Sep 17, 2020

Honoring the Self

by Lisa A. Romano

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Honoring the Self

When we don't honor the self, we are disconnecting from our true source of power.

As children, we honored our parents and believed in whatever we were taught, felt and experienced. If we felt unloved, we believed that meant we were unlovable. We did not know it was possible to be objective or to see our parents as 'wrong'.

As adults, we eventually learn that what happens in childhood repeats in adulthood. Like a reflection to our past, what we saw and learned to believe we tend to see and believe outside of us as adults.

On the road to recovery, healing codependency and narcissistic abuse, we learn to be more objective about who we think we are, or who we have been taught to think we are.

Learning to honor yourself is a process of self-actualization. It means we are willing to peek into Pandora's box like a detective looks for clues, rather than reacting to the instinctive emotional impulse to run, hide, deny, eat, or react.
If you are learning to honor the self, take a deep breath and give yourself a round of applause.

Be prepared -- you may discover the world you lived in was an illusion and all you ever had to do was believe in yourself a little bit more each and every day.

The Hologram

Like it or not, the world is holographic in nature. What we learned and absorbed in childhood becomes our vibrational set point and mental outlook. If we grew up feeling unworthy of love, that becomes our mindset and impacts every area of our life until we awaken to the truth. 


There is No Rescue Boat Coming


We all spend a certain amount of time fantasizing and lying to ourselves about the day our life will change. Sadly, most of us are waiting until someone ELSE does the rescuing for us. The truth is, there is no rescue boat coming and although we can work with trauma therapists, coaches, and find support groups, at the end of the day, we all need to ACT on what we learn if our lives are ever going to improve. That might not be fair, considering the idea that being born to dysfunctional childhood homes is not our fault, it won't change the facts. 

Nothing change until we change it. 

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Lisa A. Romano is a Certified Life Coach, bestselling author, podcaster, online training facilitator, and YouTube Vlogger specializing in codependency and narcissistic abuse recovery. She is also one of the most listened to meditation teachers on the world’s largest meditation app Insight Timer.  Lisa’s podcast Breakdown to Breakthrough can be found on any podcasting platform.  
 Lisa's work helps awaken people to the idea that what is wrong is not them, it is only their programming. Her 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program takes members through three months of online video training, meditations, and journaling assignments, that have been designed to help awaken them to their true selves. Those who participate in this online training, are those who demand more out of the lives today, in spite of any painful past.  They are people who have a deep desire to understand how to connect with the power that lies within. Lisa teaches people how to clear away the limiting beliefs, perceptions, and habits of behavior that have been preventing them from harnessing their ability to control their thoughts, emotions, behaviors and destinies.  Healing is as much a neurological, cognitive, emotional and spiritual experience and Lisa’s approach encompasses them all.  To learn more, you can visit