Why You Can't Have Healthy Relationships
Codependency is tied to shame, loneliness, poor boundaries, and a lack of life skills. When you are codependent, unhealthy relationships are the norm. You don't naturally watch after the self, and you tend to worry more about what others think about you than what you think about you. The past has become your NOW and you have no clue how to change what needs to be changed. Sadly, healthy relationships slip away as unhealthy dynamics continue to flourish.
Codependents tend to stay in toxic relationships even when they know they are toxic. Codependents will complain, cry, withdraw, and can find themselves living with intolerable anger and frustration. Patterns from the past, deep fears of abandonment, poor boundaries, and a lack of self makes it impossible to confront all that needs to be properly dealt with.
If you're codependent, you need a connection to the self and faith to believe that the self you are is valuable, capable, and worthy. You need to be able to set boundaries with those who might be ticked off you have less tolerance for crazymaking irresponsible behavior.
One of the telltale signs that you are healing from codependency is the fear that someone you once fawned after might never leave!
As you begin to awaken from the spell codependency is, you are able to more clearly see how not loving yourself has allowed others to exploit your fears. Slowly, as the scabs fall from your eyes, you are more willing to look within and take accountability for how you feel.
It is true.
No one is responsible for your thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, mindsets, actions, or inactions. No one can 'make you' happy, but it is time to recognize that unhealthy partnerships sure can make you miserable. Healing from the root causes of codependency breaks the spell!
Lisa A. Romano is a Life Coach and Bestselling Author who specializes in Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse. She is the creator of The 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program. Lisa has a number of different online coaching programs that allow people to learn how to heal themselves of faulty childhood programming.
Lisa helps her clients understand the power of the subconscious mind, when activated through higher consciousness which gives rise to greater understanding of the ability to love the self completely.