When Is It Time to Quit That Relationship

It can be difficult to know when to quit or end a relationship. When we are in relationships, we hope for the best and want to believe that our relationships can flourish, but over time, we might realize this just is not possible.

Here are some tips for you to consider if you are wondering when it might be time to quit or end that relationship.

1. Domestic Violence and Fear of Bodily Harm

If you live in fear of someone possibly hurting you, it is time to consider leaving that relationship. No one ever has a right to harm you or cause you to fear bodily injury. This is a sure sign the relationship is toxic and you should leave.

2. Crazy Making Communication

Crazy making communication is the type of communication that goes nowhere and leaves you exhausted, drained, and questioning your sanity. When you are involved with someone who uses crazy making communication, they will use word salads to keep you feeling off balance. This is done so maintain power and control over you.

3. Psychological Abuse

Gaslighting, verbal abuse, mental abuse, smear campaigns, and emotional abuse are forms of psychological abuse. When you are involved with people who see fit to cause you to question your reality, as well as verbally abuse you, it is a clear sign you are in the wrong relationship.

4. Pathological Lying

Those who pathologically lie make it impossible for you to share a common reality. Relationships should be built on faith, trust, and a sense of unity. You should feel like you and the other person share a common reality and when you are dealing with a pathological liar, this erodes your trust. It is impossible to have a healthy and reciprocal relationship with a pathological liar.

5. You Live in a Fantasy World

If you live your life waiting for the person you are involved with to magically morph into the person you wish them to be, this is a sign your relationship is unhealthy.  No one should have to live waiting for their partner to become who they wish they would like to be. This keeps you out of the NOW and living in a world that does not exist.

6. Your Partner Insists You Need to Change

In fairness, relationships may demand we work on ourselves in order to be fair to our partners. However, when our partners devalue us, marginalize us, and insist that they cannot respect or love us unless we change, it is time to reconsider the relationship.  Relationships are about fairness, acceptance, and loving people as they are. If your partner insists you're unlovable unless you change to suit their needs, it is time to reconsider that relationship.

7. Repeated Failures

It is normal for relationships to have their fair share of ups and downs, however, when couples continue to argue about the same issues and nothing gets resolved, it is time to reconsider the relationship. If you and your partner are not resolving issues, your spinning your wheels instead. And rather than growing, you're both staying stuck and this is not good for either of you.

‍

‍