We ALL have the right to live happily and have meaningful lives.
by Lisa A. Romano
Life changes are difficult for everyone. When we are faced with confronting our addictions, failed marriages, troubled children, or we are told we are facing a major health crisis, in most cases, many of us realize something (although we may not know what) has to change.
All those times we drank, popped a pill, had sex, argued, or fell asleep, instead of listening to our divine inner guidance leads us to places in our life where the pain has become so excruciating we burn out. Our once smiley codependent, people pleasing dispositions have been buried by all the stuffing and denying we have done for the sake of not rocking the boat. And it's not that we don't want to rock the boat as much as it is we don't know what to do when we actually do rock the boat.
One of the reasons I feel so compelled to speak out on behalf of all the silent abused adult children of the world is because I simply do not think it is fair that those of us who have been denied healthy coping skills, meaningful life lessons, and who have been abandoned in some way by the very people who were supposed to take care of them, lose out on creating the types of destinies we deserve. We ALL have the right to live happily and have meaningful lives. BUT, when your subconscious programming has you reacting instead of taking action on your destinies behalf, you cannot create. You can only ruminate, recreate, rinse, recycle, and repeat your pasts.
On the road back to me, I figured out that no matter what has happened to us in our childhoods, within us is the power to change our lives and our destinies. Yep! You possess the power to change no different than anyone else on this planet--BUT you MUST CHANGE in order to CHANGE your world.
I know, I know, I know....of course you want to change and of course you would change if you knew how. And that is why it is so important that we all firmly get it through our heads sooner than later that our mothers, fathers, siblings, spouses, bosses, employees, and friends are not going to change for us. However, when WE change, we change the world.
Once you stop expecting the emotionally blind and the spiritually deaf to hear, you can finally get on with your own life. Nope, this is not easy work. To change, you will be asked to alter your own neural wiring. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? This IS the absolute most challenging and meaningful work anyone could ever do.
To change you need two major mindset shifts.
1) You must be humble enough and willing enough to change.
2) You must be willing to use self-control as you change.
Sounds simple right? Nope...
The more self-responsible and self-accountable you can become, the more authentic your life shall become!