How do we love the self, if the self that we are was taught it was unworthy or irrelevant?
by Lisa A. Romano
Those of us who struggle with self-love, forget that it is okay to give ourselves permission to love the self.
Many of us don't know how to love the self and struggle with understanding what that means. If we were raised in dysfunctional homes, and our parents were alcoholics or narcissistic, the timeframe necessary for a child to develop a healthy sense of self may have been completely bypassed due to experiences we were powerless to control.
How do we begin to find our way back to the self, if we never had an opportunity to learn to connect to the self?
When we are learning to love the self, we understand that deep within us is an essence that is as valid as any other person or thing in the entire universe.
We learn to understand that just because someone we loved, perhaps was unable to love us in a way that we needed, does not mean we are unworthy of love. We learn to accept how we feel, and at the same time, we look deeper, past our conditioning, and learn to connect with the love we have been created from.
We also learn to understand that even if, those we loved refused to love us, that does not mean we are unworthy of love.