So many of us have been taught to believe we are not good enough

So many of us have been taught to believe we are not good enough. For some, the emotion of fear may have been triggered early on and quite possibly even in utero. The limbic brain is wired to avoid pain and to seek pleasure. Anything that causes a growing fetus to experience a threat to harmony and peace will be registered as pain. Humans are being downloaded long before we are able to walk. Unfortunately, because so many people do not appreciate the experiences of children as valid; believing that what children cannot remember doesn't count, we are a world of wounded adults who are stuck in states of fight or flight who may not even realize it.

Compounding societal ignorance is the fact that ALL human beings are born asleep. We are not born aware. We are born with brainwave states that equal the dream state of consciousness. We do not have the ability to think critically as children. All that happens to us in our outer world becomes downloaded into our growing and impressionable...

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If you struggle with codependency, you struggle with having a healthy autonomous identity.

If you struggle with codependency, you struggle with having a healthy autonomous identity.

When asked the question, "Who are you?" you answer according to your roles in society, or you describe yourself according to ideas that have shaped your perception of self. You speak in terms of what has happened to you or in terms of what role you think you play in the world or in your family.

You say things like;

I am a woman.
I am a man.
I am a father.
I am a mother.
I am a soccer coach.
I am a doctor.
I am a writer.
I am someone with a disability.
I am depressed.
I am anxious.
I am a bus driver.
I am an electrician.
I am a hairdresser.
I am the daughter of a narcissist.
I am the adult child of an alcoholic.
I am a sexual abuse survivor and so on...

While all of these statements might very well be true for you, the truth is, they do not describe who you are separate from what has happened to you or what role your culture or our very imperfect, still chaotic society has placed you into.

Many of us are still...

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If you want to be happy, stop relying on shit you can’t control!

Every time we react with anger or rage we are stuck in a state of resistance to something that is taking place in our environment.

Consciously, and when not triggered, many of us understand that we do not have the right to control how other people live. If our neighbors are slobs and throw trash all over their property, although that totally sucks big time, staring at their garbage won’t change a thing, nor will punching your neighbor in the nose.

Our control is never outside of us.

We think that if this neighbor cleans up his property that we will feel better, and we might, but think about this for a moment. If we cannot be happy unless someone outside of us changes, then we are not in control over our state of being-ness. Something outside of us is.

UH OH—lions and tigers and bears oh MY!

Today, as yourself this question, “What conditions do I place on my level of happiness?”

If you are waiting for the kids to behave, your husband to draw you a bubble bath,...

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Self care is one of the greatest keys to emotional health

Self care is one of the greatest keys to emotional health. The more you care for your teeth, the stronger your teeth will be. This seems like common sense, so why do so many of us naturally ignore the self?

We are a society of unconscious minds who have been programmed to gain bonds and form attachments to other unconscious others.

Many of us have been indoctrinated to worry more about others than ourselves prior to learning the most important lesson, which is to love the self.
Many of us have been raised by parents who saw us as extensions of themselves, like one might view a pair of designer shoes. We have been conditioned to make others look good and in the process, we have been psychologically cut off from our higher self.

Many of us are so damn angry, sad, or hurt, that we are blocked and unable to access the vault that is full of the heavy emotions we need to purge in order for our bodies to heal.

If any of this sounds like you, you’re not alone. We all have a difficult time...

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Adults who have not been taught to believe they are good enough, may not believe they are

Many adults suffer from low self esteem. In spite of how successful we may seem, far too often many of us feel like we are dying inside. Our outer worlds may seem perfect but below the surface we are struggling to keep up the facade.

Adults who have not been taught to believe they are good enough, may not believe they are. If we were made to feel like burdens as children, we may have developed subconscious and limiting beliefs that prevent us from feeling truly connected to the Divine Self. Without this connection to the Self, we navigate our worlds in faulty ways. We are unaware we are unaware and unconsciously draw into our experiences people who cause us to feel very similarly to the way our caretakers did. We are unknowingly locked inside invisible grids and repeating patterns from the past.

If you are an adult who is suffering from low self esteem, perhaps it is time to ask yourself 'why'.

Why do you think you struggle with self worth?

In many of the cases, our answers lie in...
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So many of us have been taught to believe we are not good enough

So many of us have been taught to believe we are not good enough. For some, the emotion of fear may have been triggered early on and quite possibly even in utero. The limbic brain is wired to avoid pain and to seek pleasure. Anything that causes a growing fetus to experience a threat to harmony and peace will be registered as pain. Humans are being downloaded long before we are able to walk. Unfortunately, because so many people do not appreciate the experiences of children as valid; believing that what children cannot remember doesn't count, we are a world of wounded adults who are stuck in states of fight or flight who may not even realize it.

Compounding societal ignorance is the fact that ALL human beings are born asleep. We are not born aware. We are born with brainwave states that equal the dream state of consciousness. We do not have the ability to think critically as children. All that happens to us in our outer world becomes downloaded into our growing and impressionable...

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Finding Your Authentic Self

On August 10th, 2017 I will be conducting a FREE webinar at 6:00 p.m. EST, I will be discussing codependency, childhood trauma, narcissistic abuse, and why it is so important to heal our past wounds if we are wishing to live an authentic life.

If you wish to live an authentic life, you must be willing to be the REAL YOU, vulnerabilities, wounds, scars, fears, and all.  Wounded adult children, who have suffered from lifetimes of childhood trauma, often times are frozen in time.  Because no one ever taught them how to process their emotions, and because abused children are powerless to fight or flee their experiences, many of them suffer from a sense of feeling frozen. 

Many abused adult children feel stuck, numb, and dissociated from their emotional experiences. While this is not their fault, without learning how to 'thaw out' and heal from trauma, many of us stay stuck, repeat the patterns from our past, suffer from depression, rage, anger, love...

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Self Love

Do you...

  • struggle with feeling invisible?
  • tend to attract narcissistic and abusive partners?
  • cater to the needs of others?
  • fear speaking up and telling your truth?

If so you're not alone.

Many people are unaware as to why they do what they do.  Most of us do not realize we are 95% unconscious and only 5% concsious and that almost all of what we think, both conscious and unconscious is negative.

We See What We Believe

Whatever you have been conditoned to believe about the self as a child, has now become the filter in which you perceive your self.  

Were you...

  • taught to believe your feelings don't matter?
  • taught to believe what other people thought about you was more important than what you thought about you?
  • taught to fear making other people angry?
  • taught to ignore your wants, your dreams, and your desires?

If any of this is true, you may not realize the subconscious paradigms these experiences have created within you.

The Good News

The good news is...

  • the...
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