Lisa A. Romano
Life Coach and Bestselling Author

Are you Codependent or a victim of Narcissistic Abuse?



Codependency Does NOT Have To Control Your Life - You CAN Break Through!


Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

If you've never felt seen, you can't see or value the self.

When you have been raised to believe that what you feel, think, need, and want are unimportant, you develop into someone who hides the self, people-pleases, lacks boundaries, is often depressed, angry, anxious, and has few skills to change their lives.

 “One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light but by making the darkness conscious.”

Carl Jung


  • Unresolved childhood trauma impacts the developing brain. When you have been raised in an unpredictable and invalidating home your brain is wired for survival. As a result, maladaptive coping skills become a way of life. Codependency is rooted in shame, abandonment trauma and the fear of being rejected. 
  • As a wounded adult child of two alcoholic parents, I know first hand what it feels like to grow up feeling unworthy, unseen, and invalidated. Today, I work to develop resources to help those suffering from the crippling effects of childhood trauma learn to heal their lives. 
  • Those of us who are wounded believe we are unworthy. When we BELIEVE we are unworthy, we see threats everywhere. We can become reactive, anxious, depressed, codependent, and often we attract people into our lives that mirror our childhood experiences. We never feel good enough and no matter how much we do, we never feel like we do enough.
  • Unresolved trauma impacts our work and family relationships. When our brain is wired for survival, our mind operates on high-alert. Rather than life unfolding joyously, we struggle to feel comfortable in our own skin. 
  • When we are unaware of our sensitized stress response system, we are easily triggered, flustered, and overwhelmed.  As we excavate the hidden traumas and faulty self-conceptions, we unburden the Inner Child from self-sabotaging behaviors. 
  • As we raise our level of self-awareness, learn new coping skills, and heal the trauma responsible for our faulty subconscious programming, we are able to increase our ability to deal with daily stressors. We are less anxious at work, at home, in our relationships, and in our own skin. 
  • Those of us who are highly reactive or who have a difficult time managing our emotions are often dealing with Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. As a result, we may have a difficult time dealing with life stressors. Unlike those who come from safe, nurturing, and emotionally validating homes, we are easily triggered and fear change. Our brains are often in a constant state of fight or flight. This is not our fault, but we must make every attempt at learning proper coping skills so our lives can become more manageable as well as enjoyable. 

If you worry more about what others think about you than what you think about you...If you struggle with loving your self...If you tend to put others needs before your own needs...If you feel invisible...If you worry you are not good enough...If you stay in unhealthy relationships...If you do not know how to feel or process your feelings, please know there is hope.

Codependency is often a symptom of an arrested childhood. With the right knowledge, guidance, tools, and community support, unconscious codependent thinking can be incredibly corrected. 

When we BELIEVE we are not enough, we must learn to reframe this belief so we can live life BELIEVING we are enough. When our INNER narrative changes, our OUTER world must shift. 

My life's work is dedicated to helping people who have been wounded develop practical tools and life skills to help them face the fears that have shamed them to the point of being unable to process the trauma that has been keeping them stuck in reactivity and seeking validation from outside of the self. 

My life is proof that you can heal from trauma, trauma bonds, faulty unconscious programming, reactivity, anxiety, depression, codependency, and symptoms of CPTSD.  As a Life Coach, bestselling author, and workshop facilitator, I am honored to be able to help people reprogram their minds so to manifest the types of work and family experiences they truly deserve. 

It is my honor to offer online programs, books, workshops and live events to help people learn to Master their lives by learning to Master their minds and emotions. 

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Lisa's Online Programs...

Breakthrough Warrior Membership

Enjoy monthly themes, mantras, and a Live Group Call. If you are looking for a one stop shop for healing Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse, and you appreciate group support, this membership program is for you.  This membership site is for those who are committed to self-study. Cancel anytime.

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The 12 Week Breakthrough Codependency Program

Emotionally neglected children grow up and abandon themselves. This is NOT your fault. The 12 Week Breakthrough Codependency℠ Program is the personal template Lisa used to help heal from codependency and narcissistic abuse. Take this class in the comfort of your own home, at your own pace. Follow along with your group and meet Lisa online every Saturday morning at 9 am est on Facebook. 

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Quantum Tools Law of Attraction Master Class

If you can surrender to the ABSOLUTE and NATURAL laws that govern this universe, you can Master the Quantum World that governs time and space. The world is a vibrational place and our emotions are energy in motion. Learning to Master your emotions, leads to mastering your life. Are you ready to Master Your Reality? Join Lisa each Sunday morning at 9 am est for a live group call while studying at your own pace in the comfort of your own home. 

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Loving the Self Video and Meditation Program


Self-care is self-love in action. When you have been raised to feel unworthy and invalid, you don't have a healthy sense of self. So how then, can you love the self? You can't and that is why I created The Loving the Self Video and Meditation Program. 

This program is available immediately. Start your journey back to the self today.  

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When we are codependent, we are not independent.  As codependents we tend to attach and in the attaching to some external relationship, person, or experience, we detach from the self. 

