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Sympathy is about us and empathy is about the other

Imagine if, the entire world and everyone in it knew how not to make what other people felt, believed, or perceived about them.
 
Imagine if, every person in the world, could empathize with others, while at the same time, disagree without judgment, condemnation, fear, or criticism.
Imagine if, we all had the ability to tell the difference between sympathy and empathy.
 
Sympathy is about us and empathy is about the other.
 
Sympathy and pity are about OUR feelings about someone else, while empathy is our ability to emotionally invest in the OTHER person's reality without trying to fix it, change it, alter it, add to it or take from it.
 
Affective empathy means I have the ability to respond with appropriate emotions to the emotions of another, while cognitive empathy means I have the ability to imagine why a person is having their particular emotional experience.
 
Empathy is NOT about me...it is about YOU...and my ability to emotionally respond...
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Love Conscious

If you study success, you learn that in order to achieve success you must become success-conscious. Developing a growth mindset takes time, very much like it would if you purchased a run-down factory and you needed to renovate it in order for it to begin manufacturing the one of a kind cookies your great grandmother taught you to bake when you were a little kid.
In order for the factory to be successful, you'd need to pluck out whatever needed to be removed and replace it with equipment and with people in alignment with the success of your new company. And so it is with LOVE.
In order to manifest love you must become love-conscious. The problem with this principle is, many of us who struggle with shame often stay in relationships with toxic others, like narcissists. The key idea here is to remember that narcissists are fear-conscious. They fear abandonment. They fear being seen as 'ordinary'. They fear losing control over you. They need for their sources of narcissistic supply...
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True Love

True Love

  1. True love feels safe
  2. True love feels nurturing
  3. True love feels calm
  4. True love feels easy
  5. True love feels protective
  6. True love feels expansive
  7. True love feels accepting
  8. True love feels inviting
  9. True love feels connected
  10. True love feels warm

People often ask me what real true love feels like.

I get it.

It's hard to describe what a strawberry milkshake tastes like unless you've experienced strawberries.

True love feels like looking out your kitchen window at 7 am to see your beloved digging into potting soil and planting flowers you love to surprise you and because he'd rather his hands get dirty than yours.

Imagine feeling seen that way.

True love feels like compassion. It feels safe. It feels like you know someone has your back. It feels like a partnership.

It does not feel abrasive, frightening, rigid, inflexible, like a power-play, domineering, minimizing, or condescending.

Love feels patient, even when you are in the wrong--your partner does not seek your...

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