You Are Enough

If it is true that energy and matter can neither be created nor destroyed--then that means that at the exact moment of the Big Bang--all that would ever be--already was--and that includes you and me.

On my usual and routine hour long drive to work yesterday morning I was struck by the brilliance of the moon--as well as the thought above.

Along my road to emotional recovery there have been many times where I have wanted to dig my heels into the mud and exclaim, "This shit ain't fair, and somebody out there owes me." But as I continued along my journey I eventually pulled my wet emotional diapers off, and learned to accept that the world didn't owe me anything.

Although learning to let go of blaming others for why I felt so crappy was not an easy thing to do, in hindsight it was the most crucial step of my recovery. Standing in defiance of self reliance--never works out. Health is not possible without self responsibility as well as self accountability.

It still amazes me to ponder the...

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Adult Child of Alcoholic STOP-LISTEN-ACT-The Invisible Child Abuse

As a Life Coach for Adult Children of Alcoholics, I am so thankful for all of my clients faith and trust in me. Because of the work I do with them, I am afforded the opportunity to craft concepts and formulas that truly help transform their old ways of thinking.

I never get tired of saying:

  • that the brain is a computer
  • baby brains are the most absorbable of information
  • babies and children born to alcoholics--are absorbing corrupt data
  • brains can only run on the programs that have been inputed into them
  • by the time a being is an adolescent-he/she is out in the world living off that corrupt data
  • alcoholics-live in denial-below the veil of consciousness-children live above the veil of consciousness-in real time-mind, body and soul
  • children of alcoholics-feel the gap between mom and dad
  • the gap is cold and void of emotional connection
  • the lack of authentic connection to mom and dad creates a psychic wound
  • the wound imprints the child with the feeling that they are unlovable and...
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Adult Children of Alcoholics--Stats You Will NOT Believe

According to Addiction Treatment Magazine's Article:

Alcoholism is a scourge that affects all members of the family, not just the alcoholic. The damage is pernicious and inescapable, and has long-term negative consequences for all concerned. An estimated 27.8 million children in the United States are affected by or exposed to a family alcohol problem – and preliminary research suggests that more than 11 million of them are under the age of 18. These numbers do not include children who are affected by or exposed to other drug problems. What happens to these children as they grow up? Are they doomed to repeat the pattern of alcohol abuse they see in their alcoholic parent? Or are they fighting to be free?

Crime and Violence

Incest and battering are common in alcoholic families. An estimated 30 percent of father-daughter incest cases and 75 percent of domestic violence cases involve a family member who is an alcoholic. COAs are more likely to become targets of family abuse...

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Adult Children of Alcoholics--We Are As Sick As Our Alcoholics :(

Post is dedicated to the incredible Robin Williams. Thank you for the laughter you brought to the world. And I am sorry, you never quite found the words or the ideas you needed to change your world Dear One...

Lisa A. Romano

ACoA Life Coach

 

On the road to recovery, there have been many twists and turns.

Awareness is as inspiring as it is gut wrenching.

Coming into the understanding that in all my enabling, care-taking, denying, ignoring, justifying, pacifying, complaining, and martyrdom indicated that I was just as sick as the people I thought I was in someway smarter and more moral than, made me feel like I was being torn in two.

As one part of my invisible self began to resonate at a higher vibration, at same time there felt as if humility was in some way dragging me lower than I had ever been before.

Coming through the birth canal of transition and evolution, I can now appreciate how necessary my need for hitting emotional rock bottom was to my total recovery. But at the...

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Adult Children--How Our Pain Helps Us Transcend to Higher Vibrations

Saturday January 10th, 2015 at 6:30 p.m. EST, broadcasting live with questions and answers from callers, Lisa A. Romano.

If you are the adult child of an alcoholic, or narcissist; if you have grown up feeling like you were never enough; if you fear your feelings--or have been taught that what you think does not matter--please consider calling in to ask Lisa any personal questions you might have.

This will be a live broadcast, and all are welcome to listen and call in.

Namaste!

We Are One!

Please Share Dear Ones!

Adult Children--How Our Pain Helps Us Transcend to Higher Vibrations 01/10 by Lisa A Romano ACoA Life Coach | Relationships Podcasts

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Tele Class for Adult Children of Alcoholics 3/7/15-4/4/15 Reserve Your Spot Dear Ones!

Namaste Dear Ones!

I 'see' YOU, I 'hear' YOU, and I can 'feel' you!

If you are the adult child of an alcoholic, or if you are the adult child of a narcissist, of if you are unsure of your parent's emotional issue, and you believe you have been raised by dysfunctional beings, know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

However, I know--you may absolutely 'feel and believe' you are alone.

Dear One, the key to healing is found in the very aspects of our selves that we have been conditioned, programmed and brainwashed to deny, suppress, repress and be ashamed of.

Yes!

We have absorbed our parents negative, dark energies.

How?

Through the law of vibration and through consistent mirroring of dysfunction--we have been pulled out of alignment with our very core--which is divinely positive and abundant.

Now what?

All is not lost Dear One. Learning the keys to recovery is all it takes to begin learning how to become more in alignment with your core nature.

In this tele class we will be tackling the very...

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Why Do Codependents Attract Narcissistic Type Personalities

Codependents have been brainwashed to believe that their feelings, wants, needs, and desires do not count.

As children, many of us were taught to stuff our emotions. Rocking the boat pissed the adults in our lives off--so stuff we did.

What we could never have known then is, that all that stuffing of negative energy--actually caused energetic roots to grow from our root chakras--into the time and place where we were receiving those emotional injuries.

To compound the issue of traumatic roots, because this is a like attracting universe--our need for outer validation--attracts others who need to be able to control the mind and hearts of others for their own immature ego gratification.

 Wounded codependents attract beings who have sadly learned to get their needs met through the conquering or the controlling of others. Codependents similarly get their immature needs met by catering to others.

These two equally immature mentally, emotionally and spiritual beings attract one...

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