forms in our soul. This hole aches to be filled and behaves like a vacuum for what the ego believes will fill it.

The ego is immature. Its concepts about love are childlike. Ego is under the illusion that fairy-tale-like love will fill this void and allow the being that we are to finally feel FULL, WHOLE, and ENOUGH. Ego operates with limited understandings. It does not know about addiction. It does not understand that groveling, obsessing, and begging are behaviors that are tied to our initial abandonment. Ego only knows pain vs pleasure and with its limited understanding about love, believes a fairy-tale is what it...

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