Lisa is a powerful, direct, poignant and inspired writer. In this book, she allows us to take the journey from dysfunctional co-dependent married partner to single, empowered and forward thinking mom of three. I'd read Lisa's first book, The Road Back To Me, and wanted to know what would happen to her during this point in her personal evolution. What a spiritual and emotional ride she's been on!
I read this book first before I read the author's first book, The Road Back To Me. I loved this book also! I recommend this book to everyone! I have never been married but have been in a long-term relationship. I think we all can relate to this story. It is enjoyable to read, another book I didn't want to put down. The author puts into words her experiences and feelings so creatively that you just become so absorbed with her story. It evokes your emotions and gets you thinking about your own life experiences!
From the Author
My first book The Road Back To Me ends immediately where My Road Beyond The Codependent Divorce picks up.
My family and I are about to have one of our last meals together. I am filled with deep anxiety. My marriage is over. I can feel its final breaths breathing heavily down the back of my neck. My body has been failing for years. Unresolved marital issues as well as codependent programming and conditioning from childhood are to blame, but of course no one I love can validate this truth. I am expected to deny my Self and to stay in a marriage that is quite literally choking the life out of me.
Raised by two adult children of alcoholics, my childhood programming has conditioned me to care more about what others need than what I need. Unknowingly, I built a marriage on illusions. Taught to cater to the needs of others in my life, it was the norm for me to deny Self--to ignore my feelings--and to pretend to be happy when I was not. Years into my marriage, denial has me by the throat. I am plagued with dis-ease, and I have come to recognize that my codependent upbringing is at the root of my woes.
My husband thinks I am crazy and he is not timid about telling me so. My three small children are terrified. Their lives are being torn apart. Their mommy no longer laughs on cue, or caters to daddy's tantrums. The glass house I help build is crashing to the ground and my children's mother is holding the sledge hammer.
I am not crazy, but I am codependent.
Time is running out. My body is failing due to the chronic stress my codependent belief systems have caused. I am lost. I have no connection to Self. I am slipping into an emotional abyss, and my family of origin has sided with my husband. The road ahead is unknown. Going through with a divorce means letting go of the dysfunctional familiar. I am filled with fear, but I am aware I have no choice.
If I stay--I die.
I wrote My Road Beyond The Codependent Divorce with the hopes of providing inspiration for others who might be struggling with similar codependent issues to mine. It is difficult enough to be codependent and in a marriage, but it is quite another to try and leave one.
May this book comfort you, and fill you with healthy expectation.
Healing is possible. Awareness is the key.
Lisa A. Romano
- File Size: 375 KB
- Print Length: 257 pages
- Simultaneous Device Usage: Unlimited
- Publisher: BalboaPress (October 26, 2012)
- Publication Date: October 26, 2012
- Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
- Language: English
- ASIN: B009ZUKPTC
- Text-to-Speech: Enabled
- X-Ray: Not Enabled
- Word Wise: Not Enabled
- Lending: Enabled
- Enhanced Typesetting: Enabled
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #263,365 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
- #487 in Books > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Addiction & Recovery > Alcoholism