Can I Fully Heal from Codependency?
by Lisa A. Romano
As a codependency recovery coach, I am often asked if it is possible to fully recover from codependency. The answer is yes, but it takes time, effort, and a commitment to consciousness. In this blog, we will explore emotional neglect as a root cause of codependency and how healing the inner child can help you fully recover.
Emotional Neglect as a Root Cause
Emotional neglect is a form of childhood trauma that can lead to codependency. When a child's emotional needs are unmet, they learn to suppress their feelings and fawn after approval to avoid the pain of abandonment. This faulty childhood subconscious programming can lead to a lifetime of seeking validation and approval from others.
Learning to Look Within
To fully recover from codependency, learning to look within and accept the truth is essential. This means acknowledging your feelings and taking responsibility for your happiness. It also means learning to set boundaries and say no when necessary. Codependency resources you can use to help you heal depend on what resonates most with you. if you are new to learning about what codependency is, and you are wondering if you are codependent, I highly recommend reading books like Codependent No More by Mellody Beattie, and Healing the Shame that Binds you by John Bradshaw to familiarize yourself with codependency.
Learning to Do Family of Origin Work
Family of origin work is a crucial step in codependency recovery. It involves examining the patterns and dynamics of your family of origin and how they have influenced your behavior. Understanding these patterns allows you to break free from them and create healthier relationships. Dear One, you can't fix a hole in the wall you can't see. Being willing to be more objective about how you were raised opens the door to developing compassion for your inner child. Learning to embrace your inner child's wounds, instead of continuing to run from them is key.
Learning to Feel Your Authentic Feelings
Codependents often struggle to identify and express their authentic feelings. Children who have learned to suppress their authentic emotions to avoid the pain of Learning to feel your emotions and healthily express them is essential for codependency recovery. This involves learning to identify your emotions, express them in a healthy way, and validate your own feelings.
Learning to Heal the Inner Child
Healing the inner child is a crucial step in codependency recovery. This involves identifying and healing the wounds from childhood that have contributed to codependency. You can learn to love and accept yourself by healing the inner child, which is essential for healthy relationships. When you understand the importance of stopping running from the past and learning the skills you need to stretch your capacity to tolerate the uncomfortable emotions of the past, you are literally teaching your inner child that they matter!
Fully recovering from codependency is possible, but it takes patience, self-awareness, compassion, and a commitment to consciousness. By addressing emotional neglect as a root cause, learning to look within, doing family-of-origin work, learning to feel your authentic feelings, and healing the inner child, you can break free from codependency and create healthier relationships. Remember, healing is a journey, not a destination.