Codependency is a faulty way of viewing the self as well as the world.  The lens that we view life through is tainted but we don't know it. All human beings are born asleep, but again, we don't know it.  What has been impressed upon the subconscious mind while we were children and in hypnotic brainwave states has become the maps we use to navigate our adult lives.  If our childhoods were chaotic, unsafe, and unpredictable, as adults we attract people, situations and experiences that mirrors what took place in our lives when we were children.

  • What we believe we see. If we have been taught to believe we are unworthy or that life is unsafe, we will live our lives  waiting for the next shoe to drop.
  • When our lives have been unpredictable and we have been conditioned to suppress and deny our emotions, as adults we may seek to CONTROL others as well as things and situations that are outside our ability to control.
  • When we are codependent, we fail to set personal as well as external boundaries. We may live in a perpetual state of powerlessness, and seeking to fend off hidden shame. 
  • Gaslighting is a form of psychological and emotional abuse aimed at gaining control and power over a victim. Many abused adult children have suffered from gaslighting as well as other forms of abuse. Gaslighting causes victims to doubt their reality. 
  • Children who have grown up in homes that were abrasive, dysfunctional, hostile, emotionally abusive, and alike, are more prone to depression, anxiety, reactivity, and codependency. 

As adults, we owe it to ourselves to awaken from the dream state that codependency is, so we can finally live the authentic lives every human being has the potential to live.


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"I have suffered from anxiety, depression and low self-esteem since childhood and was clueless as to what could be wrong with me .I was in and out of therapy for many years and nothing seemed to really work for me. Eventually I became fed up with everything. Last June I came across Lisa’s Youtube channel and after watching many of her videos it became clear to me that there was nothing wrong with me except the way I was raised as a child. I have suffered from narcissistic abuse and as a result developed codependency. Right away I KNEW that I had to take..."

Faiza Nawaz

"Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough program was amazing! Prior to signing up, I’d recently ended a relationship in which I was surprised to discover I’d fallen victim to the painful dynamics it held. Coming across Lisa’s program information on breaking free from codependency, I knew right away it was for me. Participating in her program brought about a new level of growth that I hadn’t been able to access up to that point. I gained so much understanding into how I could even find myself in such a relationship, let alone stay in it for a while. Her course showed me how..."

Alyse A. Rynor, LCSW
Soul Choice Counseling Evanston, IL

"Lisa and this program will give you the blueprint to ‘re-parent’ yourself and get what you never had as a child if you come from a dysfunctional/codependent home. I am no longer interested in pain or anything that brings it. Relationships will fall away, there will be great loneliness at times, but right now I am at a point where I’d rather be alone than in pain. I am actually enjoying getting to know me, what I like, what I want and starting to shape my life how I want it to be. I am not waiting for anyone else’s validation anymore! It is beautiful! Another great takeaway from this program is learning to simply be with myself. Honoring this self, cherishing this self, and being so proud that I’m doing something to better my life. Each day I try to nurture myself more and more. It is just so freeing to be aware and learn about my programming while understanding I can change it! You don’t have to be stuck anymore! For the first time in my life I am truly there for me. I am not leaving the care of my “self” up to anyone but ME and for the first time ever I know I am in good hands; my own. I have found myself because of you Lisa (and the 12 Week Breakthrough) and I am eternally grateful. If I had to make the choice to do this course over I wouldn’t question it for a second. The work is not fast or easy, but it is the greatest work I could ever be doing for myself. Thank you. Love, J.S. a recovering abused adult child, who refuses to abuse or abandon herself anymore. "

J.S. Recovering Abused Adult Child

"Lisa A Romano's 12 week breakthrough Program was recommended to me by someone that I met last year in a seminar. She told me it had helped her more than anything else she had tried, which struck a cord with me because she's a very smart and savvy lady. She also said that she'd got enormous support from the Closed Facebook Group, which she has for life. So, with some cynicism, I decided to take the plunge and sign up....... I'd had years of different therapies (group and one-to-one). I'd read many books, done various workshops - you name it I'd tried it, and whilst I had made some progress, I'd always felt stuck in the same pain. I had resigned myself to a belief that I was broken and so badly damaged that I couldn't possibly live a life like most people........ Until now! I'm 9 weeks into the Program and I KNOW that I will get there because it all makes so much sense. Lisa is captivating, funny and VERY smart. I believe we all fall a little bit in love with her. :-) And, like my friend said, the Facebook support group is amazing - hand and glove! "

G. Hughes

"I was never sexually abused growing up...Nope. My parents didn't neglect me physically in fact they were excellent providers. But they ignored me emotionally and neglected me big time emotionally...I've never felt enough so I've worked with a mindset coach for a year and I've taken a mindset program which cost me thousands of dollars(over $10,000 and up). Lisa's coaching program is the only program that has brought so much peace and understanding in my broken heart and chaotic mind! I go out now and smile, loving the sun, not afraid to rock the boat. Actually, I love holding on to myself and not fear anymore that people won't validate me. Lisa has given me my dignity back! Thank you Lisa A. Romano! I will be using my light and this knowledge for the greater good! Namaste Eveyone! "


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