Life changes are difficult for everyone. When we are faced with confronting our addictions, failed marriages, troubled children, or we are told we are facing a major health crisis, in most cases, many of us realize something (although we may not know what) has to change.
All those times we drank, popped a pill, had sex, argued, or fell asleep, instead of listening to our divine inner guidance leads us to places in our life where the pain has become so excruciating we burn out. Our once smiley codependent, people pleasing dispositions have been buried by all the stuffing and denying we have done for the sake of not rocking the boat. And it's not that we don't want to rock the boat as much as it is we don't know what to do when we actually do rock the boat.
One of the reasons I feel so compelled to speak out on behalf of all the silent abused adult children of the world is because I simply do not think it is fair that those of us who have been denied healthy coping skills, meaningful...
If you have been conditioned to believe that taking care of the self or NOT doing something that someone has asked you to do is SELFISH, it can be quite difficult for you to believe that you have a right to SELF CARE.
Before we can successfully self-love, we must first heal any idea that ever had us believing we were selfish for taking time to self-care.
Dear One, you have come to EMBRACE the self and to CREATE the life you deserve. This is your birthright.
Be willing to be RESPONSIBLE for how you feel and in all communications with others, be respectful, be mindful, and be willing to allow other people the right to think what they want.
When you love the self, it is really difficult to be mean to others even when others are being mean to you.
Self care this weekend and practice allowing other people to have their opinions of you without you needing to change them.
Sometimes self care is all about LETTING GO!
Nope, nobody has been born to make sure your life experience is comfy and cozy.
Nope, there is no one out there that is responsible for your happiness.
Nope, nobody out there can really read your mind.
Nope, not everybody is going to like you.
Nope, you will NOT be invited to every dinner party or event.
Nope, your children will not always think you’re awesome.
Nope, there is no guarantee your friends won’t disappoint you.
Now, doesn’t that feel better?
Isn’t it a relief to know that our lives are NOT supposed to be perfect?
Isn’t it awesome to know that it is okay to NOT have to make sure EVERYBODY thinks we LIKE THEM?
Isn’t it freeing to know shit is gonna’ happen and that is okay?
Childhood programming taught you to believe YOU HAD to get people's approval otherwise you might DIE.
Childhood programming taught you to believe that unless you gained the approval of others, you were UNWORTHY.
Childhood programming taught you to believe your self esteem...
Wisdom is timeless.
As it was in the beginning, it is now and ever shall be.
Who has ever entered this time-space reality and not yearned to be comfortable in their own skin?
The illogicality of this desired premise is the notion that our comfortability depends on our skin itself.
Yet, many a fine beauty has felt vile in her own skin. So then, what beings yearn for cannot be found in the flesh and blood of the material world.
What we are after, is non-physical--invisible--a
All creatures crave harmony from within. Harmony is a word that is used mostly to describe pleasing music and or sounds. Harmony--sound--music--are
It is possible to become comfortable in one's own skin, even if one's own skin is not comfortable.
It is not possible to achieve harmony from within without accepting what is the current state.
It is not possible to heal from within, without first...
Life was intended to be simply abundant!
Man was created by source, call it God, Allah, Mohammed, Creator--call this source whatever you like. Ones salutation is never as important as the sum the who.
If our world's most elite physicists all agree, and they do--and all that exists, does so by nature of an intelligent force, then at a minimum all people everywhere can agree that whatever the source that created you, also created me, as well as every star system, ocean, and insect that has ever lived and died.
At man's most basic nature, he is loving. Each man born entered into this time space reality desiring one thing--Love. Newborns do not enter this world fear based. Fear is a wrinkle in ones own emotional vibration, and it is learned. It is not man's truest nature.
While political leaders toy with ideas of WWlll in the Middle East, those of us who are considered to be enlightened, awakened, and of pure intents for ourselves, others and our worlds, must do what we can to see past the...
People who are stuck believing they can't make a dream come true, will always poo poo other people's dreams. Unaware they are projecting their own false and limiting beliefs onto others, they fail to understand that we are all co-creating our lives as we go.
As it has been said, "As a man thinks, so is he." "Whether a man thinks he can or cannot, he is right." "Thoughts become things."
To heal from codependency and narcissistic abuse is akin to 'checking every thought that runs through our conscious field' and that is tedious difficult strenuous work, but there is no other way.
What we see on the inside, we see on the outside and dream killers fail to see that when they tell us we can't, they aren't even talking about us, they are talking about themselves.
Today's challenge is to go back in your mind and remember all the times you were really excited about a dream and then a dream killer came along and said something like, "You can't do that! You can't go there! Who is going to buy...
There are many very valid reasons for why you may struggle with thinking negative thoughts.
You are not crazy, nor insane or bad for having a mind that has been conditioned (taught) to go one way; the wrong way.
You are not ill because your brain is more like a driver of a race car called 'Crazy Thoughts', and your awareness seems more like a spectator in the stands horrified by the speed at which the thoughts your brain holds travels.
Somewhere in that space between the car and you, as the spectator exists, is where your healing is waiting.
In that space is where all the work you will ever have to do to ever be happy--must begin.
You have not been taught to feel empowered.
Your brain has not been taught to be happy with its aloneness.
Your brain has been conditioned to think acceptance is outside of you.
Society, the media, our teachers, our parents, and our friends and family have all played a part in the creation of our belief and ultimate thought processes.
In that space deep within you,...
There are many steps one must take in order to heal the emotional wounds of our pasts. While healing is a process, it is helpful to first come into some key understandings.
Most of our wounds occurred when we were defenseless children--powerless--and under the control of others. Because we were dependent upon those who may have been violating the innocence within us--we did not feel safe. As a result our minds developed coping skills to help us survive the everyday abuses we may have experienced.
Perhaps we floated away--and disassociated ourselves from our immediate pain. We may have counted, cut, binged, purged, obsessed, ticked or sought love in places we could never have found it. It doesn't matter what survival skill we developed. What is most important is that we do not re-victimize ourselves by now judging the very miraculous survival skills that allowed us to endure the suffering we experienced as children.
A main ingredient to healing emotional abuse--is learning to inhibit...
The life of the adult child of an alcoholic as well as for the alcoholic or any being who believes they are powerless over their current states of mind, are all living a paradox.
It is right to presume that all beings created--desire to be loved, accepted, and validated for the essence of who they are. And yet in spite of this yearning to be loved, ACoA's, alcoholics, addicts and the victims of abuse deny themselves the love they yearn.
The greatest dis-ease of man today is that man does not love self--the self that is separate from his illusion of ego.
When beings identify their worth by physical things found in the so called physical reality, man--through thought separates himself from the very thing he yearns for.
It is not possible to find the love a being searches for in a car, a home, a dress size, a business, or a bank account. It is not possible to find acceptance when that acceptance is being judged by some kind of ruler.
Acceptance just is--no matter what.
The society we live in...