Aug 04, 2023

3 Signs You're Ready to Transcend Trauma

by Lisa A. Romano

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Once upon a time, I was fixated on things, and people I could not change, and I had no clue my mind was a vat of habits, perceptions, opinions, biases, and limiting beliefs. Feeling not good enough and like I needed to prove my worth to others was a way of life, and the people I had attracted into my life, reinforced these concepts.

And that is what unhealed trauma does. It keeps us stuck, feeling unworthy, and seeking approval. And like a hologram that can't help but repeat itself, day in and day out, I remained on this subconscious karmic wheel, unaware I was unaware.

I am grateful that I never gave up and learned how to heal at the mental, spiritual, and vibration levels, despite the many dark rooms I needed to explore within the glass house of my ego.

I hope you see the light at the end of the tunnel and never give up striving for peace of mind!

Today, I wanted to discuss an important topic that many of us may have experienced at some point in our lives: emotional trauma.

Unfortunately, trauma can leave lasting scars, hindering our growth and happiness. However, I believe there comes a time when we are ready to transcend this pain and embark on a spiritual growth journey that allows us to move beyond the chains of the past.

The emotional healing journey is complex and does not happen all in one giant swoop. It happens over time, with the first stage involving an awakening. An awakening occurs when a new awareness causes us to question our circumstances. This stage is painful as we are coming out of denial. This can be a disorienting time in our lives, as we no longer feel safe or trust how we operate our lives. We are like the lobster that has shed its shell and is highly vulnerable until we grow a new one.

The next phase is a bit wobbly. It's where we try to gain footing in the world. We are no longer in denial but have not yet healed. In this stage, we often attract people like the ones we have just left because we have not yet healed at the vibrational level. Our healing up until this point has been mental. And even though on the surface it looks like we are making more conscious choices, below the veil, we have yet to release the energy of our trauma wounds, so we still vibrate at the level of our past in many ways.

Hopefully, we will reach a point where we are ready to figure out how to resonate at higher frequencies despite the past. We are no longer interested in whose a narcissist or not, and more than anything, we burn with a desire to live in harmony with all that is, has been, and ever will be. We are ready to become nonresistant to all that has been, so we can breakthrough and break free the chains of cause and effect.

Here are three signs that indicate you may be ready to take that empowering step:

1. Increased Self-Awareness: One of the critical indicators that you're ready to transcend emotional trauma is a heightened sense of self-awareness. You recognize past experiences' impact on your present emotions and behaviors. This awareness allows you to separate your true self from the trauma, paving the way for healing and growth. You know it could be no other way and that your ego was innocent and subject to the brain's default settings. You are ready to be free of mental and egoic constructs.

2. Desire for Change: A deep longing for change is another sign that you're ready to transcend emotional trauma. You no longer wish to be defined by your past pain; instead, you yearn for a life filled with joy, peace, and fulfillment. This burning desire propels you to seek out resources, support, and strategies to break free from the chains of emotional trauma. You do not deny, resist or ignore trauma or its impact on your life; however, you are ready to do what is necessary to move beyond the consequences of trauma.

3. Your heart is full of more compassion for yourself and others: An increased awareness of self-compassion is a sign that you're ready to transcend to love consciousness. You look beyond the material and find that anger, confusion, resentment, and reactivity give way to nonresistance. You argue with others less, accept what you can't change or control more, and find yourself aching for more emotional freedom. Rather than judge others or yourself, you discover that you are simply surrendering to what is.

Remember, healing from emotional trauma is a courageous and transformative process. It takes time, patience, and self-compassion. But with the right mindset and support, you can transcend the pain and embrace a life filled with joy, love, and resilience.

Wishing you strength and healing on your journey.

The path to emotional freedom is not linear, nor a race. There is no judge or jury. Knowledge allows our minds to expand, and our consciousness widens in time. Ultimately, we discover the truth. We are born of the divine, although not all of us remember or discover this truth before we make our final transition.

May you stay close to the healing and spiritual growth path and come to know the peace that surpasses human understanding.

Lisa A. Romano is a certified Life Coach, and bestselling author who was voted the #1 Most Influential Person of 2020. She is also one of the most listened to meditation teachers on Insight Timer. Lisa’s podcast, Breakdown to Breakthrough is one of the top 100 mental health shows available. Codependent Now What? and the Codependency Manifesto were voted two of the best books of all time on the topic of Codependency. She is an expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse recovery. Her mission is to empower wounded adult children who were raised in toxic homes, heal from abandonment wounds that create codependency, and fuel self abandonment with the strategies as well as tools they need to live an authentic, empowered life. Her flaghship program, The 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program, has helped thousands reclaim their authentic identity, and emotional freedom. Her motto is, It’s Not You — It’s Your Programming.