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How do we love the self, if the self that we are was taught it was unworthy or irrelevant?

Those of us who struggle with self love, forget that it is okay to give ourselves permission to love the self.

Many of us don't know how to love the self and struggle with understanding what that means.

How do we love the self, if the self that we are was taught it was unworthy or irrelevant?

Great question!
When we are learning to love the self, we understand that deep within us is an essence that is as valid as any other person or thing in the entire universe.
We learn to understand that just because someone we loved, perhaps was unable to love us in a way that we needed, does not mean we are not worthy of love.

We also learn to understand that even if, those we loved refused to love us, that does not mean we are unworthy of. love.

When we begin giving ourselves permission to love the self, our entire world shifts!

If you were waiting for someone to love you enough so you could love the self, Dear One, it is time to be the one you were looking for.

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Quiet the mind, love the body, and look within

When we look outside of ourselves and we see chaos, we must remember to quiet the mind, love the body, and look within.

If the matrix is confused, disordered, and chaotic, remember, that it is all too easy to become a part of what is happening outside of you.
It is not easy.

It is probably the MOST difficult of all spiritual tasks to achieve.

Closing your eyes to what is happening outside of you, regardless of the temptation to become a part of what is happening outside of you, because your egoic mind believes that if it can control what is happening outside of you, then you will feel less out of control IS the goal, no matter how ridiculously difficult.

Within you is a magnificent, abundant, perfect world.

Within you is a world of cells, organs, capillaries, neurons, arteries, minerals, vitamins, and more, all designed for your good.

Within you is the ability to imagine any state you desire.
Focus on your body. Love it...appreciate it...honor it...respect it...it is your truest and realist...

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If someone respects and loves you--you'll know it.

This post is for anyone who is dating, living, or working with someone who has an arrogant, intellectual air about them, who finds ways to put them down. This post is for anyone who has to deal with someone who behaves as if they are supremely more intelligent than others and who MUST find ways to tell the world how amazingly brilliant they are and often at your expense.


Not all narcissists are unintelligent sociopaths. Some of them in fact, are the brightest minds on earth. When we are dealing with an intellectual or cerebral narcissist, it can be even more challenging to hold onto the self because they have such a wonderful command of language.


In the end, consider how people make you feel.


If someone respects and loves you--you'll know it.


If someone is trying to make you feel bad so they can feel good--you'll know that too.


Drop into your heart space and ask yourself, "How does this person make me feel?" and then, listen.


Don't let any little smarty pants make you feel bad about...

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To experience love and intimacy, we must learn to be honest

Every human being wishes to be loved and to love. To experience love and intimacy, we must learn to be honest. Intimacy is crucial when it comes to experiencing healthy relationships, but what is intimacy exactly?

For those of us who come from abandonment, rejection, unpredictability, and addictive or abusive homes, it is not so easy to allow ourselves to be vulnerable, but without vulnerability, we can never experience intimacy.

Intimacy is tied to the ability to share ourselves with others in honest ways. It implies we are willing to share our fears, desires, opinions, and beliefs with others in a way that represents our truest, rawest selves. When we are in healthy relationships, our partners, friends, and family members can HEAR what we are saying. We are not judged, marginalized, condemned, or made fun of when we share what we offer. The intimate things we share land upon cotton sheets not beds of broken glass.

To be intimate with others requires a level of courage. We can...

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Love addiction and codependency are NOT about love at all

Love addiction and codependency are NOT about love at all. They are about the fear of NOT feeling LOVE.

Love addiction is about compulsive thoughts and behaviors. It is about reactivity and a lack of self -control when it comes to emotions.

Many abused children grow up to become adult men and women who view love like a great tragic play, sort of like Romeo and Juliet, and yet, Romeo and Juliet were completely OUT of control, so much so they got everyone they knew wrapped up in their drama.

REAL LOVE is patient, calm, soothing, rational, fair, warm, nurturing, and kind. There is no up and down nonsense, gaslighting, compulsive behaviors, stonewalling, silent treatments, passive aggressiveness, or denial of facts.

