When we grow up thinking other people must like us, we are doomed
by Lisa A. Romano
When we grow up thinking other people must like us, we are doomed. We are doomed because there is absolutely no way we could ever control what is happening inside someone else’s mind.
In addition, most people are unconscious most of the time and the lens in which they view the world is skewed by their past experiences. The way people look at you and perceive you is determined by their pasts.
From this perspective, we can all take a deep sigh of relief and fully acknowledge how irrational and absolutely useless it is to worry ourselves sick over making sure other people like us. That is not to say we forget our manners and stop holding doors for other people. It means we hold ourselves with integrity, humility, and do what we can to have compassion for ourselves as well as for all.
The people amongst us who do not know they are asleep are not living at all. They just don’t know it.
Be kind, be fair, and don’t play with porcupines who think their fuzzy bunny rabbits.