Post is dedicated to the incredible Robin Williams. Thank you for the laughter you brought to the world. And I am sorry, you never quite found the words or the ideas you needed to change your world Dear One...
Lisa A. Romano
ACoA Life Coach
On the road to recovery, there have been many twists and turns.
Awareness is as inspiring as it is gut wrenching.
Coming into the understanding that in all my enabling, care-taking, denying, ignoring, justifying, pacifying, complaining, and martyrdom indicated that I was just as sick as the people I thought I was in someway smarter and more moral than, made me feel like I was being torn in two.
As one part of my invisible self began to resonate at a higher vibration, at same time there felt as if humility was in some way dragging me lower than I had ever been before.
Coming through the birth canal of transition and evolution, I can now appreciate how necessary my need for hitting emotional rock bottom was to my total recovery. But at the...
If there is one commonality amongst we Adult Children of Alcoholics that holds us back from moving forward in our life more than any other, it is the fact that we tend to get stuck in our damn heads, and ignorantly sit back and act as if we are powerless to their looping.
Over and over we succumb, like paralyzed marionettes to the dysfunctional, nonsensical, unfair, critical, condemning, judging, self pitying, anxiety provoking thoughts that loop in our minds. Most often these thoughts haunt us as we are drifting off to sleep, when sadly our subconscious minds are the most vulnerable to data. Like an excel sheet waiting to be inputed with data before the closing of a days work, our subconscious minds accept the nonsense of our thoughts and logs it. While we sleep, our subconscious minds are victims to the only data we falsely believe we have control over.
We ACoA's have been lied to in more ways than most of us realize.
Many of us have been brainwashed to believe we are sinners, and...
Any of us from dysfunctional families understands how difficult the holidays can be. Family dynamics can explode with a glance of an eye, or a tapping of a fork. For those of us with explosive parents, siblings or extended family members, we often need to tone ourselves down just to be able to tolerate the, what seems to be required time needed to be spent with others who absolutely know how to push our buttons.
For this reason I am doing a live radio show this coming Saturday December 27th at 9 a.m.
If you would like to be a part of this live call, just follow the link below.
If you prefer to just listen in, and take some notes that would be awesome as well.
To all my Adult Children out there, hang in there for the Holidays. We are not alone!
Let's sober up emotionally this coming Saturday at 9 a.m. EST on Blogtalk Radio with Lisa A. Romano.
What if racism was a big fat lie?
What if our own unconscious automatic associations have duped us?
What if our language and the metaphors we have been socialized to accept, were somehow infiltrating our perceptions of others, based on preconceived ideas about the meanings we attach to colors?
What if we as a human race have been programmed to view the word white with purity, while we have also been programmed to associate the word black with things that are not pure?
What if the way we have all been socialized to think of the colors black and white have seeped their way into our subconscious minds and have somehow interfaced with our perceptions of people who are either black or white?
What if we are prewired to think of white to mean good and black to mean bad or less than good?
What if we as a species are hardwired to associate morality with the color white and immorality with the color black?
What if as a society we all...
Broadcasting Live Today at 9 a.m. EST on Blogtalk Radio--Adult Children of Alcoholics--And Their Broken Energy Bonds
Any adult child of an alcoholic has heard, watched and believed enough B/S to last a lifetime. From excuses like, "I am not drunk. I just haven't had enough sleep lately," to "Your father isn't drunk. He's just really tired from working so hard" to a plethora of other comments, we children from denial based homes have the ability to spot a lie from one thousand yards.
On a vibrational level we knew when we were being lied to when we were four, and when someone is trying to bullsh** us now, we know it too. But the problem we adult children of alcoholics have is, we do not have the skills that allow us to deal with the lies, and the bullsh** appropriately. Many of us know we are being lied to, or deceived, but we do not know what to do about it when it is happening in the moment.
Here are a few tips I would like to share with you to help you be able to more readily take care of your inner self when you become aware that you are being abused by a liar who is essentially trying to...
Dear Ones, knowing HOW to recover will require you to know the WHAT is wrong first.
If you are under the impression that your feelings are all there is to what is happening in your life, and if you are purely going by how you feel--you may be confusing what you feel with what is going on within you on a quantum level.
Yes, your feelings are the indicators. But sometimes we ACOA's confuse pity with love, or we confuse the fear of being alone, with a mashed potato like experience of feeling or thinking we should stay in relationships.
If you are in codependent relationships--you must first learn to DETACH.
1.) Research Detachment
Getting a clear understanding of what the hell detachment is--will help you gain a conceptual idea of what is wrong as well as what it means to actually be able to detach. Yes Dear Ones--Knowledge is power--so get on it!
You will hear me say over and over again, that a whacky mind that is full of B/S which is nothing but recycled mental...