To experience love and intimacy, we must learn to be honest

Every human being wishes to be loved and to love. To experience love and intimacy, we must learn to be honest. Intimacy is crucial when it comes to experiencing healthy relationships, but what is intimacy exactly?

For those of us who come from abandonment, rejection, unpredictability, and addictive or abusive homes, it is not so easy to allow ourselves to be vulnerable, but without vulnerability, we can never experience intimacy.

Intimacy is tied to the ability to share ourselves with others in honest ways. It implies we are willing to share our fears, desires, opinions, and beliefs with others in a way that represents our truest, rawest selves. When we are in healthy relationships, our partners, friends, and family members can HEAR what we are saying. We are not judged, marginalized, condemned, or made fun of when we share what we offer. The intimate things we share land upon cotton sheets not beds of broken glass.

To be intimate with others requires a level of courage. We can...

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Love addiction and codependency are NOT about love at all

Love addiction and codependency are NOT about love at all. They are about the fear of NOT feeling LOVE.

Love addiction is about compulsive thoughts and behaviors. It is about reactivity and a lack of self -control when it comes to emotions.

Many abused children grow up to become adult men and women who view love like a great tragic play, sort of like Romeo and Juliet, and yet, Romeo and Juliet were completely OUT of control, so much so they got everyone they knew wrapped up in their drama.

REAL LOVE is patient, calm, soothing, rational, fair, warm, nurturing, and kind. There is no up and down nonsense, gaslighting, compulsive behaviors, stonewalling, silent treatments, passive aggressiveness, or denial of facts.

The problem abused and ignored children have is this...the human imagination is a place that allows escape, and left to its own devices, many children believe that love must be the opposite of the supreme lack of disconnection which equals attachment and enmeshment.

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Love is a choice and a state of being

Love is a choice and a state of being.

Love is an action word as it reflects a nonphysical state that is acted upon by a physical being.

To help us understand what love truly is, it helps to rest one’s mind on the simplicity that abounds in nature.

Today, focus your attention on the beauty of a single flower. Study it. Watch it. Imagine what it feels like to be a single rose or sunflower in a garden of many in a world it does not worry about, unconcerned with what the other sunflowers or roses think.

Do what you can to imagine and connect on a vibrational level to the absolute stillness of that flower.

Just for a few moments, drop your own mind. Drop your thoughts. Drop your worries over your past wounding experiences. Drop your worry and connect to the infinite streams of abundance that is always--and was always about you.

Just for a few moments, become still of mind and milk the experience of love. Milk the feeling of pure acceptance, peace, and stillness that is love.

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Today, do what you can to LOVE your inner child

Abused adult children were denied a happy childhood and that is not our fault—BUT—as long as we have air in our lungs, we have the opportunity to BREATH DEEPLY and to choose LOVE.

Yes, in spite of all that has been, in any given moment, we can STOP living in survival mode and begin connecting to the SPIRIT within.

In each of us, there is a HOLY SPIRIT that is connected and even an extension of the CREATOR of all that is. Isn’t that just awesome Dear Ones?

You, your essence, is an extension of SOURCE.

WOW—just WOW.

Don’t let those negative thoughts fool you—they are temporary and once you connect more deeply to your DIVINE HEART, they will begin to fade.

YAY!

Yes, our childhood experiences may have caused us to live in survival mode, to lash out, to run away, to dissociate, and to fear letting go of our old patterns that have kept us safe, but in every moment exists the opportunity for a TOTAL MIRACLE!

When we CHOOSE LOVE, the love of self—the love...
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Love is a choice and a state of being. Learning to love the self is an art.

Love is a choice and a state of being.

Love is an action word as it reflects a nonphysical state that is acted upon by a physical being.

To help us understand what love truly is, it helps to rest one’s mind on the simplicity that abounds in nature.

Today, focus your attention on the beauty of a single flower. Study it. Watch it. Imagine what it feels like to be a single rose or sunflower in a garden of many in a world it does not worry about, unconcerned with what the other sunflowers or roses think.

Do what you can to imagine and connect on a vibrational level to the absolute stillness of that flower.

Just for a few moments, drop your own mind. Drop your thoughts. Drop your worries over your past wounding experiences. Drop your worry and connect to the infinite streams of abundance that is always--and was always about you.

Just for a few moments, become still of mind and milk the experience of love. Milk the feeling of pure acceptance, peace, and stillness that is love.

Learning to...

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All Love Starts With Inside Love

We wonder why we feel so lost.

We wonder why we feel so empty.

Imagine believing your dream car was in a parking lot at Walmart but instead it was home in your garage.

Imagine how you would feel if you TRULY believed your car was in that parking lot.

Imagine if, that car meant so much to you. Imagine if, you believed you could not be happy without that car.

Imagine if, everyone you knew told you your car was in that parking lot.

Imagine if, you saw other people hopping into their cars as you searched and searched for yours.

Imagine night coming, and you are still wandering around that parking lot.

Imagine the morning arrives, and you still go on searching.

Imagine being so convinced that your dream car, the car that would make all your dreams come true was IN that parking lot.

Imagine believing that if you could just find YOUR car, all would be well with you and your world.

Imagine being conditioned to believe that the right car had the ability to solve all of your woes.

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Don't Chase Love

There are plenty of reasons why you should never chase love in relationships.

When we chase love, we are essentially implying we do not yet possess love. Chasing is an aggressive action. When we want love, we need to become love. If you struggle with insecurities, you may feel needy and become addicted to other people's approval. When this happens, you may be tempted to chase love. Remember, you are enough!

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There Is Always Something To Be Grateful For

In spite of anything that has ever gone awry in our lives, the truth is, there is always something to be grateful for.

If you are breathing, you are connected to source through your breath, and although you may not believe that to be true, it is.

If you can take a deep breath, silence your mind for just a moment, and think about the way you think, you are further along on the healing path than most.

Never give up looking for that one thought that leads to HOPE.

Hope, leads to faith which leads to LOVE and LOVE is all we ever really needed—ever.

Love the Self Dear Ones and all will be well.

 

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Let No Thing Separate You From The LOVE That You Are!

If you knew you were enough, what would you do today?

If you knew you were enough, what plans would you make for the following year?

If you knew you were enough, how would you feel around others?

Be grateful Dear One, because you are ENOUGH and only faulty ideas once separated you from being able to FULLY embrace the miracle that is LIFE!

Let no one or no thing separate you from the LOVE that you are!

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Self-love is the KEY to EVERYTHING.

One of the easiest ways we can learn to love the self is by setting an early morning intention. Left to its unconscious devices, the brain runs in loops and patterns of behavior. If we are not careful, we can live an entire lifetime unaware, un-awakened, and unconscious. A human being can go 100 years and never once feel truly AWAKE.

Self-love is the KEY to EVERYTHING.

Not loving the self draws into your experience all the unhealthy patterns from the past. Loving the self acts like a KEY and helps unlock DNA codes that allow for ABUNDANCE, JOY, PEACE, CONTENTMENT, and SERENITY to flow into your experience.

This weekend, see if you can begin your day with journaling about your intentions. Intend to see beauty everywhere you look. Intend to feel joy and wonder as you peer into the sky. Intend to love the self and to offer the self-compassion and empathy.

Taking the time to INTEND to live in a more ABUNDANT vibration helps your body, mind, and soul fill with UNIVERSAL LOVE.

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