May 25, 2018

Adult Children of Alcoholics--Learning How To Spot The Bullsh**

by Lisa A. Romano

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Any adult child of an alcoholic has heard, watched and believed enough B/S to last a lifetime. From excuses like, "I am not drunk. I just haven't had enough sleep lately," to "Your father isn't drunk. He's just really tired from working so hard" to a plethora of other comments, we children from denial based homes have the ability to spot a lie from one thousand yards.

On a vibrational level we knew when we were being lied to when we were four, and when someone is trying to bullsh** us now, we know it too. But the problem we adult children of alcoholics have is, we do not have the skills that allow us to deal with the lies, and the bullsh** appropriately. Many of us know we are being lied to, or deceived, but we do not know what to do about it when it is happening in the moment.

Here are a few tips I would like to share with you to help you be able to more readily take care of your inner self when you become aware that you are being abused by a liar who is essentially trying to emotionally manipulate your perception of your reality.

1.) Honor Your Gut Instincts

The next time your divine spiritual gut begins to stir in the pit of your Chakra System, honor it. Just say to yourself, "Hmm...thank you divine self for nudging me into the awareness that this person is trying to deceive me. Thank you for nudging me into a more awakened and heightened sense of awareness. Hmm...Thank you for allowing me the time to reflect so that I can place a boundary and be able to more readily tune into what they are trying not to say, rather than what they are trying to manipulate me into believing.

2.) Increase The Space Between You and The Manipulator

The next time your vibrational being begins to buzz so frantically that your internal vibrational gut is beginning to churn like a meat grinder--deliberately disengage from the liars position in space. Deliberately take a step back or turn to your side to break the vibrational connection the other person is trying to control between the two of you. By deliberately taking a physical action that symbolizes your desire to break any quantum entanglements you absolutely hinder and sometimes even block the other persons ability to hijack your quantum being. Disengaging on a quantum level, is enhanced by you taking control over your physical vibrational being by sidestepping the manipulator.

3.) Lock Your Eyes On Theirs

The next time your vibrational being signals to you that you are being lied to, lock your eyes on theirs. Regardless of how the manipulator looks down, to the side, and around, keep your gaze on theirs. If the manipulator looks down, keep your eyes fixed until the manipulator looks up again. If the manipulator looks to the side, have your eyes fixed and ready to begin the stare again. Stay firm in your stance. Try not to move, except to the side or to step back, all the while making it clear that you are in control of what information you are allowing to flow into your mind. When you make it clear that you are seeking clarity and that you are not afraid of what information is being revealed as well as not revealed, the energetic manipulator will begin to feel uncomfortable as the manipulation they are trying to send your way--is being repelled back into their energetic and vibrational space. When you repel their energy, they are unable to feed off of the energy that arises when they feel like they have confidently been able to deceive you. This incomplete dysfunctional energy loop will leave them feeling totally out of whack and out of sync.

4.) Rebuke The Information

When you have become aware that you have been lied to, deliberately say out loud, "I rebuke that information." By doing so you command your brain to delete any information the emotional/vibrational manipulator tried to program into your consciousness. By taking control over what information you allow to get inputed as data into your computer brain--you successfully learn how to own your own being. Overtime you will become the human lie detector you were born to be, and your trust in self will rise.

Essentially we adult children of alcoholics have spent a lifetime of being fed other people's negative bullish**. Because we have been taught to ignore what we feel, or because we have been ashamed of what we feel, we tend to attract people into our realities that are designed to deceive us, and feed us loads of nonsense. By arming ourselves deliberately, and by owning our own ability to use our divine instincts as the indicators and guidance systems they were designed to be, we finally learn how to take back control over our own vibrational beings.

In honor of all vibrationally deceived beings out there, past and present--this article is for you!


Lisa A. Romano

Coach For Life