It is not uncommon for abused adult children to put someone they know on a pedestal. Often those of us who have experienced childhood trauma, attach ourselves to best friends, people, lovers, spouses, and alike, and place all our dreams upon these ‘others.’ On some level, we are escaping the abyss our abandonment trauma has left in its wake by making someone else or something our external higher power. This friend, we think, shall help us avoid the pain we know lurks within our soul. We become ATTACHED and live in FEAR that the relationship one day may possibly end, although we may never consciously acknowledge that this is true.
This type of codependency only reinforces our lack of self-love. Whenever we make someone else our god, savior or rescuer, we are turning away from the DIVINE SOURCE within us. When we ATTACH to someone outside of us, in an attempt to avoid our abandonment trauma, we unknowingly place unrealistic expectations upon them. We unconsciously wish for...
If you have suffered a 'mother wound' chances are you struggle with feeling alone, unworthy, and not good enough. When we feel separate from our caretakers, we can also feel separate from the self.
I hope this meditation can help soothe you back into alignment with your divine self.
All my love,
On February 2nd, 2017 please tune in to watch Lisa A. Romano and Maria Mirkovich as they discuss how dysfunctional childhood programming brainwashes children to become adults who suffer from low self-worth and a lack of identity. Family Today with Lisa A. Romano will air at 7 pm est. on channel 34 (FIOS) and channel 81 (Time Warner Cable now called Spectrum). A special thank you to Maria Mirkovich and her assistant Gina who made my visit to the network very enjoyable. I felt extremely welcomed.
Here is a link to the show.