If you have been abused by a narcissist, you may not even realize the trauma you have experienced. Narcissists create tremendous confusion in their victims through lying, denying, twisting of facts, and through the manipulation of emotions.
Ending the narcissistic relationship is mind-bending. Not all breakups are the same. When you break up with your high school sweetheart, that sucks but at least you know you are breaking up with your high school sweetheart. When you break up with a narcissist, you are ending a relationship that never really existed. Well, not the way you think it did anyway.
When you love a narcissist, you have fallen in love with an illusion. A narcissist does not live in reality. They live through the image of their false self, the one they want YOU to believe in and the one they present to the world. In truth, the narcissist is shame-based and cannot deal with that shame in a truly realistic way. For this reason, they create a false self that serves to mask what they cannot face within themselves.
This false self is the identity you were hooked into believing was real but is not.
As you heal from ending the narcissistic relationship, you will face MANY bumps in the road. You will wonder if you are crazy and go through ups and downs sometimes many times throughout the day. You will doubt your feelings and you may wonder if you are judging the narcissist too harshly. You will remember the times in which you believed the narcissist loved you and you will question your reality. In spite of the narcissist cheating on you or lying to you from the moment you met, you will struggle to hold onto your right to be angry because you have been abused by a narcissist.
Narcissists never take accountability for what havoc they have wreaked on another person's life. So even if a narcissist has drained your bank account, wrecked your car, got you fired, gave you an STD, and has lied to you and everyone you know, don't ever expect them to admit it. Narcissists are wired to play the victim, convince you--you are wrong, and are masters at rationalizing their self-serving actions.
In this video, I do what I can to help those of you out there who have been groomed by someone who manipulated you into a relationship with a person who never existed. The road ahead of you may be long, but it is possible to recover.
Narcissists are asleep, ashamed, and stuck in patterns of lies and deception. They not only lie to you, but they also lie to themselves. If you are able to tell your truth no matter how painful, consider yourself the lucky one.
Be careful out there Dear Ones.
Lisa A. Romano is a Certified Life Coach, bestselling author, and YouTube Vlogger specializing in codependency and narcissistic abuse recovery. She is also one of the most listened to meditation teachers on the world’s largest meditation app Insight Timer. Lisa creates real-life tools to help people evolve past their traumas so they can live in peace, achieve success, and create harmony in their lives regardless of painful past events.
Lisa's work helps awaken people to the idea that what is wrong is not them, it is only their programming. Her 12 Week Breakthrough Healing Coaching Program takes members through three months of reprogramming. Lisa creates supportive, nurturing communities and then offers members access to healing resources like training videos and self-hypnosis meditations, along with weekly group calls and access to her and her team.
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