Codependency and denial go hand in hand

When we are codependent, we are in denial of just how codependent we really are.

Codependency and denial go hand in hand. Unhappiness is our norm and taking care of other people offers us a false sense of security and control.

Codependency is also tied to powerlessness. As children, we were powerless to the whims, dysfunction, addictions, and emotional immaturity of the adults in our lives. To feel less out of control, we learned to deny our feelings, dissociate from our fears, and fawn, rescue or take care of others.

Detaching from the self felt better than trying to stay connected to what we were feeling. Detachment from our emotions became a way of life and to survive, we became hyperfocused on the needs of others.

Society, our parents, our culture, and maybe even our friends praised our selflessness. Denying our needs for the sake of others, seemed like the way to gain happiness.

Everything about this stream of dysfunctional consciousness is wrong.Self denial means I deny myself self love, self care, self compassion, rest, a balanced diet, and a right to say NO!

Self denial means I live my life as an extension of other people's chaotic, irresponsible, and sometimes downright abusive behavior.

Codependency recovery relies on my ability to detach from faulty beliefs and from irresponsible others so that I can find the ability to HEAR the whispers of my own essence until this essence's voice is the dominant voice in my head.

It takes time to dissolve the language and behavioral patterns that have kept us in bondage for so long, but the path towards the LIGHT is so worth every effort it takes to reclaim our personal power.

Be brave enough to work towards becoming codependent no more!All my love,Lisa