May 25, 2018

Adult Children of Alcoholics--LOVE THY SELF

by Lisa A. Romano

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This post is dedicated to Vladmir, a loyal reader and ACoA in Russia;

Yes Vladimir, it is up to our parents to love us unconditionally so that we the innocent beings are able to integrate mind, body and soul--but when we are born to people who are unaware they themselves have a self--and instead are reactive--there is no way they will ever be able to instill in us the secure sense of self we need to mature emotionally.

 

Unfortunately we the children of the self absorbed--FEEL rejected--and presume that the reason we are being unseen--is because WE are ill--or wrong--or inept....

They only secret ever--is YOU....

In reality--we do not need our parents to love us unconditionally--not really--because we are ENOUGH--at our core--even if no one ever validates us...Each of us--is a seed--of God--we are all One...not only with all that is--but with mankind...We are all brothers and sisters--its just--that some of us--know that--some of us don't--some of us want to know our truth--and some of us don't--some of us really really care about discovering the secrets to life--and some of us don't...

This is a free will zone--so that means--every individual has the right to live their life as they choose--even if what they choose does not serve their higher good--or their children's higher good...it is sad--but true.

My goal?

To understand that no matter what messages I internalized as a child--I AM ENOUGH DAMN IT! AND I ALWAYS WAS--AND THAT IN SPITE OF HOW IN DENIAL MY PARENTS ARE--I CHOOSE LOVE--LOVE--LOVE--LOVE...I CHOOSE TO LOVE ME--MY CHILDREN--MY HUSBAND--THE GRASS--THE SKY--THE CLOUDS--THE OCEANS--STRANGERS--GOOD AND BAD--ADVERSITY--JOY--DEFEAT--TRIUMPH--I CHOOSE TO LOVE IT ALL...

And I hope I have inspired you to do the same...

Love cures ALL...but but but--all Love starts with Self Love...

Namaste Vladmir--thank you for showing your appreciation for my work...