As many of you know, my mom recently passed away on my birthday early in March. She had been battling dementia since suffering a prefrontal lobe stroke over five years ago. I am sure many of you can imagine, how difficult it can be to lose a mother, not once, but many times over.
On the road to recovery, many of us undoubtedly end up asking ourselves, "What's this all about anyway? Why the hell have I been born? Why the heck is there so much human suffering? I mean, what's the point of being born?"
As I began to become more aware of what was really happening in my life and I understood that for many years I was simply asleep, I found myself recycling back to the question, "Why are we all here?" It seemed the more conscious I became the more deeply I needed to understand the divine purpose for human creation at it's core.
As adult children from dysfunctional homes, many of us do not even realize just how wounded we truly are. Because we have ridiculously high threhholds for pain, we do not always consciously comprehend how dank our energy bodies are. Many of us have been living in such deep states of survival for so long, we are unaware our emotional set point is one that has us unknowingly avoiding pain rather than seeking joy in our lives. Because so many of us were taught that our needs were unimportant, we no longer seek guidance from within, and so we wind up settling for what shows up.
It is not uncommon for adult children of alcoholics to attract energy beings who are very similar to their parents. It is quite common in fact for adult children to attract alcoholics as partners and to have children with drug and alcoholc issues. I hear some wondering, "But how could this be? I did not drink, and I hated my father who was an alcoholic.
Adult Children of Alcoholics have been denied a childhood. Because our lives have been so tattered with emotional neglect, we do not feel seen psychologically. As a result we struggle today with feelings of low self worth. We wonder secretly, "Who am I? What do I deserve? Am I good enough?"
Healing ourselves requires us to be as open and honest to our personal truth, regardless of whom our personal truth disappoints.
As an ACoA we often find ourselves wrapped in turmoil. Listen in as ACoA Life Coach Lisa A. Romano, author of several bestselling books describes how it is we unaware ACoA's create drama in our lives. "Until we are able to understand that our decisions, determine our destiny--we will always be stuck in victim mode--thinking and falsely believing we are powerless over our lives. It is a very difficult thing to accept that we are creating our own reality--when our realities hurt so much."
If you are the adult child of an alcoholic--that means that you did not learn how to think 'well/healthy or appropriately' as a child. How could you? Your parents were inebriated--and or in denial about being inebriated.
Are you cycling in and out of unhealthy relationships? Do you easily get sucked into other people's drama's?
Because this is an attraction based universe, and becasue thoughts create things--we wounded adult children of alcoholics and adults from dysfunctional homes--may not be aware--that by the very nature of the universe--we are attracting what we know.
If all that we know--is the result of dysfunction--then how can we ever hope to attract healthy circumstances into our lives?
If the very core of our belief systems are dysfunctional--then all that we think must be a bit skewed.