Aug 25, 2020

Human beings can go an entire lifetime, unaware that...

by Lisa A. Romano

abuse childhood programming narcissistic programming self care self love

Human beings can go an entire lifetime, unaware that the thoughts that are flowing through our minds are all tied to what information, patterns, beliefs, and programs have been downloaded as a result of childhood experiences.

Childhood emotional neglect causes great trauma and many of us fail to recognize how being ignored, treated with indifference, and sometimes even with contempt, can cause us to become emotionally arrested without us even realizing this to be true. 

Don't worry too much, if you avoid feeling YOUR emotions. We all do. It is normal to avoid pain and in fact, our brain was designed to avoid it. BUT--we are MAGNIFICENT HUMAN BEINGS and we are extensions of INFINITE INTELLIGENCE, so that means, we are CREATORS and we can change our BRAINS! We can face our pain, change our brain, AND create a new, healthier paradigm. 

Codependents have been programmed to believe that what they feel, and what they need is unimportant. Childhood emotional neglect, as well as abuse and trauma, causes children to fear that they have no right to protect themselves, set boundaries, or even self-care. Codependency is rooted in taking care of and sometimes obsessing over the needs of others, while we ignore the needs of the self. Because as children, the adults in our lives failed to ATTUNE themselves to what was going on with us, we have failed to properly connect to the AUTHENTIC SELF--and this is NOT our fault. 

If you are on this path, I freaking SALUTE you--because on the road to recovery, it will take everything you've got to remember, it is not you--it is only your programming that needs to be fixed. 

The goal is PEACE.
The goal is LOVE.
The goal is SELF-EMPATHy.