When you grow up guessing at what normal is, it is super easy to not know how to react, how to respond, what to think or how to feel.
When you have not been raised to love yourself, and instead, you are forced to live in a state of hypervigilance, it is far too easy to grow up feeling disconnected from the divine self.
Learning to accept the self, how we feel, what we think, what we desire, need and believe is a heroic journey for someone who has been conditioned to live as if who they are is insignificant.
Childhood trauma conditions a human to fear just about everything!
Dissecting our belief systems we discover how unfairly we were programmed to sacrifice the self for the sake of keeping others happy, calm, and content.
Healing requires we unlearn faulty concepts while we also take on the incredible task of learning healthy concepts.
In the end, the universe rewards those who love themselves and those who have figured out how to put themselves first. The universe accepts whatever...
Every human being wishes to be loved and to love. To experience love and intimacy, we must learn to be honest. Intimacy is crucial when it comes to experiencing healthy relationships, but what is intimacy exactly?
For those of us who come from abandonment, rejection, unpredictability, and addictive or abusive homes, it is not so easy to allow ourselves to be vulnerable, but without vulnerability, we can never experience intimacy.
Intimacy is tied to the ability to share ourselves with others in honest ways. It implies we are willing to share our fears, desires, opinions, and beliefs with others in a way that represents our truest, rawest selves. When we are in healthy relationships, our partners, friends, and family members can HEAR what we are saying. We are not judged, marginalized, condemned, or made fun of when we share what we offer. The intimate things we share land upon cotton sheets not beds of broken glass.
To be intimate with others requires a level of courage. We can...
So many of us have been taught to believe we are not good enough. For some, the emotion of fear may have been triggered early on and quite possibly even in utero. The limbic brain is wired to avoid pain and to seek pleasure. Anything that causes a growing fetus to experience a threat to harmony and peace will be registered as pain. Humans are being downloaded long before we are able to walk. Unfortunately, because so many people do not appreciate the experiences of children as valid; believing that what children cannot remember doesn't count, we are a world of wounded adults who are stuck in states of fight or flight who may not even realize it.
Compounding societal ignorance is the fact that ALL human beings are born asleep. We are not born aware. We are born with brainwave states that equal the dream state of consciousness. We do not have the ability to think critically as children. All that happens to us in our outer world becomes downloaded into our growing and impressionable...
When we grow up thinking other people must like us, we are doomed. We are doomed because there is absolutely no way we could ever control what is happening inside someone else’s mind.
In addition, most people are unconscious most of the time and the lens in which they view the world is skewed by their past experiences. The way people look at you and perceive you is determined by their pasts.
From this perspective, we can all take a deep sigh of relief and fully acknowledge how irrational and absolutely useless it is to worry ourselves sick over making sure other people like us. That is not to say we forget our manners and stop holding doors for other people. It means we hold ourselves with integrity, humility, and do what we can to have compassion for ourselves as well as for all.
The people amongst us who do not know they are asleep are not living at all. They just don’t know it.
Be kind, be fair, and don’t play with porcupines who think their fuzzy bunny rabbits.
Children are not possessions.
Children are not things.
Children are not here for adult’s amusement.
Children are angelic gifts who are on loan to us from the heavens and it is our job to cradle them with love, understanding, forgiveness, kindness, compassion, empathy, and protection.
Children should never be mocked, criticized, or treated with indifference.
They should not ever be compared to another sibling, friend, or family member.
They should not be lied to, persecuted, sexualized, or objectified.
They should never be hit or be exposed to domestic violence, drug abuse, or drunkenness.
Their lives and homes should be orderly and clean.
Children should have a routine and rules in their homes should be fair and predictable.
Children should have parents and caretakers who take an interest in their schoolwork, medical and dental care.
Children should feel like their emotions are important to those who have been blessed with the chance to care for them.
Children should be encouraged to...
People who are stuck believing they can't make a dream come true, will always poo poo other people's dreams. Unaware they are projecting their own false and limiting beliefs onto others, they fail to understand that we are all co-creating our lives as we go.
As it has been said, "As a man thinks, so is he." "Whether a man thinks he can or cannot, he is right." "Thoughts become things."
To heal from codependency and narcissistic abuse is akin to 'checking every thought that runs through our conscious field' and that is tedious difficult strenuous work, but there is no other way.
What we see on the inside, we see on the outside and dream killers fail to see that when they tell us we can't, they aren't even talking about us, they are talking about themselves.
Today's challenge is to go back in your mind and remember all the times you were really excited about a dream and then a dream killer came along and said something like, "You can't do that! You can't go there! Who is going to buy...
There are many steps one must take in order to heal the emotional wounds of our pasts. While healing is a process, it is helpful to first come into some key understandings.
Most of our wounds occurred when we were defenseless children--powerless--and under the control of others. Because we were dependent upon those who may have been violating the innocence within us--we did not feel safe. As a result our minds developed coping skills to help us survive the everyday abuses we may have experienced.
Perhaps we floated away--and disassociated ourselves from our immediate pain. We may have counted, cut, binged, purged, obsessed, ticked or sought love in places we could never have found it. It doesn't matter what survival skill we developed. What is most important is that we do not re-victimize ourselves by now judging the very miraculous survival skills that allowed us to endure the suffering we experienced as children.
A main ingredient to healing emotional abuse--is learning to inhibit...
It is so easy to forget that within ever cell of our being is the same galactic stuff that makes up the STARS in our sky!
You are LIGHT Dear One!
At your atomic core, you, me, everyone, and everything is LIGHT.
So why is there so much chaos on the playing field of people’s minds?
Why does there seem to be so much fear on our planet?
Why can’t we seem to find the love we seek and instead find unpleasantness no matter how hard we try?
Ahh…Dear Ones…never forget you are both a DIVINE SPIRIT and a HUMAN BEING.
You have come to MASTER the limitations of the survival mechanisms that are the DEFAULT settings of man.
You have come to CHOOSE the LIGHT and to DELIBERATELY mold your CONSCIOUSNESS through the POWER of thought and by way of your DIVINE FREE WILL.
You have come to REALIZE that the mind is both conscious and unconscious at the same time, it is both dead and alive as well.
Dead and alive?
Yes, the mind is programmable and all experiences from childhood have been...
All children assume blame and responsibility for how they are treated as children.
Our simple brains trick us into forgetting what it was like when we were small. Our brains are designed to keep us in the here and the now. We focus on the minutia of the current day and rarely take the time to remember how we felt when we were small, powerless, and unable to speak up for ourselves.
Now is an illusion. Now is a blend of every moment and breath of our yesterdays. The future is an illusion too unless you can awaken and begin to understand that how your mind operates today is the result of what happened to you when you were the most impressionable.
When children are being abused, they don't think, "Wow, my parents are out of control here. Mom is drinking again and dad is full of rage because...