Denied Love Does Not Make You Unlovable
"It's all in your mind."
You've heard that been said before and it's true.
Our identity is a mix of what we learned about the world, the meanings we attached to those experiences, as well as the emotions that naturally surfaced during particular instances, and the memories that were consolidated over time.
If you learned life was unpredictable, abuse was the norm, love was not a given, and that your body, mind, soul, heart, tears, cries, needs, wants and space were irrelevant, you may not understand that those experiences shaped your IDENTITY.
Not feeling worthy, good enough, seen, valued, understood, nurtured, wanted, loved, respected, appreciated are all experiences that have been stored in your memories. Over time, these memories become neurological pathways that stem from the innumerable ghostly doors that live in the subconscious mind.
These doors hold our boo boos; the ones that went unprocessed and ignored. Sadly, these unprocessed experiences shape our identity.
Because we have been denied love, we then identify with the idea that who we are is unlovable. As we grow, we step into the world as if this negative narrative is true.
Codependency is HOW this FALSE identity manifests.
What goes in comes out and Dear One that is NOT your fault.
Embrace your memories and then rebuke the identity they helped to create, unless you already know just how enough you truly are.
Lisa A. Romano is a Life Coach and Bestselling Author who specializes in Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse. She is the creator of The 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program. Lisa has a number of different online coaching programs that allow people to learn how to heal themselves of faulty childhood programming.
Lisa helps her clients understand the power of the subconscious mind, when activated through higher consciousness which gives rise to greater understanding of the ability to love the self completely.