Jun 18, 2019

Are You Codependent? 10 Signs Your Might be

by Lisa A. Romano

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10 Signs You Might be Codependent

  1. You stay in unsatisfying relationships even though you know you should end them.
  2. You tend to be a people-pleaser and rarely worry about your own needs.
  3. You over give and yet you attract people who under deliver or who generally take rather than consider others.
  4. You find yourself feeling the need to fix or rescue others. 
  5. You worry way too much about what other people think about you.
  6. You struggle to set boundaries and you generally feel pushed around by those with strong personalities. 
  7. Your parents were alcoholics, narcissists, abusive, and or emotionally neglectful. 
  8. You don't know what you want or what might make you happy.
  9. No matter how much you give or do you never quite feel like you have done enough or that you are enough. 
  10. Your sense of value comes from doing for others or taking care of other people 

What is Codependency?

Codependency is not easy to describe because it is so multifaceted and it can involve nearly any part of our lives. We can become codependent upon others, to things, and even to ideas. 

People without codependency are independent, have high self-esteem, tend to their own needs, and are able to set healthy boundaries. Their sense of self is not reliant on what others think of them, what they look like,  or how much money they make. People who are self-loving and who are not shame-based like so many codependents tend to be, are autonomous and do not need to gain their value from outside of themselves.

Those of us who struggle with codependency, on the contrary, have learned to believe our value lies outside of ourselves. We do not believe we are enough. Below the veil of consciousness, we act to gain other people's approval through a variety of ways. Sometimes we fawn, people-please, rescue, and fix others all in the hopes that in doing so, maybe one day we might be enough. It is not uncommon for codependent people to lie for irresponsible friends and spouses. We will put ourselves in all sorts of unhealthy and even dangerous situations for the sake of possibly gaining approval.

Codependency Recovery is possible. 

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