The problem abused and ignored children have is this...the human imagination is a place that allows escape, and left to its own devices, many children believe that love must be the opposite of the supreme lack of disconnection which equals attachment and enmeshment.

Abused...

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Love is a choice and a state of being

Love is a choice and a state of being.

Love is an action word as it reflects a nonphysical state that is acted upon by a physical being.

To help us understand what love truly is, it helps to rest one’s mind on the simplicity that abounds in nature.

Today, focus your attention on the beauty of a single flower. Study it. Watch it. Imagine what it feels like to be a single rose or sunflower in a garden of many in a world it does not worry about, unconcerned with what the other sunflowers or roses think.

Do what you can to imagine and connect on a vibrational level to the absolute stillness of that flower.

Just for a few moments, drop your own mind. Drop your thoughts. Drop your worries over your past wounding experiences. Drop your worry and connect to the infinite streams of abundance that is always--and was always about you.

Just for a few moments, become still of mind and milk the experience of love. Milk the feeling of pure acceptance, peace, and stillness that is love.

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Today, do what you can to LOVE your inner child

Abused adult children were denied a happy childhood and that is not our fault—BUT—as long as we have air in our lungs, we have the opportunity to BREATH DEEPLY and to choose LOVE.

Yes, in spite of all that has been, in any given moment, we can STOP living in survival mode and begin connecting to the SPIRIT within.

In each of us, there is a HOLY SPIRIT that is connected and even an extension of the CREATOR of all that is. Isn’t that just awesome Dear Ones?

You, your essence, is an extension of SOURCE.

WOW—just WOW.

Don’t let those negative thoughts fool you—they are temporary and once you connect more deeply to your DIVINE HEART, they will begin to fade.

YAY!

Yes, our childhood experiences may have caused us to live in survival mode, to lash out, to run away, to dissociate, and to fear letting go of our old patterns that have kept us safe, but in every moment exists the opportunity for a TOTAL MIRACLE!

When we CHOOSE LOVE, the love of self—the love...
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Love is a choice and a state of being. Learning to love the self is an art.

Love is a choice and a state of being.

Love is an action word as it reflects a nonphysical state that is acted upon by a physical being.

To help us understand what love truly is, it helps to rest one’s mind on the simplicity that abounds in nature.

Today, focus your attention on the beauty of a single flower. Study it. Watch it. Imagine what it feels like to be a single rose or sunflower in a garden of many in a world it does not worry about, unconcerned with what the other sunflowers or roses think.

Do what you can to imagine and connect on a vibrational level to the absolute stillness of that flower.

Just for a few moments, drop your own mind. Drop your thoughts. Drop your worries over your past wounding experiences. Drop your worry and connect to the infinite streams of abundance that is always--and was always about you.

Just for a few moments, become still of mind and milk the experience of love. Milk the feeling of pure acceptance, peace, and stillness that is love.

Learning to...

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All Love Starts With Inside Love

We wonder why we feel so lost.

We wonder why we feel so empty.

Imagine believing your dream car was in a parking lot at Walmart but instead it was home in your garage.

Imagine how you would feel if you TRULY believed your car was in that parking lot.

Imagine if, that car meant so much to you. Imagine if, you believed you could not be happy without that car.

Imagine if, everyone you knew told you your car was in that parking lot.

Imagine if, you saw other people hopping into their cars as you searched and searched for yours.

Imagine night coming, and you are still wandering around that parking lot.

Imagine the morning arrives, and you still go on searching.

Imagine being so convinced that your dream car, the car that would make all your dreams come true was IN that parking lot.

Imagine believing that if you could just find YOUR car, all would be well with you and your world.

Imagine being conditioned to believe that the right car had the ability to solve all of your woes.

No matter what, you're...
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Don't Chase Love

There are plenty of reasons why you should never chase love in relationships.

When we chase love, we are essentially implying we do not yet possess love. Chasing is an aggressive action. When we want love, we need to become love. If you struggle with insecurities, you may feel needy and become addicted to other people's approval. When this happens, you may be tempted to chase love. Remember, you are enough!

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