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As adult children from dysfunctional homes, many of us do not even realize just how wounded we truly are. Because we have ridiculously high threhholds for pain, we do not always consciously comprehend how dank our energy bodies are. Many of us have been living in such deep states of survival for so long, we are unaware our emotional set point is one that has us unknowingly avoiding pain rather than seeking joy in our lives. Because so many of us were taught that our needs were unimportant, we no longer seek guidance from within, and so we wind up settling for what shows up.

It is not uncommon for adult children of alcoholics to attract energy beings who are very similar to their parents. It is quite common in fact for adult children to attract alcoholics as partners and to have children with drug and alcoholc issues. I hear some wondering, "But how could this be? I did not drink, and I hated my father who was an alcoholic.

Ever wonder we nice people who have been abused most of our lives, tend to attract narcissists later on in life, and sometimes throughout our lifetimes?

Sadly enough, we fixers attract people who we see as needing to be loved. Codependents settle for being needed, and often times lack a point of self--and so attract people who are controlling, who ultimately give them direction in life. Unfortunately, narcissists are takers, and the direction they give to codependents is one that is all about 'them'--the narcissist.


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